This forum is a sign from the universe!!

[EvilWeeLover]

My marriage of EIGHT FREAKING YEARS ended this week! So this site is like KARMA! I take it as a sign that this break up is meant to be.

I've been in shock all blooming week and I'm just starting to come out of it. I no longer cry when I tell people. I still get angry/sad when I say "my husband". I'm having trouble using the singular personal pronoun (I) instead of the plural (we).

In just a matter of days I've found a doggie friendly place (with a fenced yard) to live. It's in my price range and there's a dog exercise area just round the corner!! That is also a sign I think!

And for those of you who are crossovers from YT - do you want to know one of the reasons he had for breaking up - he can't stand my dogs! Poor Dougal and Dixie!

I'm a little freaked out. This will be the first time I've ever lived by myself, been responsible for paying all the bills and so on!

Thanks for letting me vent! hugs to y'all!

[Mandy]

Oh man, i'm so sorry to hear about the break up! However i do believe that there's a reason for everything.
I know it's hard, and after 8 years :(
You have come to the right place to vent and let go of all those emotions!

He couldnt stand your babies, well girl... as hard as it sounds, i think your way better off living alone and love your fur kids, they don't judge, and they always there when we need them.
Sounds like you found a nice little house all fenced in with a doggie play yard around the corner, that's neat!! Well done girl ;) Thumbs up for you!!

[rivermom]

I am sorry about your break up. It sounds as if though you are keeping your head held high and looking towards the future. Your fur kids will give your a lot of comfort as you move forward too. I am a true believer that there is a reason for everything. "Hang in there".

[Kimberley]

Welcome! Sorry to hear about your recent break up but you've found a great place!

[magnolia]

Welcome to the board. I'm so sorry to read of your break-up. As others have said, things happen for a reason. Hang in there - we'll do our best to help you through this just by listening, if nothing else.

[Miniflash]

So Sorry for your loss Please remember to take care of you during this time of grief and pain ,be extra good to you and reclaim the very core of yourself that may have been intwined with WE"..

[hle_625]

I am very sorry to hear about your divorce. You have found a great place, with lots of women to support you! Things will get better soon!

[ginab]

im sorry also to hear about your divorce,, been there, done that, eight years too.
life goes on.. things will get better i promise.. i was so depressed, but everyday
gets better... think possitive it will get better and you will meet the man of your dreams... it happened to me when i least expected it.

[ice queen]

Oh goodness....i am so sorry for your pain...he really said he was through because of your dogs??? what a selfish turd...just my opinion. well you need to get all "did up" and go out and paint the town red (or your favorite color-haha!!) and just have fun and try to put all this out of your mind for a few hours. Maybe if he finds out that you are getting on with your life just fine without him he will come crawling back...it's up to you & your doggies if you want him back....if not kick him to the curb in your new stilettos!!!!:D :D :D

[ice queen]

So Sorry for your loss Please remember to take care of you during this time of grief and pain ,be extra good to you and reclaim the very core of yourself that may have been intwined with WE"..
you are so poetic.....wish i could write like that!

[Pink Cupcakes]

I am so very sorry to hear about the breakup. But I am also so glad that you made your way over here to 4WT. There is a great bunch of ladies here that I'm sure will help you through all this!

[Miniflash]

you are so poetic.....wish i could write like that!
Aww that was so nice of you to say ,I always think I can't write at all ..funny how that works .Thanks for being so kind~

[Amber_lv]

I'm so sorry you have to go through this and we are here for you!

[EvilWeeLover]

Thanks all for your supportive words.

I'm trying to think of it as an exciting adventure!

Tho I will be a bit sad cos I'm going to have to go back to dial up interweb! No more streaming video from YT!! OH NO!!

Miniflash thanks for your words especially. It wasn't til you said that that I realised that I do have an awful lot of myself invested in this relationship to reclaim.

Girl power!

[ice queen]

That's right GIRL POWER!!!:D :D :D ONE FOR ALL AND ALL FOR ONE!!! Go get you some retail therapy!!!

[Janet]

Retail Therapy....good one!!

Sorry about your break up..life waits for no one, so put your shoulders back, head held hi and greet a whole new and exciting adventure. You have us here to lean on and we'll do our best to understand whatever you may be going through and feeling. Someday.....women will rule!!

[khardy57]

Believe me, there IS life after divorce....and most of the time it's a better one! My first husband was abusive and the best thing I ever did was leave him. I was a single mother for 10 years before I remarried and during those years I did a lot of soul searching and I'm closer to my boys than any mother I know. My oldest son has been married now for 9 years and I get along really well with my daughter-in -law. She told me thanks for raising him the way I did!

[hanau]

this forum may be a sign from god to let you you know that he is in control and he will order your steps if you look to him.A man that loves you would never leave you because of your little doggies.And yes ,you can make it.I became a widow a few years ago from one day to the next.I had not been responsible for everything before but here i was and had too.My trust was in god then and is now,and he has been my best friend trough it all and providet for me all i needet

[Janet]

Believe me, there IS life after divorce....and most of the time it's a better one! My first husband was abusive and the best thing I ever did was leave him. I was a single mother for 10 years before I remarried and during those years I did a lot of soul searching and I'm closer to my boys than any mother I know. My oldest son has been married now for 9 years and I get along really well with my daughter-in -law. She told me thanks for raising him the way I did!

That was so nice of her to say that. You know, our kids learn from our mistakes too.

[Mandy]

Believe me, there IS life after divorce....and most of the time it's a better one! My first husband was abusive and the best thing I ever did was leave him. I was a single mother for 10 years before I remarried and during those years I did a lot of soul searching and I'm closer to my boys than any mother I know. My oldest son has been married now for 9 years and I get along really well with my daughter-in -law. She told me thanks for raising him the way I did!

WOW that was a very sweet thing for her to say, i bet that would make any mother feel the best!! :)

[RLC12345678]

I'm so sorry to hear about your breakup. :( I really commend you for standing up for yourself and not getting rid of your precious furbabies just because he didn't like them. This was OBVIOUSLY something that was meant to be. I have always heard that you can tell a man's true heart by the way he treats a dog. This man is not worth your time. You go girl!

[Sherry Lynn]

Goes to show that you can't trust a person that doesn't like dogs....:p

Good luck. I'm sure everything is going to be fine... you have so many adventures coming your way!

[Emmsmom]

I am so sorry to hear you are having such a hard thing. Things can only get better! Take care ((HUGS))

Michelle

[Tink]

I'm sorry for your pain and sense of loss.
I was divorced after a 7 yr marriage. It took time to rebuild, but I promise you will make it!
I have now been married for 21 yrs and had 2 more children and 2 grand daughters too! Life's what happens while we're making plans, so while you may occassionally sink in crap, you will also rise up to new heights again. Hang tough and one day soon you will shock yourself with the sound of your own laughter.

[Janet]

My marriage of EIGHT FREAKING YEARS ended this week! So this site is like KARMA! I take it as a sign that this break up is meant to be.

I've been in shock all blooming week and I'm just starting to come out of it. I no longer cry when I tell people. I still get angry/sad when I say "my husband". I'm having trouble using the singular personal pronoun (I) instead of the plural (we).

In just a matter of days I've found a doggie friendly place (with a fenced yard) to live. It's in my price range and there's a dog exercise area just round the corner!! That is also a sign I think!

And for those of you who are crossovers from YT - do you want to know one of the reasons he had for breaking up - he can't stand my dogs! Poor Dougal and Dixie!

I'm a little freaked out. This will be the first time I've ever lived by myself, been responsible for paying all the bills and so on!

Thanks for letting me vent! hugs to y'all!



I've noticed you haven't posted in quite some time. Let us know how you're doing won't you? We hope you're staying strong and doing well!!! :)

[2tiredmom]

So sorry for your pain, I was there 17 years ago. He got the house and the dog, I got the kids. But I'm married to a good one now. It will all work out.

[EvilWeeLover]

Hi

Thanks for your concern. I had quite a hard week or so where the reality of the situation really came home to me and I was freaking out a bit. Also work was really insanely busy. People were being stupid all over the show!

I took an afternoon off work and walked the pooches on the beach. That made me feel so much better.

I'm moving in twelve more sleeps. I've got the power sorted, the phone sorted and I'll get the interweb sorted when I move. I have to get a new email addy! Man - I've had that email addy for longer than I've had even my mobile number!

I went through the OMG faze and now I'm feeling excited again - but it's tempered with the daunting thought of moving. I really ought to start packing!!

[Janet]

Hi

Thanks for your concern. I had quite a hard week or so where the reality of the situation really came home to me and I was freaking out a bit. Also work was really insanely busy. People were being stupid all over the show!

I took an afternoon off work and walked the pooches on the beach. That made me feel so much better.

I'm moving in twelve more sleeps. I've got the power sorted, the phone sorted and I'll get the interweb sorted when I move. I have to get a new email addy! Man - I've had that email addy for longer than I've had even my mobile number!

I went through the OMG faze and now I'm feeling excited again - but it's tempered with the daunting thought of moving. I really ought to start packing!!

It sounds like things are starting to come under control again for you. :thumbup: Stay positivie and embrace the future. It's all out there waiting for you to claim it and I'm wishing you the very best!!! :)

[Necee419]

Hi

Thanks for your concern. I had quite a hard week or so where the reality of the situation really came home to me and I was freaking out a bit. Also work was really insanely busy. People were being stupid all over the show!

I took an afternoon off work and walked the pooches on the beach. That made me feel so much better.

I'm moving in twelve more sleeps. I've got the power sorted, the phone sorted and I'll get the interweb sorted when I move. I have to get a new email addy! Man - I've had that email addy for longer than I've had even my mobile number!

I went through the OMG faze and now I'm feeling excited again - but it's tempered with the daunting thought of moving. I really ought to start packing!!
Hang in there!! Like my grandmother always says "sometimes we feel like we are drowning in a glass of water" meaning, at the moment it seems like it is the end of the world but once we are removed from the situation, it really wasn't as bad as we thought. Best of luck to you in your life changing move and hoping that things turn out even better than you ever hoped for.:)