What is your marital status?

[RLC12345678]

I'm interested to know what everyone's marital status is.

[RLC12345678]

I'm on my first (and hopefully last) marriage and we are happily married. :)

[cindy0721]

Me... too.. I am on my first marriage & only marriage and are extremly happy(well at least today we are ... lol)

[DianaB]

My husband and I were married when we were both 17 and had a little one on the way. Very few people thought that we would make it, but we fooled them. We've been married for 32 years and he's always been my best friend.

[Janet]

My choice wasn't there so I had to pick Other. I am so envious of all the ones in good marriages. I've been married 32 years too, but it's not what I expected or hoped for. I long to feel that "connection" and tingle when I see he's home instead of thinking "crap" he's here.

My husband is a good man and is liked by many people. He just hasn't grown any in all this time and just isn't the best of husbands. I don't want to start a downer, but my whole life has not turned out the way I had dreamed of, not even close. I sure wish I could go back and start over and find a true love. I'm just too old now to want to do anything about it and who in their right mind would want a 51 year old overweight woman ?

Can you tell the seasonal depression has started?

[~GirlieGirl~]

My husband and I started dating when we were 17 and had our first daughter when we were 18. We did break up when our baby was about 6 months old. We got back together a year later after dating other people and have been married 9 years now. (10 years next Sept.) My husband is my best friend, a wonderful father, and a super husband.

[Ponyup]

I've been married 4yrs. I am pretty 90% of the time, the other 10% is just hormones I suppose. sometimes I wish he'd be a little more affectionate, but other than that he's awesome. He does so much for me that I know he loves me. He's my best friend, we do everything together. We don't have a lot of passion, but our relationship is very simple, we like to spend time together & we make each other laugh. So I have to say it's pretty much all good.

[Ponyup]

My choice wasn't there so I had to pick Other. I am so envious of all the ones in good marriages. I've been married 32 years too, but it's not what I expected or hoped for. I long to feel that "connection" and tingle when I see he's home instead of thinking "crap" he's here.

My husband is a good man and is liked by many people. He just hasn't grown any in all this time and just isn't the best of husbands. I don't want to start a downer, but my whole life has not turned out the way I had dreamed of, not even close. I sure wish I could go back and start over and find a true love. I'm just too old now to want to do anything about it and who in their right mind would want a 51 year old overweight woman ?

Can you tell the seasonal depression has started?

Sweetie I wanna come down there & give you a big hug. You aren't too old to change things in your life. I under stand that going out & finding mr. right might not be an option, but you could pick up things you always wanted to do. Hobbies or go back to school. Maybe if you have more things you enjoy & are happier with yourself you will be happier with your husband. You are never to old to take steps to make your life better.

[Izzy'smom]

My choice wasn't there so I had to pick Other. I am so envious of all the ones in good marriages. I've been married 32 years too, but it's not what I expected or hoped for. I long to feel that "connection" and tingle when I see he's home instead of thinking "crap" he's here.

My husband is a good man and is liked by many people. He just hasn't grown any in all this time and just isn't the best of husbands. I don't want to start a downer, but my whole life has not turned out the way I had dreamed of, not even close. I sure wish I could go back and start over and find a true love. I'm just too old now to want to do anything about it and who in their right mind would want a 51 year old overweight woman ?




That sounds so familiar. It has only been 15 years for me and I am 34. But I know what you mean. Not a bad life, just not what I had hoped for.

[Miss_Sara]

I picked other because I'm not married but I'm dating someone and I have been for a long time. And marriage is a big part of our discussions, but I don't wnat to get married at 18, even though he wants too.
He has been my best friend since I was about 13, so we're very close, but I always refused to date him until I was 16 and realized I had been living a selfish life and I wasn't making myself happy in the right ways.
I love him so much, and he loves me very much too. A lot of times I think he loves me more than I love him, he knows me very well and knows that I will pull away from him a lot (I have commitment issues) and abandon him. But he always keeps trying. He just knows me so well, that I don't even understand it. He's just too good, you know? My problem is that I'm personally not physically attracted to him, but I try not to think about that, since he's definitly attracted to me!

and best of all, he respects all my decisions about my life, even though he knew me and how I used to act, he respects how much has changed since I found God, and never tries to change it.

[RLC12345678]

I picked other because I'm not married but I'm dating someone and I have been for a long time. And marriage is a big part of our discussions, but I don't wnat to get married at 18, even though he wants too.
He has been my best friend since I was about 13, so we're very close, but I always refused to date him until I was 16 and realized I had been living a selfish life and I wasn't making myself happy in the right ways.
I love him so much, and he loves me very much too. A lot of times I think he loves me more than I love him, he knows me very well and knows that I will pull away from him a lot (I have commitment issues) and abandon him. But he always keeps trying. He just knows me so well, that I don't even understand it. He's just too good, you know? My problem is that I'm personally not physically attracted to him, but I try not to think about that, since he's definitly attracted to me!

and best of all, he respects all my decisions about my life, even though he knew me and how I used to act, he respects how much has changed since I found God, and never tries to change it.


That is wonderful. Does your bf share your religious views? I know that my dad made my hubby and I go on a Christian retreat (separately) before we could get married. We also went through pre-marital counseling with our preacher before we got married. Having God in our relationship is really what holds us together. I love being able to share my religion with my hubby. It's a good feeling.

[Ponyup]

I picked other because I'm not married but I'm dating someone and I have been for a long time. And marriage is a big part of our discussions, but I don't wnat to get married at 18, even though he wants too.
He has been my best friend since I was about 13, so we're very close, but I always refused to date him until I was 16 and realized I had been living a selfish life and I wasn't making myself happy in the right ways.
I love him so much, and he loves me very much too. A lot of times I think he loves me more than I love him, he knows me very well and knows that I will pull away from him a lot (I have commitment issues) and abandon him. But he always keeps trying. He just knows me so well, that I don't even understand it. He's just too good, you know? My problem is that I'm personally not physically attracted to him, but I try not to think about that, since he's definitly attracted to me!

and best of all, he respects all my decisions about my life, even though he knew me and how I used to act, he respects how much has changed since I found God, and never tries to change it.

Your boyfriend sounds similar to my husband. I too have commiment issues & try to push people away. He wouldn't take it from me. He'd come right back. I couldn't get rid of him & now he's my rock & my everything.

I personally don't think physical attraction is the biggest thing. You can't find the person repulsive, but they don't have to be your idea of perfect male specimen either.

[Miss_Sara]

really unfortunately, we don't share the same religious beliefs. he's agnostic (which I used to be) and is always saying that he wants to believe but there isn't enough proof, which I don't understand, because in reality there is a lot of proof. Did anyone here see my post about like 7 scientific facts that God exists? and other than that, I can just feel that there is a God and the fact that when I started believing I felt so much love I thought I was going to burst, proves it.


Ponyup, it's nice to see I'm not the only one with commitment issues. Ya your hubby sounds like my boyfriend, I pushed him away for years but he just never left. Now he tells me "stop being avoidant" because sometimes I honestly don't even realise that I'm using school work as an excuse.


ya I hope you're right about the physical attraction part. It's just that there is none, it's like, blah. idk like I wouldn't have dated him based on looks at all, it's only because I know him so well.

[Tink]

I too chose "other" because none of the above fit.

I married at age 18 and was in that abusive situation for 7 years. When I divorced him, I had no plans on ever marrying again.

4 years later I married my current hubby. It took him 3 years to convince me to marry him. He's basically a decent man, and I have no intention of leaving him, yet we don't have anything like the marriage that I'd wish for. He's an over the road semi driver, so is home only a day each week. We're not close or intimate, even though we have 2 children and 24 yrs together as our history. I feel we're more a business partnership than married, but since I have no interest in ever remarrying and don't want to tear our family apart, I choose to stay where we're at and so does he. Actually, he won't admit there's anything wrong with what we are... so who am I to shatter his denial? :(

[Janet]

I too chose "other" because none of the above fit.

I married at age 18 and was in that abusive situation for 7 years. When I divorced him, I had no plans on ever marrying again.

4 years later I married my current hubby. It took him 3 years to convince me to marry him. He's basically a decent man, and I have no intention of leaving him, yet we don't have anything like the marriage that I'd wish for. He's an over the road semi driver, so is home only a day each week. We're not close or intimate, even though we have 2 children and 24 yrs together as our history. I feel we're more a business partnership than married, but since I have no interest in ever remarrying and don't want to tear our family apart, I choose to stay where we're at and so does he. Actually, he won't admit there's anything wrong with what we are... so who am I to shatter his denial? :(

I think there are a lot of marriages like yours and mine out there. Quite a few people try to put on a front, so most friends and family have no clue. I know I act like everything is fine, but here, I can be honest and feel you all understand on some level.

I'm not willing to do anything about it either. There are so many things I like to do such as sewing clothes for the babies although I need much more practice and I love woodworking, really any kind of craft. I still havent' tried the beads thing yet. It's just finding the time to do it all. By the time I run the bus route, take care of laundry, the house and the doggies, there is very little time left. When there is...I'm goofing off with my son or watching some relaxing TV.

[BabyNicole]

I clicked "other" because I was engaged, but the donkey called off the wedding. :p Now I'm single, boyfriend/husband/childrenless, and LOV'N it!!!!!!!!!!! :D

[khardy57]

Other -----I'm widowed

I eloped with my first husband at 16 and was married 8 years to that jackass!

I divorced him and it was 10 years before I married my husband. We dated 7 years and were married 13 so we had 20 years together before he died.

[Ashley V]

We started dating in April of 2006 when I was finishing up my senior year of high school. His mom had just kicked him out of the house, for reasons still unknown to us, and started staying with me and my mother. In July of 2006 he had to go to Arizona for a border patrol mission that lasted 3 months. It had been our longest seperation. About a few weeks before he was coming home, he found out that he was on the list to go to Iraq. We became scared and decided it was time to get married. He came back the first week of October and we waited a couple weeks to tell my mother we were engaged. Our original plan was to get married the week before Christmas, but after a lot of contemplation, we decided that because of all the papers and stuff we would have to get straightened around, to get married November 18, 2006, just a little over 3 months ago. My mom helped us plan a small, but beautiful wedding then we went to Delaware for a mini honeymoon. We did a detour on the way home and went to see my father in Wisconsin. While we were there, he was carrying plywood out for my dad and twisted his ankle. It turns out that he has two tears in his ligaments, one ligament which actually can't be seen in the MRI, degeneration and a cyst on his ankle and now needs surgery, so he is undeployable and safe at home with me. It has been an adventure, but I wouldn't change a thing. He is my love and my best friend. :-)

[AngieDoogles]

My husband and I got married when I was 18 and he was 20. That was nearly three years ago. Everyone said it was a mistake to get married at such a young age, but neither of us (even now) would have it any other way. We've truly been blessed with a loving and happy marriage, but that doesn't mean we don't have our problems. At times, I am overly emotional, and like some of you other ladies here, I push him away. We rarely argue, but when we do I get very hurt and let my emotions take control. I'll say stupid things like I don't need him and such, mostly to convince myself. But he will never let me push him away for long. He's so patient and understanding and always forgives me when I'm wrong. On average, we probably have an argument once a month or so. (This doesn't include minor disagreements; we usually handle those jokingly.) This is such a small part of our lives and we really do enjoy spending our time together. I can't imagine my life without him. I feel that he pushes me to always do better, become better, be a better person. He encourages me. He makes me think. He makes me laugh and smile. He trusts me. He loves me. I only hope that I make him feel even half as good as he makes me feel.

I'm truly blessed.

So, to answer the question...this is my first marriage and we are very happy together. :1luvu:

[Tink]

My first marriage was miserable. I had one daughter in that marriage. I divorced and was single for a few years before daring to risk it again.

I've now been married 21 years, and have been with Greg for 24. He's gone much of the time driving semi, so our time together is limited, which I suspect actually has helped us keep things together this long. :rolleyes: We're both very independent types who like our space but are totally loyal to each other. We have 2 adult kids together.

Greg would like if I'd get my CDL and team drive with him, but I can't imagine the 2 of us living in a semi togeher. Too much togetherness would be a shock to our systems and probably the end of us!

[rivermom]

I'm on my 3rd marriage and happy now. :D Third times a charm as they say right?

My first marriage I don't count much. I was only 16. I don't regret it though because I was given a beautiful son who is now grown into a very mature man.

My 2nd marriage, ugh. He sucked! But again don't regret it because I was given 2 other beautiful children. Both of which still have lots of maturity to go yet. But I have faith in them, LOL. My daughter who is 16 and my son who is 18.

My 3rd (AND LAST) is to a awesome man who is such a special gift to me. I don't know what Id do without him ever. :)

[Gina]

I will be married 25 yrs. this May, it is both our first marriage. It has had its ups and downs along the way. No marriage is perfect you need to constanly work at it as a job. I went through a period where I was not happy and was ready to leave him, but he is stubborn and refused to acknowledge that I meant business. Low and behold I am still in the marriage it has gotten a bit better, I guess I was going through a phase. We did the marriage counseling but what happened was that year I broke a metasal bone in my foot and that actually brought us together he was there by my side helping me. Funny right.

[AngieDoogles]

I will be married 25 yrs. this May, it is both our first marriage. It has had its ups and downs along the way. No marriage is perfect you need to constanly work at it as a job. I went through a period where I was not happy and was ready to leave him, but he is stubborn and refused to acknowledge that I meant business. Low and behold I am still in the marriage it has gotten a bit better, I guess I was going through a phase. We did the marriage counseling but what happened was that year I broke a metasal bone in my foot and that actually brought us together he was there by my side helping me. Funny right.

I'm glad things are getting better. Sorry about the broken bone though...

[gja1000]

I was married the first time for 7 years - UGH! BUT, I have a beautiful 30-year old daughter, for whom I am so grateful - and TWO beautiful granddaughters. My second husband and I just celebrated our 25th anniversary. He is my best friend and I am so lucky to be married to him. About 3 years ago, he developed heart failure (among other chronic illnesses) and had to suddenly and unexpectedly retire so he is home all the time now (I still work). I thought it would be hard having him home all the time, but I am so happy to have him with me now so much. His heart condition means that he will probably not live a long and healthy life, so we are trying to enjoy every moment that we have together. You just never know what life will throw at you!

[KikiLane]

I too wish that my husband would be more affectionate and more emotionally supportive, but he is wonderful. He is a great husband and and good dad. We have been married for 3 years. I think as we grow closer to our church and The Lord our relationship will grow. Now I just have to get him to go to church besides sunday mornings! But Hey! Thats a start!!

[magnolia]

I am on my first marriage and have been happily married for 21 years now. Our road was not always a smooth one, sometimes we had to stop to repair a pothole, but for the most part, it has been a happy one. We have 2 handsome young men (age 17 & 14), 2 yorkies, and now a black lab. What has helped to make our marriage so strong is we have a lot of the same interests and share those together - we are huge college sports fans and are a true house divided. I'm an Alabama fan and he's an LSU fan - if we can get through this rivalry each fall, we can get through anything...lol!

[AngieDoogles]

if we can get through this rivalry each fall, we can get through anything...lol!

LOL! That's hilarious! :)

[Taurus Babe]

THis was interesting reading about everyones realationships. I am single. Hope to get married in the next few years.

[ILuvShoes]

I've been married to my very best friend for 3 1/2 years. We dated for 4 before getting married. I hope we'll always be as happy as we are now!! :D

[bkessler]

I have never been married.. I am currently living with my boyfriend and talking about getting engaged in the next year or so

[lisa]

I have been married 7 years. We lived together before that foor 11 years

[patty58]

My husband and I have been married for almost 39 years:) I can honestly say I wouldn't change anything I have done. He traveled extensively so I was basically a single mom but I say that is what kept us together:D As with some of the others here, I wish he would be a little more emotionally affectionate but we do ok. He has been retired for the last 7 years and we are even making it thru that. We are starting to get back to where we were 38 years ago. He has been a wonderful provider, good father, and wonderful grandfather. I love him very much.

[Janet]

You all are very lucky indeed. I started dating my husband at 16, married at 19. So it'll be 33 years come this September. I'm not going anywhere I guess, neither is he that I know of. It's just not what I had dreamed about. I should have gotten out a long time ago...

[patty58]

Thanks Janet, I really do consider myself lucky. We have been blessed with 3 wonderful children and 3 beautiful grandaughters. We get to travel in our little camper a lot and are in the process of building a new house in the country. He is taking great care of me and my stupid knees......and he loves my little Murfee almost as much as me;) even though he didn't want another dog!

[vt73]

I've been married for 5 years, 98% of the time happily married,the other 2% is been though, but I think that each maariage has had that too.