Something's Up With Hubby

[Janet]

During supper last night and most other times with he eats, Rick belches through the whole meal. It's very disturbing for others to listen to while eating and it's worse for Rick. At least once every couple of weeks, he has to get up during the meal and vomit. Then he comes back and finishes eating. (not sure I could do that)

I told him last night (because the latest episode was last night) that he really needed to see a Dr. to find out why this happens. He also informed me he has had diarrhea for the last three weeks.

What in the world is wrong with him???? This is what upsets me all the time. He would rather complain instead of going to the Dr. so he could feel better. I know his health isn't the greatest, but he doesn't share much about that. It's been 5 years since he quit smoking and sometimes of a morning he still coughs like he's a smoker.

I told him I wasn't going to tell him to go to the Dr. again, that if he wanted to be miserable fine, but don't make me miserable at the same time. Sounds cold, but if he's not willing to do something about it, then he needs to quit acting like a poor sick victim.

[JJJ]

Sounds serious, you think if you set an appointment for him he will then go?

That is not good.

[Janet]

No way...he'd just get mad and drink more.

[gja1000]

His GI tract is irritated for some reason. When you described the belching and periodic vomiting, that sounds like the sphincter at the top of the stomach where it attaches to the esophagus is loose (sometimes happens when we get older) which causes him to belch and vomit. But the diarrhea should not be related to that. Sometimes the colon goes whacko when something else is wrong in the body. It's a stress reaction, I think. When Gary first got sick with a lung fungus and heart failure, he had diarrhea for 6 months and lost 50 lbs (not all related to the diarrhea though). They ran every test known to man at least twice and never found out what was wrong. We finally got it stopped with massive amounts of yogurt with live cultures. Trying yogurt with live cultures or those yogurt drinks with live cultures couldn't hurt in Ricks case. I think walmart has some of those little bottles of yogurt drinks (its not yacult, the cheaper one has a different name but its in those same little tiny bottles) at a reasonable price. Id have him drink two of those bottles a day. Also belching and vomitimng sounds like it might be an ulcer which can sometimes cause diarrhea too.

[Janet]

Thanks for the info Gayle, I will definitely tell what you've mentioned so maybe he'll go to the Dr. I really think part of the reason he doesn't go is fear. This doesn't sound so horrible, so maybe he'll go.

[gja1000]

Fear is very powerful and if I don't go to the doctor I won't find out something is really wrong, and it may work. He may not go and this will all resolve on its own. But it may not and it may turn into something worse, and if he'd only gone to the dr. in a timely manner it would have been better. I understand and I see I a lot.

[DianaB]

Men can be so stubborn......I know that my husband is. And making them go to the doctor only makes them dig their heels in further! I hope by telling Ricky what Gayle has to say will help him go and find out what's wrong. Sorry.

[DIANE W]

My husband Dave, is different, he always asks me what the problem could be, and then i have to say - I dont know, go to the Dr. He will then go, if i think he needs to. He needs lots of assurance that all is well... he is a bit of a baby - good job he never reads this:D
I am very matter of fact, if i have a problem, i go and get it looked at, without major issue.

[Janet]

Rick has decided that he is stopping at Wal Mart after work and see if he can find the Yogurt drinks Gayle mentioned. Heaven help him to take the time to go to the Dr. Hopefully for his sake it wil work and that will be the end of it, if not...I can't tell him what to do, nor do I want to.

[Janet]

He found the yogurt drinks and complains like a child because he can't stand the taste. I get so tired of hearing him. I told him if he didn't stop it I was throwing the rest in the trash...grrrrr!

[gja1000]

Oh dear, the ones I get taste good (to me). They taste like orange cream. Oh and ALL OF US taking the GERD medicine should be drinking them, because the GERD meds kill many of the good intestinal bacteria, and so we should be drinking these yogurt drinks with live cultures to replace the bacteria we need for digestion and absorption of things like calcium.

[JJJ]

I buy the Mexican ones that taste like strawberries. I buy them at Walmart too.

I also buy a drink from Kroger that taste like a smoothie. It's in the Soy and Rice milk section. I don't remember what is called and I'm out of it so can't check my refrigerator. But it's good for intestines. Just make sure he drinks it 14 days from opening the carton. You can just tell him you made him the smoothie and he will never know it's a probiotic drink :D

[Janet]

I figure he's old enough to know how to get what tastes good and throw out the ones that don't. He's such a pain. I have enough running to do without trying to figure out if he'll like one or another. Sorry I sound so horrible, but he irritates me to death. That's why I am so for Diana's daughter letting Damon go or she'll end up living a life like mine. I should have left a long time ago.

[gja1000]

Janet, there's nothing better than the voice of experience. I knew how the problems with Damon would turn out and so did you. I hope Dae Lynn doesn't cave in. She's in for a lifetime of heartache if she does.

[Janet]

You're right Gayle and I would hate that for Dae Lynn. I had the pleasure of meeting her and she is one of those people you immediately like. I honestly can't wait to see her again AND her Mom.

[DianaB]

Any time, Janet, Any time!!! As I've said before I think that Dae Lynn's done. She knows that things are never going to change. If he can't tell the truth about smoking and other little things then he's never going to tell the truth on the big things. And actually she's doing very well with her decision. She knew that this was going to happen. She just had to give him one more chance.

Sorry that Rick's being a baby about the yogurt. Men can be such babies!!!!

[DianaB]

Is Rick feeling any better?

[Janet]

I don't think so. He bought a pack of I think 6-8 small bottles and there are only 3 missing. Really gave that a chance. Plus, I was reading the package and it says nothing about live cultures. So...it will probably end up being thrown out. He still belches all the time, still drinking, and still coughing his fool head off of a morning.

I've given up...until it bothers him enough to go to the Dr. he'll just have to put up with it. It's been very strange for me. I've watched him walk in the yard and he walks like a really old man. I did tell him he needed to go for a really good physical and blood work. I'll just wait and see if he does it. It's his life.

Thank you for asking.

[judy]

I hope he has the sense to get himself checked out.

[Gina]

Janet I hope that he does go to a dr. There is a idiom that says it all.

You can take lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink! so true!

[Janet]

So true Gina.....and he's the horse in this house!! LOL

[Gina]

LOL Janet I have a horse too!

[DianaB]

Why are men so stubborn? I know that Glen's hard to get to go to the doctor too.

[Janet]

I don't know why they are like that, but it sure is annoying.

[Janet]

Just letting you all know that he's still belching and making all those icky stomach noises and "no"...he hasn't seen a Dr. So, when he comes to the living room, I listen to the gross noises for a few minutes and then head to my room to watch TV. We don't like watching the same thing so it's no big deal.

[gja1000]

Yuk, but as long as you have a way to tolerate it, then I guess it's his body and he can do as he pleases. Men are so like that, to just ignore problems till it comes to a crisis. Does he have any life insurance? LOL!

[Janet]

You're so right Gayle. I've given up telling him he should see a Dr. It's his life....and yes, life insurance is good and paid up....lol.

[DianaB]

I don't understand why men have to be so difficult when it comes to going to the doctor!! The men I know are the same way. Amy's husband was waking up at night and couldn't breathe......he'd be beating his chest so he could take a breath!! FINALLY after a really scary night he went to the doctor. After a sleep study they have determined that he has a REALLY BAD sleep problem!!!??????........That was last week and they are STILL waiting for the doctor to call for an appointment to let him know what's going on!! Jason was really, really bad and still waited to go the doctor!! MEN!!!!!!

[Blueyes]

OMG! My very first thought was that I hope he has lots of life insurance:eek:

Janet, Mike and I don't watch TV together or sleep in the same room. No big problems, we just don't watch the same shows and our sleeping patterns are erratic. Mike likes to fall asleep with the tv on, and I like to quietly read. I do enjoy not hearing (or smelling) those man noises:rolleyes:

[Janet]

Same here Betsi!!! So glad it's more normal than I thought it was. Makes be feel so much better.

[Lindsey]

I never remember my one set of grandparents EVER sleeping in the same room! There was grandma's bedroom, and grandpa's bedroom. Even when we were over and there was nowhere to sleep, we were sleeping on the floor or on the couches, because grandma and grandpa had their separate bedrooms and did not sleep together. Later, I thought maybe my grandma didn't want him sleeping in her room anymore after she gave birth 10 times :eek: :D But I think it is something that some married people just choose. Even my mom sometimes sleeps in another room. She says that it's better for her back to be on a different bed sometimes.