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2tiredmom
10-01-2007, 04:00 PM
Hi Everyone,

Just wanted to let you know. I'm trying to get back in touch with you all again.
My life was not my own for a few months with my dad living here with us after his
shoulder replacement surgery. He is now at home and grumpy. He lives 2 1/2 hours from me and I could vent but that's another thread. I took him home a couple of weeks ago and I cleaned his house top to bottom. My dad and I were never very close. Needless to say while he was here we bonded.
He was so dead set about going home when he first came up here. He kept asking can i go home can i go home. Then when the time came he said
when ever your ready for me to go home. Well the doctor cut him loose so I took him home. That was a rough 2 1/2 hour drive home. I cried almost the whole way home. He cried when i left and said I should have stayed up there with you.
But now I try and talk to him every day. My brother lives 3 minutes away from him.
So now I can try and get my life back in order and spend more time with my
family that i have left up here. which is just my husband and my 16 year old daughter. I know that may sound selfish and that I may be cold hearted.
My dad won't be around forever but at least I have gotten to spend quality time with him and gotten to know him better. Now he knows how hard we work and what all we do. I'm so thankflul I still have him in my life. Now maybe I can get more time with my 9 month old Grandson....Thanks for reading.
Tink
10-01-2007, 04:14 PM
Welcome back!
I'm glad you're getting your life back to normal finally. It's gret you got to bond with your Dad, and were kind enough to take care of him when he needed you. It's good to have had that time, but I can understand why it's good to get back to a more normal life again as well.
Mandy
10-02-2007, 12:53 AM
I can definatly understand your happy to have your life back, but i'm glad you had the time/chance to bond with your dad. He realizes what a great daughter he has, and how Blessed he is to have you in hes life!
AngieDoogles
10-02-2007, 05:08 AM
What you're feeling makes perfect sense. You enjoyed the time and bonding you shared with your father, but at the same time, you need a normal life and are happy to get back to that. Just be thankful for the time you had together and try to see him as often as you can. There's absolutely nothing to feel guilty about! You are not at all selfish or cold-hearted!

Hope things continue to improve!
DianaB
10-02-2007, 08:02 AM
It's tough when your parents need help but you still have a family that needs you. You've been a good daughter to be there when your Dad needed you and your family has been great to allow you to be there for him. Now it's time for your family to come first again, but you can still help out your Dad when he needs you. What a treasure to get to know your father better and spend that special time with him. You'll always remember that time with him.
2tiredmom
10-02-2007, 04:09 PM
Thanks girls, I'm so glad to be back on here. I didn't know I missed you all that much. But I was wrong. It's nice to have someone to type to and get many
different opionions and ideas. Your all a great group of women.
judy
10-06-2007, 07:22 PM
Sometimes life can be so good! I hope your Dad remains to feel well.

Enjoy your hew close relationship and your sweet little baby.
Forgivenmom5
10-06-2007, 07:35 PM
I completely understand how you feel. I always take my mom to do everything she needs to on Saturday. Since I am sick I feel guilty that I can't do what she needs to but I have to work on getting well myself. I also hate that Angie has been spending so much time with me and interrupting her life. You have been a good daughter and taken care of him, but you also have your life and things you have to take care of.
AngieDoogles
10-08-2007, 12:17 PM
I completely understand how you feel. I always take my mom to do everything she needs to on Saturday. Since I am sick I feel guilty that I can't do what she needs to but I have to work on getting well myself. I also hate that Angie has been spending so much time with me and interrupting her life. You have been a good daughter and taken care of him, but you also have your life and things you have to take care of.

Mom, don't ever feel bad about us spending so much time with you! We really enjoy being able to see you more often. If anything, that's the silver lining to this whole situation. I love you so much! *hugs*

Cecil, I hope things are still going well for you and your family. Keep us updated if you can. :)
Gina
10-08-2007, 07:04 PM
Cecil.. You are a wonderful daughter and don't you forget that. You took your dad in and took care of him and bonded along the way. Your brother lives close by so don't feel guilty if he needs him he will call him I am sure. You have to get back to your family now and enjoy that beautiful grandchild.... Enjoy..:)
judy
10-09-2007, 07:38 AM
Dear Cecil,

I think you're looking at it as if the glass is half empty. If you could see it as the glass being half full, it might be easier for you.

You and your Dad are close now, he's not alone - you brother lives nearby. He has recovered enough to be home (a real blessing). You get to spend time with your husband, daughter and new grandson, and you can call Dad everyday.

Here's something someone just sent me:

I AM THANKFUL:


FOR THE WIFE
WHO SAYS IT'S HOT DOGS TONIGHT,
BECAUSE SHE IS HOME WITH ME,
AND NOT OUT WITH SOMEONE ELSE.


FOR THE HUSBAND
WHO IS ON THE SOFA
BEING A COUCH POTATO,
BECAUSE HE IS HOME WITH ME
AND NOT OUT AT THE BARS.


FOR THE TEENAGER
WHO IS COMPLAINING ABOUT DOING DISHES
BECAUSE IT MEANS SHE IS AT HOME,
NOT ON THE STREETS.


FOR THE TAXES I PAY
BECAUSE IT MEANS
I AM EMPLOYED .



FOR THE MESS TO CLEAN AFTER A PARTY
BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE
BEEN SURROUNDED BY FRIENDS.


FOR THE CLOTHES THAT FIT A LITTLE TOO SNUG
BECAUSE IT MEANS
I HAVE ENOUGH TO EAT.



FOR MY SHADOW THAT WATCHES ME WORK
BECAUSE IT MEANS
I AM OUT IN THE SUNSHINE



FOR A LAWN THAT NEEDS MOWING,
WINDOWS THAT NEED CLEANING,
AND GUTTERS THAT NEED FIXING
BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE A HOME


FOR ALL THE COMPLAINING
I HEAR ABOUT THE GOVERNMENT
BECAUSE IT MEANS
WE HAVE FREEDOM OF SPEECH. .


FOR THE PARKING SPOT
I FIND AT THE FAR END OF THE PARKING LOT
BECAUSE IT MEANS I AM CAPABLE OF WALKING
AND I HAVE BEEN BLESSED WITH TRANSPORTATION.


FOR MY HUGE HEATING BILL
BECAUSE IT MEANS
I AM WARM.


FOR THE LADY BEHIND ME IN CHURCH
WHO SINGS OFF KEY BECAUSE IT MEANS
I CAN HEAR.



FOR THE PILE OF LAUNDRY AND IRONING
BECAUSE IT MEANS
I HAVE CLOTHES TO WEAR.



FOR WEARINESS AND ACHING MUSCLES
AT THE END OF THE DAY
BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE BEEN
CAPABLE OF WORKING HARD.



FOR THE ALARM THAT GOES OFF
IN THE EARLY MORNING HOURS
BECAUSE IT MEANS I AM ALIVE.













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