Sick of it!

[Mandy]

No matter where i go, which forum i visit (around the world) who i chat with, and who i see in real life, i feel like i don't belong, and i'm sick of it!! I get the feeling i get looked at, or thought of like i just dropped out of space!! :(
I go out of my way to be nice, and what for?? I'm invisable whether i'm nice or not, so why keep trying!!

I'm SICK of it all UGHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[khardy57]

Mandy, I've felt the same way on different forums. I think sometimes when you try to join in an established one, the older members sometimes ignore you.

I think you're doing the right thing by just being yourself and being friendly and approachable.

Take care.
Kim

[Janet]

Mandy, I hate that you feel that way. I do too on one other forum, but not all the time. I think if I would post more there it would help, but I'm always afraid of being critisized.

I sure hope you don't feel that way here. It's been pretty slow, and I have to admit, I haven't been here as much lately. Oh I check in a couple times a day, but don't always post.

I for one, want you to know you're liked, wanted and needed here!!!

[Gina]

[QUOTE=Mandy]No matter where i go, which forum i visit (around the world) who i chat with, and who i see in real life, i feel like i don't belong, and i'm sick of it!! I get the feeling i get looked at, or thought of like i just dropped out of space!! :(
I go out of my way to be nice, and what for?? I'm invisable whether i'm nice or not, so why keep trying!!

I'm SICK of it all UGHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!![/QUOTE


Mandy sometimes I feel that way with another forum but you know what who cares, they dont personally know me and its their misfortune. You belong here so keep on posting girl, I myself have been busy and not posting much but I do read the threads daily... Keep them coming and your not invisible.

[Tink]

Mandy, I'm sorry you feel bad!

I know it can be hard to feel you fit in sometimes. I think we all experiencce it to some degree. I hope you know you're always welcome here.

I belong to several different sites, and have to say this is the only one where there just isn't ANYONE I don't really care for. It's unique that no one is nasty or overbearing. I love that we all support each other and show genuine concern for each other.

[DianaB]

Mandy, I'm sorry you feel bad!

I know it can be hard to feel you fit in sometimes. I think we all experiencce it to some degree. I hope you know you're always welcome here.

I belong to several different sites, and have to say this is the only one where there just isn't ANYONE I don't really care for. It's unique that no one is nasty or overbearing. I love that we all support each other and show genuine concern for each other.

Tink, that's so sweet of you!

Mandy, I know how you feel. It's been really slow on here lately and posts aren't getting answered very quickly. I had one that had over 11 lookers before anyone answered it. Like you, I was feeling pretty bummed about it. I know that the past few weeks while I was working I checked things out but really didn't have the energy to post any answers. We just need to post more things about what's going on in our lives and get some action going here.

[Marilyn]

Mandy, please don't leave us. I feel the same way sometimes. I'll post in a thread, and no one acknowledges my comment at all. I too feel invisible at time, but I realize that sometimes it's me, and what I posted did not peek anyone's interest. Oh well, your comments are always appreciated!! even when they are not always acknowledged.

Please stick with us. It's been slow lately. I for one have been cleaning and trying to get to the gym more, cook healthier foods & plan our vacation this year. I think we are spending 3 weeks in Europe, so I've got lots of planning to do.

Please stick with us!!!!

[Mandy]

Girls, it?s not you guys. I?m feeling really low this week, ive been working hard, started spring cleaning the place this week.
I posted this thread on here, because I know you girls would understand.
We went away for a little break last week, thought I would come back rested, and refreshed, well it just didn?t happen. The break was nice, but somehow it just didnt do it for me.
I feel like a basketcase typing this, coz I usually am not like this at all, I just feel a bit depressed.
About my posts not being acknowledged, I don?t know why that bugged me yesterday? Yes at times I feel like a dork posting, coz people wont read it, but then I think, it?s something else that draws more interest, I admit I don?t read every post/thread, so I don?t expect others to.
But sometimes it?s just that little something inside of me, that makes me feel like I don?t belong anywhere.
I visit a Dutch forum, you would think, speaking the same language, living in the same country, it would make it easier to post, it?s a brand new forum, so we are all new, but somehow I get shy, so I don?t say what I really think? I never want to say any hurtful things, so I stay nice, but they say nasty, hurtful things to each other, that makes me wonder if internet is really for me?
It sounds pitiful, and you guys may wonder ?what is she worried about? but it bugs me, and I?m posting this here, because I know if anyone will understand what I feel, it?s you.
In real life I feel the same, on Monday my husband asked me to call a car dealer for him, I knew exactly what he wanted to know, so I phoned, they put me through to several people, not one of them was able to answer my question, but the last guy I spoke to would find out for me, and call me back later in the day, I give him my home # and I wait for he?s call.
I told the guy not to call my husband, coz he?s on the road, and busy, he doesn?t have time for this.
Next thing, my husband phones me, the guy from the car dealer had phoned him with the info! I was so angry! As if I wouldn?t understand what he was talking about, so he had to call my husband?
There?s loads of other little things like this, with friends, and family too, I wont go in detail, coz I?ll be typing for the rest of the day LOL

Ladies thanks for your replies, that means a LOT to me, you are all very nice, and a true friend over the net, thank you for being here, you are ALL special to me! :heart:

[Mandy]

Girls, it's not you guys. I'm feeling really low this week, ive been working hard, started spring cleaning the place this week.
I posted this thread on here, because I know you girls would understand.
We went away for a little break last week, thought I would come back rested, and refreshed, well it just didn't happen. The break was nice, but somehow it just didnt do it for me.
I feel like a basketcase typing this, coz I usually am not like this at all, I just feel a bit depressed.
About my posts not being acknowledged, I don't know why that bugged me yesterday? Yes at times I feel like a dork posting, coz people wont read it, but then I think, it's something else that draws more interest, I admit I don't read every post/thread, so I don't expect others to.
But sometimes it's just that little something inside of me, that makes me feel like I don't belong anywhere.
I visit a Dutch forum, you would think, speaking the same language, living in the same country, it would make it easier to post, it's a brand new forum, so we are all new, but somehow I get shy, so I don't say what I really think? I never want to say any hurtful things, so I stay nice, but they say nasty, hurtful things to each other, that makes me wonder if internet is really for me?
It sounds pitiful, and you guys may wonder ?what is she worried about? but it bugs me, and I'm posting this here, because I know if anyone will understand what I feel, it's you.
In real life I feel the same, on Monday my husband asked me to call a car dealer for him, I knew exactly what he wanted to know, so I phoned, they put me through to several people, not one of them was able to answer my question, but the last guy I spoke to would find out for me, and call me back later in the day, I give him my home # and I wait for he's call.
I told the guy not to call my husband, coz he's on the road, and busy, he doesn't have time for this.
Next thing, my husband phones me, the guy from the car dealer had phoned him with the info! I was so angry! As if I wouldn't understand what he was talking about, so he had to call my husband?
There's loads of other little things like this, with friends, and family too, I wont go in detail, coz I'll be typing for the rest of the day LOL

Ladies thanks for your replies, that means a LOT to me, you are all very nice, and a true friend over the net, thank you for being here, you are ALL special to me! :heart:


Sorry if this post looks strange, but it's because i typed it out on word before posting it, i knew it would take me longer than 5 minutes to reply with phone ringing, and stuff here.

[Janet]

Mandy, we don't care how strange or not strange a post looks, we're just glad you're here and know you can count on us!! We love you!!:)

[Marilyn]

Mandy, we definitely can relate to what you are talking about!!!! Your experience with the car dealer is a great example. We've all been there. I don't know why some men just cannot acknowledge that a woman may understand technical stuff. Some of the men know less than we do about such things. Hang in there and stick with us. We do care!!!:heart:

[rivermom]

Mandy - I need to get off the horse forum more and visit 4wt. I missed your thread and I am so sorry.

So many hugs are sent your way. Schatzie, Ransom, and yes even Wildfloer send them too.


Chin up girl - the sun will shine on your back soon and you will feel better!!

[Tink]

Mandy, I'm glad it's not us who made you feel bad. I know I don't always have time to read all the threads, so end up not responding when someone just needs a little acknowledgement... for that I apologize.

I'm glad you're staying on with us. We need each and every woman on here to keep this melting pot seasoned just right.

[Mandy]

What would i do without you all?! I would have no place to go vent, cry, talk, and be myself. So no, i'm not going anywhere. I know too well, us girls have to stick together!
I'm feeling better today, and starting to think of the good things in life, and appreciate the good friends i do have!
Thanks girls, you are all the BEST!!

[rivermom]

What would i do without you all?! I would have no place to go vent, cry, talk, and be myself. So no, i'm not going anywhere. I know too well, us girls have to stick together!
I'm feeling better today, and starting to think of the good things in life, and appreciate the good friends i do have!
Thanks girls, you are all the BEST!!


This is good to hear Mandy. Early this am when I awoke I thought of you and was wondering how you were feeling.

More hugs sent your way!! :)

[KikiLane]

Oh Mandy I hope you feel better. I am new here so I dont really know too much about whats going on. But I do understand how you feel. I get sad sometimes and feel like I dont have any friends... If you ever want to talk, please pm me!

[Mandy]

Thanks KikiLane, that's very sweet of you :)

[magnolia]

Mandy,

I think quite a few of us feel like you do on other forums. Due to busy work schedules and home life, I can't seem to get on the sites I visit for more than a few minutes at a time. I spend that time reading and catching up, maybe making a post or two here or there (seems a lot of times when I post a reply, no one else posts after that so I guess I am the "thread killer - lol!!). I have several forums I belong too and just can't spend all my time reading and posting. This is one forum that it doesn't matter how often you post, how long you've been gone (I, myself, have been gone for a few months), one's opinion and self is always welcome here - that's what makes this place so great!!

Glad to read you are feeling better!

[RLC12345678]

Mandy, you are by far one of my all-time favorite people here!!!!!!! It HAS been slow lately and I will admit I have not been around as much as I would like to have been, but I'm back now and I cannot wait to chat with you more! If the forum you are talking about us YT, don't even worry. With over 16,000 members there now, it can often be overwhelming. I have about 5,000 posts there now and a LOT of times I have to bump my threads up a time or two in order to get anyone to respond. If that has happened to you, don't take it personally. Threads there often just get buried in the mix. Just bump them up and your threads will get seen. Chin up. You are so kind and lovely and I would hate it if you quit posting here.

[Mandy]

Suzi, and Rebecca, you are both so sweet! It's not only the forums, i felt this around me too, ide be walking thru town, see odd people, things, teens doing stuff, and say hurtful things to each other, and i wonder "what am i doing here" i still feel the same about that part, what is becoming of our society :confused:

To crown it all, i have a dear friend thats lost the "trails" a bit, has been on the wrong track for quite some time now, i have tried so hard to help, but felt my help was not what she wanted, so i backed off, i quit talking about her problem, and so did she.
Now she has met this older guy, i thought he would get her straight/sober, boy how wrong i was.
She called last week, wanting to come visit because they had to "pick up some stuff" in the neighborhood, and wanted to drop in. As much as i hate myself for doing it, i had to say no.
Sorry, but i dont want that stuff in my house! I have a teen to think about, and besides that, i just hate any of it, i want nothing nada to do with it!

Sorry... i got blabbering, and just kept typing lol :D

[rivermom]

Suzi, and Rebecca, you are both so sweet! It's not only the forums, i felt this around me too, ide be walking thru town, see odd people, things, teens doing stuff, and say hurtful things to each other, and i wonder "what am i doing here" i still feel the same about that part, what is becoming of our society :confused:

To crown it all, i have a dear friend thats lost the "trails" a bit, has been on the wrong track for quite some time now, i have tried so hard to help, but felt my help was not what she wanted, so i backed off, i quit talking about her problem, and so did she.
Now she has met this older guy, i thought he would get her straight/sober, boy how wrong i was.
She called last week, wanting to come visit because they had to "pick up some stuff" in the neighborhood, and wanted to drop in. As much as i hate myself for doing it, i had to say no.
Sorry, but i dont want that stuff in my house! I have a teen to think about, and besides that, i just hate any of it, i want nothing nada to do with it!

Sorry... i got blabbering, and just kept typing lol :D

Mandy ~ You standing up for your beliefs is a HUGE deal. I am so proud of you. Your family means a lot to you and don't say "as much as I hate myself I had to say no". You and your family comes first for goodness sake. And when there are inmoral substances that might show up in your home then it's up to you (and the family) to protect it.

You did the right thing and kudos to you!! :thumbup:

Your friend who might not be able to see it now should thank you for telling her no. She obviously isn't strong enough to make the right choices and you are a true friend for helping her do it.

[Mandy]

Thanks Sheryl, you know it's hard for me to say "no" she is about 8 years younger then i am, i have know this girl all her life, her mothers sister is a very good friend of mine, and i have told her what she comes and buys here, she was aware of the fact that she was using, but her own mother was in denial. I promised to do what i can to help her, but she doesnt want help. I love this girl, and i know she would move heaven, and earth for me. I would love to scoop her up, and carry her under my wing, and care for her, but shes a grown up young lady with her own life, she knows she can talk to me anytime, and come here without any of that "stuff"