Would you?

[Ponyup]

Would you let your husband go to a movie with a mutual female friend, alone?

[Tink]

It really depends on the female.
And whether you trust your hubby.

[cindy0721]

umm truthfully probaby not... but there is always a first time for everything..

[Passionfruition]

Probably not....though it does depend on who it is, I guess. If it were my best friend, I really wouldn't have a problem with it. Even though that might look funny if someone from church saw the two of them sharing a popcorn, LOL.

How about the flipside? Would your husband let you go to a movie with a mutual male friend, alone?

[Janet]

I wouldn't care, but hey you all know how I feel.

Seriously....why would someone's husband want to go to a movie with a female other than his wife? And why would a female want to go with someone else's husband?

With a controlled fire, you don't get burnt, let one get out of control and it destroys everything.

[AngieDoogles]

My husband has several female friends, but he never really spends time alone with any of them (except once he spent a few hours with my best friend Ashley because I was out of town and he really needed to pass the time, poor guy didn't know what to do with himself...they picked me up as soon as I got back in town though and we all had a great time). If he has a friend that he really likes, he is so excited about me meeting him or her that we all just hang out and that's how it continues in the future too because then we all know each other.

I guess it just depends on the guy and how much you trust him and the female in question, but like Janet said, why would he want to?

Maybe you could suggest that you go along to get to know his female friend better? Is it a movie you would be interested in as well? Good luck.

[Mandy]

Ahhh my husband can take my best friend to the movie anytime, but we have been friends for years, and years. There is a certain trust between the 4 of us, we have been on vacations together, her and her hubby see me like a little sister.

Now my question would be, why would they want to go to the movie together? Is she your best friend that you trust 100% ? Does the movie they want to go to not interest you?
If i want to take a man to the movie, it would be my husband, brother, or Dad.

If my husband wanted to take a female that i hardly knew to the movie, i would have to question him. Play with fire, you will have to sit on the blisters.

[Ponyup]

Probably not....though it does depend on who it is, I guess. If it were my best friend, I really wouldn't have a problem with it. Even though that might look funny if someone from church saw the two of them sharing a popcorn, LOL.

How about the flipside? Would your husband let you go to a movie with a mutual male friend, alone?

The female is the wife of my friend from high school. We have started spending a lot of time with them as a couple. There is a movie out that i'm really not keen on seeing because i'm afraid it will frighten me & i'm not a big fan of scary movies.

I have a lot of male friends that i have been friends with for ages. However, when it got right down to it, i would not feel comfortable going to movie with them alone anymore. My husband would allow it no questions asked, but i just don't feel right about.

I guess he got a little peeved because when he asked I was like NO way Jose, & he doesn't like being told he can't do something. After we talked & I told him I wasn't comfortable with him or I doing it, he seemed to be more open.

I'm just thinking about the fire thing. It's not that I don't trust him, but I see things way in the future. Like they start doing more stuff together, she becomes his best friend instead of me, I'm left home all alone all the time (my husband really is the only person I do stuff with), & then we have a fight & something bad happens.

[highlans]

Would you let your husband go to a movie with a mutual female friend, alone?
Have you been asked to go along? if you have and you do not fancy the movie then yes just trust him, but if you have not been asked then no no no.

[Janet]

The female is the wife of my friend from high school. We have started spending a lot of time with them as a couple. There is a movie out that i'm really not keen on seeing because i'm afraid it will frighten me & i'm not a big fan of scary movies.

I have a lot of male friends that i have been friends with for ages. However, when it got right down to it, i would not feel comfortable going to movie with them alone anymore. My husband would allow it no questions asked, but i just don't feel right about.

I guess he got a little peeved because when he asked I was like NO way Jose, & he doesn't like being told he can't do something. After we talked & I told him I wasn't comfortable with him or I doing it, he seemed to be more open.

I'm just thinking about the fire thing. It's not that I don't trust him, but I see things way in the future. Like they start doing more stuff together, she becomes his best friend instead of me, I'm left home all alone all the time (my husband really is the only person I do stuff with), & then we have a fight & something bad happens.

There you go!! You've answered your own question. Why start something that could possibly end up a disaster? Even though you trust him and trust her...you never really know what kind of 'chemistry' could happen...why take the chance.

[Ponyup]

There you go!! You've answered your own question. Why start something that could possibly end up a disaster? Even though you trust him and trust her...you never really know what kind of 'chemistry' could happen...why take the chance.

I just wanted to make sure I wasn't crazy or being unreasonable.

[AngieDoogles]

I just wanted to make sure I wasn't crazy or being unreasonable.

I don't think that is unreasonable at all. There are different "rules" when you are married. If you feel uncomfortable with something he should have enough respect for you to not do it. I'm glad you were able to talk it through. That's the best possible thing you could do in that situation.

[judy]

If you're not comfortable, don't do it. Marriages follow the rules set only by the 2 people married. I wouldn't worry too much about being considered crazy. When you're stil married in 25 years, it won't make a bit of difference!

[RLC12345678]

Well, when the movie 300 came out, I REALLY wanted to go see it but my hubby refused to go see it. Our mutual male friend was all excited about seeing it so we went together. No harm done. In my opinion, you shouldn't deny your hubby the chance to go to a movie he really wants to go see just because you don't want to go see it and the only person he can find to go with is another female. You could make things really simple and just go with him yourself.

[Ponyup]

Well, when the movie 300 came out, I REALLY wanted to go see it but my hubby refused to go see it. Our mutual male friend was all excited about seeing it so we went together. No harm done. In my opinion, you shouldn't deny your hubby the chance to go to a movie he really wants to go see just because you don't want to go see it and the only person he can find to go with is another female. You could make things really simple and just go with him yourself.

Actually it was a similar situation. When he asked, I just replied that i might be scared & her husband was like I have a lot of work to do this weekend. So my hubby was like well then her & I will just go. Maybe it was the fact that he didn't run it by me first. I will go, especially now that's it's at the cheap theater. I was just nervous about seeing at $9 since I will probably spend most of the movie with my eyes closed.

I guess I can see your point & it'd probably be alright if it was only a once in a blue moon kinda thing & he asked me to go first.

[tina]

It wouldn't bother me at all if it was a mutual friend. Now, if my husband was headed to the movies with a woman I barely knew or was not familiar with, I can't say I would be comfortable. Especially since I love to go the movies!

In your situation it wouldn't bother me, but you have to go with what makes you comfortable. There's no sense in putting a strain on your relationship over a movie. Just be honest with him (and yourself) why you were hesitant.

[Jlynn]

It wouldn't bother me at all if it was a mutual friend. Now, if my husband was headed to the movies with a woman I barely knew or was not familiar with, I can't say I would be comfortable. Especially since I love to go the movies!

In your situation it wouldn't bother me, but you have to go with what makes you comfortable. There's no sense in putting a strain on your relationship over a movie. Just be honest with him (and yourself) why you were hesitant.


I completely agree with this post. Of course, we each have to do what we're comfortable with:)

[potter]

Actually it was a similar situation. When he asked, I just replied that i might be scared & her husband was like I have a lot of work to do this weekend. So my hubby was like well then her & I will just go. Maybe it was the fact that he didn't run it by me first. I will go, especially now that's it's at the cheap theater. I was just nervous about seeing at $9 since I will probably spend most of the movie with my eyes closed.

I guess I can see your point & it'd probably be alright if it was only a once in a blue moon kinda thing & he asked me to go first.

Why don't you just go? If you are really afraid, doesn't matter if you kept your eyes closed most of the time rather than sitting at home thinking of what might happen etc etc. The $9 will be well spent.

[Marilyn]

Why don't you just go? If you are really afraid, doesn't matter if you kept your eyes closed most of the time rather than sitting at home thinking of what might happen etc etc. The $9 will be well spent.

I agree with this, and the three of you can go. The alternative is to convince him to wait untill it comes out on DVD.

It's not just what could happen, it's how it looks to other people. People seeing them together could think that you are having problems. Things can get so blown out of proportion by nosey people.

Sometimes there is nothing specifically wrong with something, but it may not be wise for various reasons.

[Ponyup]

Why don't you just go? If you are really afraid, doesn't matter if you kept your eyes closed most of the time rather than sitting at home thinking of what might happen etc etc. The $9 will be well spent.

I definitely will, it's at the cheap theater now so it's only $1.50 for the matinee, we can probably convince her husband to go, so it'll be nice. I think it just got blow out of perportion because of the situation that it was breeched in (we were all at a party & my hubby was a little loopy).

I agree it was more about how it would look than anything. In my head it just didn't seem right, like something that shouldn't happen. I guess i'm getting conservative in my old age. LOL.

[RLC12345678]

Actually it was a similar situation. When he asked, I just replied that i might be scared & her husband was like I have a lot of work to do this weekend. So my hubby was like well then her & I will just go. Maybe it was the fact that he didn't run it by me first. I will go, especially now that's it's at the cheap theater. I was just nervous about seeing at $9 since I will probably spend most of the movie with my eyes closed.

I guess I can see your point & it'd probably be alright if it was only a once in a blue moon kinda thing & he asked me to go first.
That is so funny that you mentioned the cheap theater bc I could not justify going to the movies with my guy friend without my hubby but the fact that the movie was playing at the cheap theater was what pushed me over the edge. Go and have fun.....even if you keep your eyes closed most of the time, at least you and your hubby will get to spend some good quality time together...cuddling!

[Ponyup]

That is so funny that you mentioned the cheap theater bc I could not justify going to the movies with my guy friend without my hubby but the fact that the movie was playing at the cheap theater was what pushed me over the edge. Go and have fun.....even if you keep your eyes closed most of the time, at least you and your hubby will get to spend some good quality time together...cuddling!

cuddling AKA my head buried in his shoulder with my hands over my ears.

[goofywife]

MY DH would not do it and I would never either.

Would you let your husband go to a movie with a mutual female friend, alone?