DH not talking to me...

[toodles]

I got a tattoo...this is #4 for me. they are all in discreet places. I went with 2 friends of mine to get theirs and decided to get the one I have been wanting.

He is so mad at me for getting it. he is begging me to have it removed. it is a cross. not big, it is 2.5 inches tall. between my shoulder blades. he wants me to have it removed...I said "what about the other 3?" he said "no, just that one...you had the other 3 when I met you."

whatever

I don't see me getting it removed. He knew when he met me that I liked them...but not to the point to where they would be covering my body...but I do like to have a few here and there. He knew when he met me that I had them...He accepted them. well...here we are now and he is freaking out about it and to the point that he won't speak to me at all. you know, it is not like I did this just to piss him off. I didn't do it out of rebellion...I did it because I wanted it.

well...he is pissed. I dont know what to say to him. I guess I will just ride it out and know that I better not get another one ;)

[Mandy]

Hmm... i dont really know what to say to you on this one girl, apart from giving him time, to accept the tattoo... maybe, in time to come, he will like it? On one hand, i would say, its your body, and if you like it, go for it, but on the other hand :confused:

Im personally not a tattoo fan, nor is my hubby, neither of us have any tattoo's or piercings exept my ears.

[Ponyup]

I have tattoos & like them. I'm wanting another one on my toe. I liked the cross, you showed a picture of on YT, is that the one you got. I'm not sure my hubby is thrilled about the thought of me getting another on my toe, but it's my body & if i want it so be it. I would just tell him that it makes you happy to express yourself in this way. Maybe mention that there are things that make him happy that you don't particularly care for, but you love hm & want him to be happy. I'd give it time, the shock may wear off. He just may be upset that he wasn't consulted about it before it happened. Since it's descreet & adorable I don't see what the big deal is.

P.S. I'm sending your shirt out today. :D

[Gina]

Well I am not a big fan of tattoos either and I do forbid my kids to get them. But you are an adult , and I guess you should have run it by him. But hey its your body... Just realize as you get older they do fade and everything does shift south. So think about it for the right reasons. Sorry I am no help.

[DianaB]

I would guess that you're husband is upset because you did it with friends and he didn't even know about it. The other 3 you had before but since you're married he probably would have liked to be informed or maybe with you when you had it done. You kinda' left him out. I would have been upset if my husband did something like that to me and I didn't know anything about it until it was already done. JMO

[toodles]

i really didn't think it would bother him that much. i knew he would never get one but I didn't realize he would flip out if I got another one. We are fine now...we have spent the entire day together and it has not been brought up and we have had a great day. I think he will be ok in a few days.

I didn't do it thinking "let's see how mad I can make Jim."...I did it because it is something I have been wanting to do and it is just part of who I am.

[bkessler]

I am sorry you and your husband are in a disagreement over this.. As someone said earlier, its your body and if you wanted to get one thats fine... I guess you should ust waiting it out and be very sweet to hubby tonight and she if you can cheer him up!! I am sure he'll forget about it over time.. Good luck.. I bet the tattoo is beautiful... Don't you have a picture of it that you can post.. I would love to see it

[toodles]

ok...here is a pic. I really need a tan so don't laugh :D

[bkessler]

I just saw it on YT and replied there!! Its a beautiful tattoo!! I hope your hubby grows to love it too!!

[Passionfruition]

My hubby acted similarly when I donated my hair to Locks of Love last summer. He didn't even want to look at me....for days! But, he came around. He apologised, and says he has a hard time with changes like that. He even came around to say he loved my haircut afterall and he thought I looked super cute with short hair! Things were difficult between us for a few days, but it got better. I guess that's what marriage is all about....growing, learning, accepting....etc.

I like your tattoo! Is there any specific meaning behind the design? I don't have any tattoos, but I've been thinking about maybe getting a small one on my foot. But, just thinking...hmm...

[Tink]

I have many friends with tatoos, and I've considered getting one at different times, but what's always stopped me is the idea that with age the skin doesn't look so good, and a rose tatoo might turn into a wilted flower, or a sun might "set" and accent the affects of gravity. LOL Having worked in a nursing home, I've seen some rather odd ones. :confused:

[AngieDoogles]

I hope this is resolved quickly for you and your hubby, Mandee. Sometimes men can be moody. Hopefully he will come around. Good luck!

[Emmsmom]

I don't mind tatoos as long as they are tasteful. I have often thought of getting one but I worry about the same thing that TInk does. Plus, I am worried about how painful it would be. Just give him some time and see how things go. I would think having it removed would be more costly and more painful that getting it in the first place. Good luck!

[rivermom]

I think the design of your tatoo is very nice. I myself have two of them. A small one around my ankle and one on my lower back. I doubt I will get anymore.

Hopefully your husband will in time accept what you have done. It's not like you can wash it off. Who knows, maybe it's not so much the tatoo but the reasoning behind it, jealousy of you being out w/ your friends, etc. Who knows as I can only guess.

Either way I hope the both of find peace again.

[Passionfruition]

I hope things are going better for you guys this week!

[Janet]

Hope things are better between you and your husband concerning the tatoo.

I agree with Tink. I have NEVER seen a tatoo on an older man or woman that I thought looked good. IMO it definitely looks worse on an older woman. That's why I've always stopped myself from getting one.

[AngieDoogles]

Mandee, I just wanted to let you know that I hope you and your hubby are feeling better now.

[toodles]

I hope things are going better for you guys this week!

thank you. yes, things are better but he still hates the fact that i got a tattoo. he still wants me to have it removed. i went for a consultation and i just dont think i can do it. it takes 7-10 treatments and they are said to be extremely painful and you have to wait a month between treatments. i just dont see me doing that. plus...the treatments are $250 EACH!!! so...um...NO...i'm not going to do it. plus...i have to wait until the tattoo is 4 months old before they will do the treatments and by then, he will be used to it :)

thanks for asking tho :) we are really doing fine...we have had a GREAT week, friends and family have been in town and we have really enjoyed that.

[toodles]

Hope things are better between you and your husband concerning the tatoo.

I agree with Tink. I have NEVER seen a tatoo on an older man or woman that I thought looked good. IMO it definitely looks worse on an older woman. That's why I've always stopped myself from getting one.

yeah, if i had them in places that people would see them when I am older, i would be concerned. but by the time i am old enough for them to look tacky, i don't think i will be wearing a bikini or a short shirt or anything like that which would reveal the tattoo. they are all concealed and only visible when I want them to be visible. this is another reason I am not getting any more...i am out of "inconspicuous" areas :) the most visible place I have on is on the top of my foot..and again...it is covered when i want it covered.

[AngieDoogles]

I'm so glad to hear things are going better for you Toodles!! :) That's awesome.

[Taurus Babe]

I'm glad ya;ll are talking now. Didn't take him too long to get over it! Phew!

[Janet]

Sure hope I didn't hurt your feelings about the 'old' talk. I've always wanted a tatoo also, but I would want it where I could see it. As I get older, my skin just isn't holding the shape it use to...LOL I have to live vicariously through others.

[Mandy]

Toodles its good to hear things are better between you guys :thumbup:

[judy]

Sure hope I didn't hurt your feelings about the 'old' talk. I've always wanted a tatoo also, but I would want it where I could see it. As I get older, my skin just isn't holding the shape it use to...LOL I have to live vicariously through others.


I just got a pretty large tattoo on my back of a rose - the stem with some leaves and flowers go into a lower back tattoo. It's really gorgeous. My rose tattoo that used to "grow" out of my bikini is somewhat wilted, but the truth is I don't care. My tattoos are hidden. Some people do tend to stereotype you when they see tattoos. It's just human nature, so I only show them when I want them to be seen.

I love them both, even the wilted rose on my tummy. They are who I am, and I like using my body as a way to express who I am (no pole dancing or anything like that) but with clothing, jewelry, the way I wear my hair, etc. I have a lot of fun with it, and I just turned 60.

By the way, tattoos hurt like h*ll!


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