Plans For Easter?

[Janet]

I'm planning on going to church, the guys don't go, but maybe Ricky will if he doesn't have to work. Usually we get together with Mom, but not this year. Doubt we do anything special. I miss having a family for special occasions. I may go ahead and fix a nice dinner if Ricky is home.

What kind of plans do you all have?

[gja1000]

We always fixed Easter dinner when the kids lived here. This year we probably won't do much of anything. I would like to go to Houston this weekend, but I'm so sick of being gone every weekend for a month, I can't bear the thought of being gone a fifth weekend. Also Gary is not doing well, his feet are swelling again and he is having trouble breathing tonight. He's too tired to travel and I can't leave him. So, we will have a quiet Easter weekend. I do treasure all my time with Gary, so I can't complain.

[Lindsey]

We are going to visit Scott's family for the weekend. We'll probably head down Thursday night or Friday morning. My parents actually are coming here Wednesday night and I'm taking Thursday afternoon off to visit with them and take my neices flower girl dress shopping with my mom!

This will be the first year having Easter with Scott's family I think.

[JJJ]

Well I think my boys feel to big to be hunting for eggs. So I'm not sure what I'm going to do. Maybe just make some yummy treats. I don't think I want family over at my house. Too much drama.

[Janet]

Jessica...you don't write about your boys much....why don't you tell us about them.

[JJJ]

Janet, because they will kill me if they know I'm talking about them.lol.

My oldest gets in trouble at school for sleeping in class :mad: And the teachers tell me he might have sleep disorder. Which he does because he doesn't fall asleep when his suppose too. But ever since he was a young boy he wanted to be the one who stayed up late. So I need to make an appointment with the pediatrician. I tell him he needs to go and exercise but he won't :(

My middle one is doing good in school. He has a little too much good self-esteem if you guys know what I mean. But I'll rather it be good than bad.

And my young one just doesn't like doing homework and taking showers. So I have a little bit of everything in my household. The faster there growing the greater the headaches.

I know I'm not the traditional mother that stays at home and trust me there smart enough to take advantage of that :fainted:

[Janet]

They sound like great kids! When I was in jr/sr high school, I had a hard time staying awake in the afternoon. It was horrible and embarrassing, but it was also because I had a hard time falling asleep at night.

Its good your middle one has good self esteem. It can get some in trouble. I know a lot of people don't like this saying but "boys will be boys"....lol

Now the youngest I can really relate to. Still to this day I have to tell my son to take a shower before he goes to bed and then of a morning, I have to tell him to brush his teeth. I put too much money in his teeth for him not to take care of them.

Your boys sound like wonderful young men.

[judy]

They really do sound like great kids, Jessica. Three boys is a handful, and it seems you have done a great job!

Happy Easter everybody!

I went to Jessie's house today. She is not mad at me anymore, and it was a lovely day. I brought little Sophie home. She is asleep im her pen right now. Max was all excited, running around, smelling her. Annie was afraid, and growled. She will take some time to get used to here. I will take her out for a little while later and let Max and Annie visit with her again while I am holding her.

Last night I went to a Passover sedar. It was so much fun! I have been Jewish and Catholic this weekend. I love it!

[DIANE W]

Judy.... I am really glad things got sorted out with Jessie, it is awful when families fall out, I know only too well. We dont have anything to do with My husbands Mum and Dad, we had a fall out and i dont think it can be fixed ever. We have realised that these things happen, they have always treated hubby different from his sister, and he has just had enough, despite it always being us that were there for them all these years, it is her that can do no wrong.
I feel very upset for him and also my daughter, but even if this issue was fixed, it would only be a matter of time before another problem occured - it has been like this for the 30 years i have known this family.
I think they are lovely people, everyone thinks they are wonderful..... but if only they knew what their behaviour did to their son, they cant see it, they blame him.

Your new addition looks a little doll, i hope she settles in with your other dogs quickly, she is adorable.

[judy]

That's too bad about your hubby's family Diana!

Life is strange....sometimes families don't speak for years, and then just make up. You just never know!

[DIANE W]

It is an awful situation, but there comes a time that you just have to say enough..... you have to think about yourself and how that relationship affects you, and we decided it is just not worth all the heartache anymore.

I think its a shame, life is too short for falling out, but sometimes its not fair for you to keep on putting up with things.

I am not ruling out a making up, for the future, i would always forgive them, but hubby, i am not too sure, he is much more hurt than me as its his parents.

[Janet]

I really hope that things can be worked out. It's so crazy but this morning I had a good cry because I miss my brothers. Of course I could call them, but I know they don't want to hear from me, otherwise they'd call. It's okay I guess, as long as they are good and happy.

Maybe once Mom's estate is totally settled and some more time passes, they open their hearts a little more. Without knowing what happened between your husband and his parents, I hope enough time will pass that they can reconcile. We need family.

[DianaB]

Jessie, it is nice to hear about your boys. You don't mention them much.

Diane, I'm so sorry to hear about your husband's family. It is hard, I'm sure, especially around the holidays. It's hard to resolve when there is hurt feelings. Hugs to your family.

I mentioned on another thread what we ended up doing. Cleaning on Friday....Picnic with Glen's family on Saturday.......The kids, grandkids, Mom, and step-dad here on Sunday. My brother and his daughter with her two kids didn't come and greatly disappointed my Mom. I felt so sorry for her.

[DIANE W]

I really hope that things can be worked out. It's so crazy but this morning I had a good cry because I miss my brothers. Of course I could call them, but I know they don't want to hear from me, otherwise they'd call. It's okay I guess, as long as they are good and happy.

Maybe once Mom's estate is totally settled and some more time passes, they open their hearts a little more. Without knowing what happened between your husband and his parents, I hope enough time will pass that they can reconcile. We need family.

Do you know Janet, it wasnt that there was a terrible thing happen, its just a drip drip drip of petty rows over the years, we have always been there for them, done whatever they have asked of us at the drop of a hat, been at their beck and call really. But the last fall out just sort of made my husband realise that unless we back away, we are always going to be going through this cr-p with them.
So for our own sakes and peace we have made this difficult decision, who know if they come around and accept what they are like with him..... then who knows in the future? but as i have already said, we have to take care of ourselves now, we cant keep going through all the arguments anymore, each one seems to get bigger, because they bring up the last one as well.
I feel for my husband so much, because they have proved they dont care about their son and his feelings.............and that is just not right, i would never let anything come between my daughter.
So although we are sad it came to this, at least we have peace now.

[Janet]

I sure know about the drip...drip...drip part. After awhile it just gets to you, I know. Sometimes space is best. I'm pretty sure I'll neverbe close to my brothers again, I won't let them have a chance to hurt me anymore, but it would still be nice to speak with them once in awhile....without their wives or family.

We all have to do what is best for our own family and well being.

[judy]

This is why I no longer speak to my stepmother and her children. The drip drip drip...it is very toxic!

I do want to go see my stepmother though. She is 95 or 96, and I try to never have regrets in my life. We did have our good times, and she was very good to my Dad.

[DIANE W]

You are so right, the only trouble is i worry now that, what happens if something happens to them, what would we do about funeral etc. I am also stressing about are we doing the right thing - i know we are deep down its just me.

See this is me all over, still worrying and we have cut all ties, so as not to be stressed:(

Janet, It is so sad, and i would love to not be going through all this, and if they treated my husband like they do his sister (its as if they are careful what they say to her, as they dont want to offend her - yet they feel they can say whatever to us, and we have to take it), all he wants is to be treated the same, not preferential treatment.

Maybe when all the business with Mum's affairs are sorted out, then you will get a better relationship with your brothers again - fingers crossed for you.

Judy, I know what you mean about your stepmother, who knows maybe you will get chance to visit her, or take her out for lunch maybe, without her daughters present.

Diana, even though you are going through a tough time at the moment, it will get better. I think it must be lovely for you having a big, close knit family..... that must be really really nice.

[DianaB]

Diane, it is nice to have a large family. My Mom's family is big (she had 5 sisters and they all get along) but our family was small.....just me and a brother. I knew that when I had a family I wanted a big one.....it's not as big as I originally planned but big enough. We are very close to my Mom's family.

Then Glen's family is large. Glen has 2 brother and 2 sisters and 3 aunts and 1 uncle and they all live in the area.......plus many, many cousins!!! I don't get along too well with Glen's family but I don't let it bother me. With Glen's Mom gone things seem a little better.

I hope that some day you'll be able to iron things out. I'm sure that your husband is very hurt by their actions. It's too bad that they favor one child so much that the other child is hurt. They are the ones who are missing out on having their son around.

Janet, I hope that soon after your Mom's estate is finished that things will get better. I don't know about Brad but I think that Jerry will come around. Just give it time.

Judy, I think that your Step-Mom would probably enjoy a visit and lunch with you. I can just picture the two of you sitting at a nice restaurant visiting about the past......"Remember when Dad......." It would probably be good for both of you!!

Things will get better for us......I know that. I've never dealt with a divorce except for my parents.....and that one needed to be done way earlier!! It's just so hard to see the hurt.....for all that are involved.