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Kimberley
09-08-2006, 11:45 AM
Do you love your parents more than your spouse (or vice versa)? I can honestly say that I love my mom way more than my husband. If my husband dropped dead, sure I'd be sad but if my mom passed away (and when she does), I honestly don't know what I'm going to do.

She's been my best friend for all of these years and YES! I do love her more than ANYTHING!!!
ginab
09-08-2006, 12:36 PM
oh yes, my mom is my life, just like lexi is..if anything were to happen to one of them,,, well lets not even go there..... very touchy subject for me...
Janet
09-08-2006, 12:39 PM
I just don't know what to say...I feel very negative in my replies today. I would probably be more upset losing Mom (even though we are not close) than my husband. My mother is 83 years old and has been in the best of health until here recently.
Cribal
09-08-2006, 12:40 PM
I love my hubby but I CAN'T live without my mom. And if there were ever a day that I would have to choose between my mom and Hubby, I would choose my mom.

Now I think that it would maybe change when we have kids. Then he would be the FATHER to my children and I think I would have to choose him.
Pink Cupcakes
09-08-2006, 01:05 PM
I feel the same way you all feel. Losing my mom would just rip my heart out. Don't get me wrong- losing my husband would kill me too. But my mom is my mom and I don't even want to imagine my life without her. She is my rock.
RLC12345678
09-08-2006, 01:15 PM
I love my parents and my hubby in 2 different way. I LOVE LOVE LOVE my parents, but I'm IN LOVE with my hubby. I guess I learned this from my parents. They always said that the Lord comes first, then your spouse, then your children, then your extended family, then your career, ect. ect. My parents put each other WAAAAAAAY ahead of their parents in terms of priorities.
Amber_lv
09-08-2006, 03:11 PM
I personally could not even fathom the idea of my mom dieing i don't think if that day comes i will make it through. I love my husband dearly but if my mom died i think my heart would to
ice queen
09-08-2006, 03:26 PM
I personally could not even fathom the idea of my mom dieing i don't think if that day comes i will make it through. I love my husband dearly but if my mom died i think my heart would to
i feel the same way...just thinking about my mom dying got me all teary eyed. yes i love my hubby but my mom has been there for me my whole life and he's only been there for eight years. when he went to iraq i was so worried every day that i didn't hear from him thinking he was dead it was esp. hard as he had just lost his baby brother in a car accident like three weeks before he was deployed so the whole family was scared for him.but he made it home safe and i thank god for that everyday!
Marilyn
09-08-2006, 08:26 PM
Wow, your answers surprize me. My mom is gone, passed away in 2000. (Daddy passed in 1995.) I loved her very, very much, and still miss her. There are things that happen that I would like to be able to share with her. I wish she could see how her grandaughters are turning out. She would be very pleased. I understand her more now, as I get older and share some of her experiences, and would like to be able to tell her, to discuss things with her and get her opinion. I have lots of questions that I never asked and would like to now. All this said, my husband is the one who is still here, who supported me through the loss of both my parents. He's my rock. Life without him would be .......I can't put these feelings into words. I am glad I never had to choose, but I believe if I did, I would choose my husband, and I believe that she would have wanted me to.
Kimberley
09-08-2006, 08:35 PM
Wow, your answers surprize me. My mom is gone, passed away in 2000. (Daddy passed in 1995.) I loved her very, very much, and still miss her. There are things that happen that I would like to be able to share with her. I wish she could see how her grandaughters are turning out. She would be very pleased. I understand her more now, as I get older and share some of her experiences, and would like to be able to tell her, to discuss things with her and get her opinion. I have lots of questions that I never asked and would like to now. All this said, my husband is the one who is still here, who supported me through the loss of both my parents. He's my rock. Life without him would be .......I can't put these feelings into words. I am glad I never had to choose, but I believe if I did, I would choose my husband, and I believe that she would have wanted me to.

WOW! Your last sentence brought tears to my eyes.:o
RLC12345678
09-09-2006, 06:16 AM
He's my rock. Life without him would be .......I can't put these feelings into words. I am glad I never had to choose, but I believe if I did, I would choose my husband, and I believe that she would have wanted me to.

I agree with you 100%. My mom would want me to choose my husband first, too. I know that she chooses her husband (my dad) first.
hanau
09-09-2006, 08:20 PM
what your paren's told you is so true.God is supposed to be first,then spouse than children ec.And if you do it God's way and your parent's , or in some cases just mom)do it God's way too,then ,when mom's time comes,you have the wonderful assurence that you will see each other again.My mom went to be with the lord in 2000 and i know we will be together again one day and that takes all the sadness and fear away.Thank God.
rivermom
09-11-2006, 10:56 AM
The love is different for each and I can't really compare. I look at it as comparing apples to oranges. Both are cherished and I am blessed to have both in my life right now.

Id be at such a loss if I didn't have either of them.
Janet
09-11-2006, 03:12 PM
Wow, your answers surprize me. My mom is gone, passed away in 2000. (Daddy passed in 1995.) I loved her very, very much, and still miss her. There are things that happen that I would like to be able to share with her. I wish she could see how her grandaughters are turning out. She would be very pleased. I understand her more now, as I get older and share some of her experiences, and would like to be able to tell her, to discuss things with her and get her opinion. I have lots of questions that I never asked and would like to now. All this said, my husband is the one who is still here, who supported me through the loss of both my parents. He's my rock. Life without him would be .......I can't put these feelings into words. I am glad I never had to choose, but I believe if I did, I would choose my husband, and I believe that she would have wanted me to.


Marilyn..your posts always touch my heart in so many ways.