Janet
01-14-2007, 05:08 AM
I don't remember if I've mentioned my husbands sister very much here. We don't get along that well, so usually there is not much to talk about. Stephanie has done quite well for herself, I guess. She knew early on what she wanted and would settle for. Growing up, my husbands family owned and operated a Floral Shop. Everyone in town knew them and they were well liked, especially my FIL. He was such a character.
Since most of their lives revolved around the business, getting the bouquets made and delivered, there wasn't much time for anything else. Especially keeping the house cleaned and things fixed. So Steph always wanted more.
She became quite fixated on money and "believes" herself now to be a "perfect" Christian (if there is such a person.) She wouldn't marry unless the guy could provide a certain size karat diamond ring. She got what she wanted. Her husband is a fund raiser for a hospital and she started a business and together they make over 500,000 a year. They have two sons 12 and 14. Because of Steph's actions, most of us finding it disgusting for this "perfect" Christian. It is mostly just for show and she does show it while out in a crowd. She very judgemental, likes to flaunt what they do, where they go, what they can buy and have bought.
This was my in-laws second marriage. They married in '65 and worked hard to blend their families. The first few years were a struggle, but it soon all came together. Stephanie had never accepted Vivian as her mother (Steph was 5 when her mother was killed in a car/train accident.). She was nice to Vivian, but never let her get close. Any way...like I said, she can say some pretty off the wall things and did so at the funeral home. She was up by the casket with her step-sister and when introducing herself, would say "I'm Dick and Marilyn's daughter." It hurt my other sister-in-law very much, because Vivian was a good mother to Stephanie. Even in death, she couldn't accept her. Vivian has been her mother since the age of 5 and she's 48 years old now. She even went so far to say that she knows how Diane feels, because she lost "her" mother too.
My husband was hurt by something Stephanie said also. He loved his step-mother very much. I've mentioned how he visited every Tues. and Friday since she entered the nursing home. When Vivian passed that Thursday morning, my husband called to let Stephanie know (she lives i New Jersey.) She told him it was good that he could be there for Diane and David. My husband wasn't there for them....they were there together for their mother and for some unknown reason, Stephanie can't or won't see this.
I really don't need advice or anything, I just wanted to vent a little bit. I'm always afraid if I bottle things up, I'll explode and this is not the time, so soon after Vivian's passing. There will come a time in the future, that things will probably come up, but now is not the time.
Since most of their lives revolved around the business, getting the bouquets made and delivered, there wasn't much time for anything else. Especially keeping the house cleaned and things fixed. So Steph always wanted more.
She became quite fixated on money and "believes" herself now to be a "perfect" Christian (if there is such a person.) She wouldn't marry unless the guy could provide a certain size karat diamond ring. She got what she wanted. Her husband is a fund raiser for a hospital and she started a business and together they make over 500,000 a year. They have two sons 12 and 14. Because of Steph's actions, most of us finding it disgusting for this "perfect" Christian. It is mostly just for show and she does show it while out in a crowd. She very judgemental, likes to flaunt what they do, where they go, what they can buy and have bought.
This was my in-laws second marriage. They married in '65 and worked hard to blend their families. The first few years were a struggle, but it soon all came together. Stephanie had never accepted Vivian as her mother (Steph was 5 when her mother was killed in a car/train accident.). She was nice to Vivian, but never let her get close. Any way...like I said, she can say some pretty off the wall things and did so at the funeral home. She was up by the casket with her step-sister and when introducing herself, would say "I'm Dick and Marilyn's daughter." It hurt my other sister-in-law very much, because Vivian was a good mother to Stephanie. Even in death, she couldn't accept her. Vivian has been her mother since the age of 5 and she's 48 years old now. She even went so far to say that she knows how Diane feels, because she lost "her" mother too.
My husband was hurt by something Stephanie said also. He loved his step-mother very much. I've mentioned how he visited every Tues. and Friday since she entered the nursing home. When Vivian passed that Thursday morning, my husband called to let Stephanie know (she lives i New Jersey.) She told him it was good that he could be there for Diane and David. My husband wasn't there for them....they were there together for their mother and for some unknown reason, Stephanie can't or won't see this.
I really don't need advice or anything, I just wanted to vent a little bit. I'm always afraid if I bottle things up, I'll explode and this is not the time, so soon after Vivian's passing. There will come a time in the future, that things will probably come up, but now is not the time.