Buying Another House!

[Janet]

I've decided to buy my Mom's house. I've been wanting it, but just thought it was because of memories. It is of course, but I will be able to pay for it with my inheritance. I plan to put it in my and Ricky's name and hopefully be able to retire there. Our house and land willl be just too much for me to take care of so if I can find as wonderful of renters that we have for the other house... it will be a blessing.

[gja1000]

That is excellent Janet! Maybe just maybe there will come a day when YOU can live there (alone). I was thinking that might be a solution to your unhappy marital situation.

[Tiramisu]

I was hoping you'd find a way to do that and I think it's great.

[Blueyes]

Congratulations Janet! I agree with what Gayle said. You may love to live in it alone one day:)

I live in the house my mom and dad lived in for the last 7 years of their lives. After mom died, Mike and I decided to sell our house and move in with my dad because he was so lonely. He had a stroke and died before we could get moved in, but we bought it anyway because I didn't want to disappoint the young couple we had agreed to sell our house to. Everybody thought I was crazy to live here right after they both died, but it didn't bother me in the least. There are nothing but happy memories here, and it didn't bother me to redecorate because I knew my mom would want me to make it my own. This is the oldest, smallest house I have lived in in 35 years, but I love it here:D

I'm sooo happy for you!

[JJJ]

I think it's a wonderful idea Janet.

[Lindsey]

Congratulations Janet! I'm glad you were able to do this too. Like others have said, it may be a way out for you as well.

[Janet]

Thanks everyone....It makes me feel a little more secure about my future now. I had wanted it, but thought it was because I am still grieving. I thought I was just trying to hang on to everything and I really can't do that. I need to let things go, I've kept enough of Mom's things. Then.....I had to show the house to people last night and I was in a near panic at the thought of someone else owning it. So...took the sign down and I'm getting it.

It was strange that I kept looking at Mom's pictures to see her smile because I couldn't invision it in my mind....after I made the decision last night, I could see Mom smile like she was standing next to me. It was such a great feeling.

[DianaB]

I think that's a great idea too. You could always sell it later if you change your mind. Hopefully you'll find some good renters for it!! Congratulations!!!

[gja1000]

Thanks everyone....It makes me feel a little more secure about my future now. I had wanted it, but thought it was because I am still grieving. I thought I was just trying to hang on to everything and I really can't do that. I need to let things go, I've kept enough of Mom's things. Then.....I had to show the house to people last night and I was in a near panic at the thought of someone else owning it. So...took the sign down and I'm getting it.

It was strange that I kept looking at Mom's pictures to see her smile because I couldn't invision it in my mind....after I made the decision last night, I could see Mom smile like she was standing next to me. It was such a great feeling.

Yep, your mom wants you to have that house. And I don't think at all that it is you are wanting to hang on to the memories, I truly thought you should buy the house for YOUR FUTURE, even before you mentioned it. I didn't realize you would have enough inheritance to buy it so with that, it seems a no brainer!!!

[Janet]

I think you're right Gayle. I haven't felt this good and so at peace since Mom passed. I feel like now....I'm going to be okay. Does that make sense? I love this feeling.

[DianaB]

Good!!!

[JJJ]

I think you're right Gayle. I haven't felt this good and so at peace since Mom passed. I feel like now....I'm going to be okay. Does that make sense? I love this feeling.

Big hugs to you Janet. I'm glad your starting to feel better. Six months after my grandma passed away I fell under a depression. And then one day I had that good feeling everything would be ok.

[Janet]

I suffer from depression anyway so I've had to really fight hard for myself. I went to the lawyer's office today to find out what I have to do to buy the house and she will print out two consent forms for my brothers to sign (and they will) and take the deed to her and then she'll make a new one and then it's mine. She didn't say, but I think I won't have to worry about paying for it until the inheritance comes in. If not, we have an equity line of credit so I can use that and then pay it back.
I'm so excited to be able to own my childhood home. No one else has ever lived in it except for my parents. It was built in 1944 I think or '45. I have pictures of it right after it was built. I'll try to remember to take some pictures of the inside of it so you all can see how small it is.. :)

[DianaB]

I didn't realize that your parents built the house......or did they just buy it new?? That's so cool!! Of course it would be hard to have it pass to anyone else!!!

It's amazing that you and your three siblings grew up in such a small house.......but then again that's how things were back them. I shared a room with my little brother until I was in the thrid or fourth grade and then we added a family room and bedroom onto our house. I'm always sentimental about the houses I've lived in.

[Janet]

That's me...too sentimental. Yes Diana...this group was building what is called the Kramer Addition. Most of the houses on the street are identical or very close. Mom and Dad bought it while it was being built. I just can't tell you all how thrilled I am that it's going to be mine. I hope it's a good thing I haven't cried for a couple of days now, I just feel really good.

[gja1000]

I'm sure it's a good thing!

[Blueyes]

No wonder you are so attached to the house! I'm so glad it's yours, now!

[judy]

This is wonderful, Janet! Your own place, where you grew up, less to take care of, and wonderful memories!

I'm so glad you feel good about all of this!

[JJJ]

Well goodness Janet that is your house. Theirs no way anyone else can live in their.

[Janet]

When I went to the lawyers office today to take the appraisal in to them, the secretary asked how I wanted it titled. I asked her if it was a good idea to have my son on it with mine and she said "no". That if something should happen that he would default on loans, file bankruptcy that the house could be taken away. That it would be better if I just willed it to him. I had them put it in my name only. I know that if Rick and I should ever divorce, he could fight me for 1/2 of the house, but there are other things I could give up if it comes to that.

[Shada]

I am so happy for you!!
I think it is awesome that you will always have your childhood home.

[DianaB]

That would be really dirty to take away something that was an inheritance. Hopefully it won't ever come to that.

[Janet]

I hope not either Diana. I'm just feeling so much better since I know the house is mine.

[judy]

You will take care of that, if it ever comes to pass, Janet. You can arrange it so that, rather than just giving him other things, you can buy out his half of your Mom's house with these other things. This way, he could never reopen that.

[Janet]

I went in town this morning to do my banking and stop by Mom's to see if there was any mail. Most of it comes here, but a few still slip through. As soon as walk in, I get such a good feeling. I just wanted to share that. It just makes me happy!

[DianaB]

Cool!!!

[Blueyes]

You'll have to get used to calling it "Janet's House". I'm so glad it makes you happy :)

[Janet]

I know Betsi....it just seems strange not to call it Mom's house. Sure wish I could afford to go in and change the carpet, but that will have to wait. It's been in the house a long time, but Mom has always taken care of things so when my sister-in-law shampooed it a while back, it came out looking so clean and bright.