please can you give advice

[linnylou]

hi ladies i need help i wrote earlier this year about a small venture i have with my mum we occasionly breed yorkies very small time and with great care for the girls health they all live indoors as pets and are loved dearly, now back in september we had a falling out over monies from a litter not being divided which was always the agreement that we shared but when i asked why the money wasnt shared my mother became very hostile slamming phones down on myself and my husband, in that time one of my girls came on heat mum had the boy dog and wouldnt allow me down to mate the dogs, when i tried to make ammends she was very nasty and cruel to be frank, we a saw male yorkie for sale took the last of our money out of the bank and brought him him hes lovely by the way, anywayz he did the job, then the worst thing happened and my daddy suddenly died we rushed to the house and have comforted my mother eversince we all made up thank goodness, anyway the babies were born this week and my mother wants to keep a girl for breeding which is fine but she thinks i should give it too her i cannot afford to do that i need to get some return on buying the male yorkie i now tell me if this is not fair we sell our pups for £400 so 4 babies is £1600 i think if mum has the girl and £400 and i have £800 thats fair i am so scared of suggesting this but to be honest if she had her way in sept there would have been no pups i hope this makes sense to you i know its a bit of a long story thanks any advice or comments are welcome

[Janet]

I send my condolenses to you on the loss of your father. I too have lost my father, back in '73, it will get easier, but you'll never stop missing him.

I am also very happy that you have made amends with your mother. Life, as you know, is way to short to be at odds.

Not sure what kind of advice I can give you at this point. I only know what I would do and it may not be the best thing. I personally would sit down with your mother, just the two of you. Let her know that at this time you need the money. Ask in a kind way why she thinks she should be given the pup when she wasn't willing to split her money before. Maybe you can tell her that in the next litter you'll be in a better position to "give" her one. OR you can tell her that to keep things as they were before and fair, you'll sell her one for your asking price plus what she owes you.

I guess my best advice would be to not be in this endeavor with your Mother. Sooner or later something could come up again. Let her raise her dogs and you raise yours separately.

I do hope things work out. It's not good being at odds with family members if you can keep from it. Remember forgivness comes from the heart with no strings attached.

[DianaB]

I send my condolenses to you on the loss of your father. I too have lost my father, back in '73, it will get easier, but you'll never stop missing him.

I am also very happy that you have made amends with your mother. Life, as you know, is way to short to be at odds.

Not sure what kind of advice I can give you at this point. I only know what I would do and it may not be the best thing. I personally would sit down with your mother, just the two of you. Let her know that at this time you need the money. Ask in a kind way why she thinks she should be given the pup when she wasn't willing to split her money before. Maybe you can tell her that in the next litter you'll be in a better position to "give" her one. OR you can tell her that to keep things as they were before and fair, you'll sell her one for your asking price plus what she owes you.

I guess my best advice would be to not be in this endeavor with your Mother. Sooner or later something could come up again. Let her raise her dogs and you raise yours separately.

I do hope things work out. It's not good being at odds with family members if you can keep from it. Remember forgivness comes from the heart with no strings attached.

I think that Janet has given you some good advice. Sorry about the loss of your father. I lost my Dad this spring.