This is home!

[dextress]

Now seriously, i have yet started a thread about on my intro, but rather came here...coz this section feels like home!! i, at almost regular intervals, really really need to vent out. And this is the reason why i joined a women only forum, coz only a woman can understand another.

Yes right now i really need to vent, coz we (DH n me) havent really been "TALKING" since 3 days. i mean its just usual to the point conversation. Hes occupied with work most of the time, and i am occupied with my 1.4 yr old daughter. the only time we sit together is the meal time, when the TV is on too. So no talking again. My daughter keeps waking up several times during the night, so he sleeps in the living room, coz if he doesnt get enough sleep, he feels sleepy at work, hence hindering his performance, which he can not take at any cost. I am ok with this routine most of the time, but sometimes, it really is a pain! I need to someone to talk to at the end of the day.
phew!!!

Thanks for listening to me.

[Mandy]

Most of us know what that feels like. It can be very challenging for a relationship with a baby. I'm sorry you are going through this, but give yourself time, in the end, it all comes right again... and all of these "horrible" moments are forgotten, as your daughter grows, you will start having more time to share with each other.
You have come to the right place to vent, vent all you want here, we are all here for you.

[AngieDoogles]

Aww, I'm sorry things are frustrating. All of us go through things like that in our marriage. My husband, no matter how much I love him or he loves me, is a computer geek. Completely. LOL. He could spend hours and HOURS working on code for a new program or on his "UBUNTU" forums...leaving me to get my socializing from here or my friends in real life. The thing that makes it okay for us is that I tell him when I'm feeling lonely or neglected and then he tries extra hard to be there for me. I think that kind of communication and effort on both parts is key. It makes those feelings of loneliness or frustration a few isolated instances rather than just a way of life.

I don't have children so I can't even begin to understand how much that complicates your situation and how you feel, so I will leave it to the mothers to give advice about that part.

I hope you feel better!

[goofywife]

I am sorry you guys are so stressed. Please remember that best thing you can do for your daugther is to take care of your marriage. You have to have that "couple" time.

[dextress]

He could spend hours and HOURS working on code for a new program or on his "UBUNTU" forums...leaving me to get my socializing from here or my friends in real life.


Same here. This UBUNTU creap!!!! how i hate it!
I am trying my best to be as patient as possible. I let him work, coz thats important too. But all the time??? THAT is a lil too much. Still i havent complained about it till now. Hope he himself realises what i am going through one fine day.
Why do men start taking us for granted soon after marriage? He was NEVER ever like this before marriage. I used to be his first priority. But not anymore... Such a bitter bitter bitter bitter truth!

[Mandy]

Dextress, be open with him, men dont think anything is wrong unless you tell them. Tell him, you feel neglected, and want more of hes time. Go out, and do things together, find a baby sitter for your daughter, find things that will bring back that "spark"

[dextress]

Oh! thats the worst part u see. He knows everything...how i feel n all. but simply no improvement. His daughter n his work have the most importance.
I am leaving everything on time. Hope that helps.

[AngieDoogles]

Oh! thats the worst part u see. He knows everything...how i feel n all. but simply no improvement. His daughter n his work have the most importance.
I am leaving everything on time. Hope that helps.

Maybe you could write him a letter and really pour your heart out to him. Sometimes our men don't realize the importance of what we say to them, but if you wrote a letter, you could really highlight what the problem is and how it makes you feel.

[dextress]

hmmm..
that sounds interesting.
will muster the courage sometime soon n do that.

[AngieDoogles]

Hope it helps! Good luck!

[judy]

Maybe you could write him a letter and really pour your heart out to him. Sometimes our men don't realize the importance of what we say to them, but if you wrote a letter, you could really highlight what the problem is and how it makes you feel.


That's how I do it when talking gets me nowhere. A letter can be read alone and the reactions aren't bounced off on you. He can absorb what you say in his own time, and then when you do talk about it, there's a lot less defensiveness and, hopefully more communication.

It also does take time to get accustomed to babies, and real life. Marriage is a lot of work and has lots of ups and downs. Relax and enjoy the baby. Let him do what he needs to do for a while. You'll never have this time with the baby again. They grow so fast. You can talk to him any time!

What is this website? Now, I'm curous.

[judy]

Yikes! I went to that forum. I got scared. I am a huge nerd and even I got scared!
Angie, we haven't peaked at nerdines yet.

[dextress]

Yikes! I went to that forum. I got scared. I am a huge nerd and even I got scared!
Angie, we haven't peaked at nerdines yet.

which forum?? did i miss something? :confused:

[AngieDoogles]

Yikes! I went to that forum. I got scared. I am a huge nerd and even I got scared!
Angie, we haven't peaked at nerdines yet.

Judy, Brenny says there's no greater compliment than to say he's "peaked at nerdiness"! LOL! :sidesplit: He thinks he still has a long way to go though... :rolleyes:

which forum?? did i miss something? :confused:

I think she went to Ubuntu forums. ;)

[Mandy]

Now what the heck is a UBUNTU forum LOL.... talk about thick... i got a whole PLANK infront of me LMAO! Oh Lordy


Yup, i dont the letter before, wrote it for him, and put it in hes lunchbox.... to my surprise "he got it" LOL

[judy]

which forum?? did i miss something? :confused:


The UBUNTU forum. Check it out - you can smell the testosterone!

Ang - tell Brendon that until he wears a pocket protector he actually hasn't peaked, but he's oh so close!

(I'd love to wear one in my tight jeans pocket with my black boots on - now there's a confusing look!)

[Janet]

I don't know what this UBUNTU is...so give be a clue...directions or just tell me to not worry about it...LOL

[judy]

Absolutely don't worry about it. Never give it another thought! It has something to do with highly technical, testosterone laden, computer factoids. Nothing we need
to live the whole rest of our lives.

[AngieDoogles]

Absolutely don't worry about it. Never give it another thought! It has something to do with highly technical, testosterone laden, computer factoids. Nothing we need
to live the whole rest of our lives.

LOL, well said Judy! Aye, that poor boy lives on Ubuntu forums. He wants you to know Judy that he will one day reach the peak of nerdiness...and today he went one step further. His new major is Computer Science... :rolleyes: Someday I'll post a picture of him wearing a pocket protector! LOL!

[judy]

I'm proud of him! Computer Science is fabulous!

I was a science major. I even surprised myself at the joy I felt doing chemical reactions and writing them out.
(You work backwards when you write them out - it's so cool)

Can't do Soduko though.

[AngieDoogles]

I'm proud of him! Computer Science is fabulous!

I was a science major. I even surprised myself at the joy I felt doing chemical reactions and writing them out.
(You work backwards when you write them out - it's so cool)

Can't do Soduko though.

I LOVE chemistry. I'm not taking any courses in college, but I had both honors and AP chemistry in high school and I always enjoyed it SO much. I had a fabulous teacher though and that's really what makes all the difference in the world. I think I like chemistry because of the hands-on aspect and the math as well.

Oh, I really love Sudoku!! It's so much fun to try to get a faster time each game...

I know, I know...I'm SUCH a nerd..... :rolleyes:


Dextress, sorry to steal your thread. Feel free to come and get us back on topic anytime... :)

[judy]

You're a math person - I'm not. I love math, but I think I have a slight learning disability in it. I had to take remedial algebra to learn how to do chemistry math,
and that did the trick.

Dextress - Sorry. Let's get back to your stuff.

[AngieDoogles]

I think Brendon is the same way. He has SUCH a difficult time with math and actually got a GED rather than a high school diploma because he took algebra 2 four times and couldn't pass it. He has been wanting to be a Computer Science major since he first started college but didn't because of the math. Luckily, we just found out that there's only one extra math class for the IT (information technology) concentration as opposed to the numerous calculus classes required for the programing concentration. He thinks he'll be able to do the math class since it's mostly conceptual and directly related to computers. I think he'll be so much happier in the long run now that he's changed majors. Working with computers is really a huge passion of his.

[Forgivenmom5]

The UBUNTU forum. Check it out - you can smell the testosterone!

Ang - tell Brendon that until he wears a pocket protector he actually hasn't peaked, but he's oh so close!

(I'd love to wear one in my tight jeans pocket with my black boots on - now there's a confusing look!)

Judy--ask Brendon how big of a nerd he is now?

[AngieDoogles]

Judy--ask Brendon how big of a nerd he is now?

hahaha, you found the old thread. Judy, as a gag gift, Mom bought Brendon a pack of pocket protectors for Christmas. It was hilarious. I guess he's peaked in nerdiness now! LOL

[DianaB]

hahaha, you found the old thread. Judy, as a gag gift, Mom bought Brendon a pack of pocket protectors for Christmas. It was hilarious. I guess he's peaked in nerdiness now! LOL

That's sooo funny!!! Brendon has now arrived!!!!!

[AngieDoogles]

That's sooo funny!!! Brendon has now arrived!!!!!

Oh, he loved it! He thinks being considered a nerd is the biggest compliment anyone could give him. He's so cute... :)

[DianaB]

Brendon is such a sweetheart!!!!!

[AngieDoogles]

Brendon is such a sweetheart!!!!!

I agree. I'm pretty lucky! :) I can't wait to show you guys what he got me for Christmas!!

[DianaB]

We can't wait to see it either!!!

[AngieDoogles]

We can't wait to see it either!!!

I think I'll make a thread when I get caught up on all the new posts! :)