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Ponyup
01-17-2008, 06:08 AM
Ugggghhhh.

This week has just been nothing but stress. I have been really busy at work & I'm just recently getting over the tattoo situation, it's still a sore spot, but I'm gonna fix it so it's better.
My Grandpa's weekend home help quit so we've been busting our butts trying to find a replacement. And it's been nothing but a fight because he thought his weekend girl was this awesome person & he loved her & in reality she was a scam artist that was totally taking advantage of him. She has him believing that his weekday help is the bad one & now he's made at her. It's just so much drama. His weekday help truely cares for him & thinks of him as family. The other girl was charging him $15 an hour to sleep there. She was getting like 45 hours from friday night til sunday. The other girl only works 8 hours a day & does all the house work & stuff. The weekend girl did nothing, but sit in there & much, but he doesn't see that. So he's very depressed that she's leaving & doesn't like this change. Even though the rest of us know that it's a good thing.

And to add insult to injury Logan is sick again. I know this time he's just having trouble passing a piece of hoof, but it's still nerve racking. I'm half tempted to ask my boss if I can bring him in here & let him hang out so I can keep an eye on him, so I don't have to worry about him home alone. I know she would let me.
I am just so worried about him & I feel so bad when he doesn't feel good.

Ponyup
01-18-2008, 05:51 AM
Logan is better today. We took him to the vet last night. The vet said something that might be a possibility. She thinks he might be picking up on my anxiety & that's making him sick. My hubby doesn't think so, but it is possible he is a sensitive little monkey. I had a talk with him this morning & told him that I was fine & everything is going to be okay. So we'll see. He may also have seasonal depression. I think I do.....and it is bitterly cold here right now. I guess I have to find a way to relax at least for my dog.

DianaB
01-18-2008, 07:32 AM
I'm sorry that you're under a lot of stress right now. I'm a firm believer in long, hot, bubbly baths for relaxation!!! I'm sure that your Grandfather's help will be straightened out and that Logan will get over his little illness (or whatever) too. Sometimes we have to take care of ourselves in order to be able to continue on.

Janet
01-18-2008, 09:07 AM
I do the same Diana. Nice long bubble baths with candles...no matter what time of day.

I'm glad Logan is better. I believe they pick up on our feelings and moods. I hope you don't mind me suggesting this, but have seen your Dr. about what seems to be anxiety? Maybe a good physical is in order if you haven't had one for some time. Like Diana said...we have to take care of ourselves.

Ponyup
01-18-2008, 09:28 AM
I do the same Diana. Nice long bubble baths with candles...no matter what time of day.

I'm glad Logan is better. I believe they pick up on our feelings and moods. I hope you don't mind me suggesting this, but have seen your Dr. about what seems to be anxiety? Maybe a good physical is in order if you haven't had one for some time. Like Diana said...we have to take care of ourselves.

Yeah i saw him. He gave me some Xanax to help when I feel overwhelmed, but I don't want to take it all the time. Since I set my appointment for the removal I really am a lot better, I'm just a little raw right now. I don't take baths, but i have been spending some extra time in our hot tub. Everything's gonna be okay, I just need a little time to get over this. Also I think once i get the first treatment & see how that goes things will be even better.

But I am worried about my grandpa, he is 90 & he seems so sad over this new development. I don't want him to be sad. I can't imagine how he must feel in general to be with someone all day, every day of your life for 72 years & now he has to be alone. We all do what we can, but we can't be there all the time & it's just heartbreaking.

Janet
01-18-2008, 09:38 AM
I'm really sorry about your Grandpa. I never got to meet any of mine, they had all passed before or shortly after I was born. I wish I could have experienced the love of a grandparent. Is anyone willing to take him in, or will he allow that? Some never want to lose what independence they have. I know it will be that way with my mother.

I hope things start looking better for you soon.

Ponyup
01-18-2008, 10:15 AM
I'm really sorry about your Grandpa. I never got to meet any of mine, they had all passed before or shortly after I was born. I wish I could have experienced the love of a grandparent. Is anyone willing to take him in, or will he allow that? Some never want to lose what independence they have. I know it will be that way with my mother.

I hope things start looking better for you soon.

Once my parents new house is complete they would have plenty of room for him, but he doesn't want to leave his home. My parents live right across the street from his farm so it's not like he's super alone. We're trying to talk my aunt & uncle into moving in with him & then they can have the house after he's gone. that would be the best situation, but we will see what works out.

Grandma has been gone almost 2 years now. None of us thought he'd live very long without her, they kept each other going. He has help there from 7-2 every day and then someone in the family comes & gets him & takes him to dinner. My husband & I are in charge of wed. nights right now & anytime someone needs to trade for some reason. What he really hates is sleeping alone. his old weekend girl slept there on friday & sat. & now he's sad cause he won't have that. He was paying her $15 an hour to sleep, can you believe that. She really had him wrapped around her finger. We're trying to find someone to sleep there a few nights a week for like $40 a night, so he doesn't feel so alone.

Janet I'm sorry you never got to know your grandparents, mine were wonderful. I spend pretty much everyday on there farm. I will never forget the love & wisdom they brought into my life.