New Members?

[Marilyn]

Admin, I have a question that I hope you can answer. Twice lately when I was on the site, there were guests registering. I'd check back later and check new members and the new member's name did not seem real, and they are not posting.

Are people randomly joining forums to gather information electronically somehow rather than to be actual participating members of the forum? I can't think of any other reason that people would register with strange names and never post.

Your thoughts on the subject?

[DianaB]

I've noticed that too. There's always someone new registering and they never post. I've always thought that it was just kids but you'd think that they'd get tired of registering all the time. There's better ways to have fun than to just register for a site. Admin, do you have any answers for us?

[judy]

I have also seen that. I once checked the Members List for the name of one of them because I didn't see any posts, and it wasn't there.

[Janet]

You might have to PM administration with a copy of your post. I don't think they come here very often. I know when we were wanting new emoticans, it took awhile for them to see the thread.

[HALEY]

that's scary?

[judy]

Our stalkers need to get a life. We may love each other, but let's face it - we're not posting anything that interesting to anyone who doesn't know us.

We could get really spicy for a day or two and give them a run for their money.

[HALEY]

Our stalkers need to get a life. We may love each other, but let's face it - we're not posting anything that interesting to anyone who doesn't know us.

We could get really spicy for a day or two and give them a run for their money.

Humm spicy, with working full time and a kid at home believe i would bore these people to death with my life style. :p HA !!!!

[DianaB]

Our stalkers need to get a life. We may love each other, but let's face it - we're not posting anything that interesting to anyone who doesn't know us.

We could get really spicy for a day or two and give them a run for their money.

How do you propose that we do that????

[Marilyn]

Maybe we could talk about hmmmmmm.....sex???

[Janet]

MARILYN!!!!

Surely there is something more fun than that....LOL

[judy]

This is why these stalkers need to get a life! We certainly (almost) never talk about sex. That is what I meant about spice.

SEX!!!

:kiss: :kiss: :kiss: :kiss:

[HALEY]

:yelrotflmao: :yelrotflmao: MARILYN!!!!

Surely there is something more fun than that....LOL

[DianaB]

MARILYN!!!!

Surely there is something more fun than that....LOL

:sidesplit: :sidesplit:

[HALEY]

hummm, sex with a one year old in the house that wakes up every three hours during the night, right now i'll take sleep over sex... But somedays i do miss sex, but when we think about having sex were just so tired my husband always say tomorrow morning well sneak it in, ya right.... tomorrow morning just never comes, Micah is always up before us.. that little stinker....
That's all i wanted for my Birthday this year and for my Birthday i ending up getting the flu, i just can't win...

[DianaB]

Haley, your baby is waking up 3-4 times in the night? At a year old he should be sleeping through the night.

[HALEY]

Haley, your baby is waking up 3-4 times in the night? At a year old he should be sleeping through the night.
i know, the doctor said he's having night tremors or anxiety attacks, go figure.
For one i don't know why a baby has nightmares, the anxiety is probably my fault, i slept with him from birth up. it was only on Saturdays or when my husband slept on the couch i would get the baby and put him in bed with me..

[judy]

It could be nightmares, or he may be off his feeding schedule. You might want to speak to your pediatrician about it for some sleep habit hints.

Some children just have trouble sleeping, and sometimes sleep training can help.

Haley - don't blame yourself. New moms usually feel that everything is their fault. It usually isn't!

[DianaB]

That's what I was wondering too, if he's just getting in the habit of getting up. I know that one thing is to not pick them up in the night. Just pat them on the back until they go back to sleep. Don't play with them in the night because it encourages them to get up. Someone else may have some other ideas.

My kids all slept through the night. I had one that started getting in the habit of waking up and wanting a bottle. Well, one night I let her cry and my husband couldn't take it anymore so he went in to get her a bottle. When he got one out of the fridge the nipple came off and spilled milk all over the floor. By the time he got it cleaned up she was asleep and she quit waking up in the night after that.

Of course, there are babies who just never sleep through the night too. I hope that you find something that helps.

[HALEY]

It could be nightmares, or he may be off his feeding schedule. You might want to speak to your pediatrician about it for some sleep habit hints.

Some children just have trouble sleeping, and sometimes sleep training can help.

Haley - don't blame yourself. New moms usually feel that everything is their fault. It usually isn't!
Thanks Judy, he's been sleeping so good up until this month, i was up again last night at 1:00 am, i got a bottle changed his diaper and fell asleep with him on the couch until my husband woke me up at 4 am this morning.
i think its his teeth you can hear him whinning while he's sleeping ? But he has his yearly check up, i'll talk to the doctor again.

[HALEY]

That's what I was wondering too, if he's just getting in the habit of getting up. I know that one thing is to not pick them up in the night. Just pat them on the back until they go back to sleep. Don't play with them in the night because it encourages them to get up. Someone else may have some other ideas.

My kids all slept through the night. I had one that started getting in the habit of waking up and wanting a bottle. Well, one night I let her cry and my husband couldn't take it anymore so he went in to get her a bottle. When he got one out of the fridge the nipple came off and spilled milk all over the floor. By the time he got it cleaned up she was asleep and she quit waking up in the night after that.

Of course, there are babies who just never sleep through the night too. I hope that you find something that helps.
Diane i can't let him cry, i can't take it, my girlfriend laughs at me all the time, i just can't let him cry it kills me, i gave even gave him oatmeal and a bottle before bed last night thinking that he might be waking up cause he's hungry, but that didn't work he was back up again, but im going to keep doing that cause he is a big baby, maybe one night that will help, i'm also going to give him tylenol tonight before he goes to bed, i really think he's teeth are bugging him again.. wish me luck. we need the sleep.. oh well tonight is Hubby turn to get up... so i can sleep.

[judy]

Haley,

I went to Amazon.com and here's a good page to go to to look for books on sleep habits. One of my grandchildren had sleep problems and there were some helpful hints in some of these books.

http://www.amazon.com/Good-Night-Sleep-Tight-Helping/dp/1593153562/ref=sr_1_44?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1203951172&sr=1-44

[HALEY]

Haley,

I went to Amazon.com and here's a good page to go to to look for books on sleep habits. One of my grandchildren had sleep problems and there were some helpful hints in some of these books.

http://www.amazon.com/Good-Night-Sleep-Tight-Helping/dp/1593153562/ref=sr_1_44?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1203951172&sr=1-44
Thank you Judy, i just sent the web site to my home computer.

[Janet]

It's been 17 years ago...LOL, but I always fed my son a late supper, 30 minutes later a nice warm bath and then off to bed.

He was born in December and woke up only once during the night. When he was 2 months old (Valentine's Day to be exact) he was a little fussy and I was just as bad. When hubby came home from work I told him it was his turn to feed him and give him a bath....that night my son slept all night long and has ever since.

[HALEY]

It's been 17 years ago...LOL, but I always fed my son a late supper, 30 minutes later a nice warm bath and then off to bed.

He was born in December and woke up only once during the night. When he was 2 months old (Valentine's Day to be exact) he was a little fussy and I was just as bad. When hubby came home from work I told him it was his turn to feed him and give him a bath....that night my son slept all night long and has ever since.
What kind of Magic did Hubby do that night??? If i would tell my husband it was his turn, he wouldn't even know what to do, you should of seen him when i was sick, he asked me what we bath the baby with :eek: :eek:

[DianaB]

Diane i can't let him cry, i can't take it, my girlfriend laughs at me all the time, i just can't let him cry it kills me, i gave even gave him oatmeal and a bottle before bed last night thinking that he might be waking up cause he's hungry, but that didn't work he was back up again, but im going to keep doing that cause he is a big baby, maybe one night that will help, i'm also going to give him tylenol tonight before he goes to bed, i really think he's teeth are bugging him again.. wish me luck. we need the sleep.. oh well tonight is Hubby turn to get up... so i can sleep.

I wasn't saying that YOU should let him cry. I was telling what I did with my daughter. I was always stricter than my husband when it came to the kids, but he compliments me now on how well they turned out. I know that it's really hard to let them cry.

If your baby is cutting teeth then Tylenol before bedtime is probably a good idea. Also making sure that he has cereal or something that will help him get a full tummy to sleep through the night. Keep up the oatmeal. Maybe he just needs to get used to a full tummy. Good luck!

[HALEY]

I wasn't saying that YOU should let him cry. I was telling what I did with my daughter. I was always stricter than my husband when it came to the kids, but he compliments me now on how well they turned out. I know that it's really hard to let them cry.

If your baby is cutting teeth then Tylenol before bedtime is probably a good idea. Also making sure that he has cereal or something that will help him get a full tummy to sleep through the night. Keep up the oatmeal. Maybe he just needs to get used to a full tummy. Good luck!
I know Diana, im just one of those mothers that can't stand it when they cry, a new mommy. i go a running when i hear him, my girlfriend told me yesterday to get use to him sleeping in bed with me for the next 10 years, he, he,
but i'll try the tylenol for the pain tonight and the oatmeal also, hope this works.

[judy]

When Jessie was a baby, we were taught to let them cry for a good long while after checking them to see that they're okay, their diaper didn't need changing, etc.

We also only gave water at night, unless you were nursing. Things were very different then. We trained them to sleep all night.

I think they all grew up okay. It is hard to hear them cry, but they are better off if they have a good night's sleep and if Mommy does too. I do think I remember them having nightmares at about a year old. Night terrors are usually later on (at around 3 to 5) and those you do have to sit with the child for a while. They really need reassurance to learn to get through those.

A lot of family's are now just letting the kids sleep with them and not worrying about it. I can't see any harm in that, except for the lack of a sex life.

[HALEY]

When Jessie was a baby, we were taught to let them cry for a good long while after checking them to see that they're okay, their diaper didn't need changing, etc.

We also only gave water at night, unless you were nursing. Things were very different then. We trained them to sleep all night.

I think they all grew up okay. It is hard to hear them cry, but they are better off if they have a good night's sleep and if Mommy does too. I do think I remember them having nightmares at about a year old. Night terrors are usually later on (at around 3 to 5) and those you do have to sit with the child for a while. They really need reassurance to learn to get through those.

A lot of family's are now just letting the kids sleep with them and not worrying about it. I can't see any harm in that, except for the lack of a sex life.
My husband hours are picking up again, so i hardly see him anymore, and in the summer he travels alot so sex life what is that ????????
But the baby is doing a little better now, since i feed him his dinner around 4:30 -5:00 pm, and give him oatmeal and cheerio's around 6:30-7:00 and i try to keep him up to at least 7:30-8:00, but he got up again last night around 11:00 pm took a bottle and i changed him and he slept thru the night until 4:00 am which is wonderful. That's what time we get up for work.... so at least i got 5 hours of sleep last night.

[Janet]

I agree with Diana and Judy. Make sure there is nothing wrong, then let them learn to get themselves to sleep. It really is for their benefit. Maybe if you look at it this way, the crying won't bother you so bad.

[HALEY]

I agree with Diana and Judy. Make sure there is nothing wrong, then let them learn to get themselves to sleep. It really is for their benefit. Maybe if you look at it this way, the crying won't bother you so bad.

i tried , couldn't do it, that little bugger stood up and grabbed his bed rail and started shaking it. like were the heck are you Mom i know your there !!!!
then i'm getting poked by hubby.. go get the kid..

[judy]

He's having tantrums if he's banging the crib. It's not a good idea for him to know that tantrums work. He'll end up paying the price for that through his life. As mothers, we think we're doing the right thing by tending to our babies with love and caring, which we are. The hardest part of raising a child is loving them enough to set boundaries for them. They can't do it by themselves.

Nobody ever found it easy to raise a child!

[mommaof4boys]

I had this problem with my oldest.. My X and I seperated for about 6 months when he was a baby. I made the mistake of letting him sleep with me since I was staying in a one bedroom house and I didn't want to sleep alone! LOL When my X and I got back together he would never go back to his bed!! I think it took me over a year or so to get him to go to bed when he was suppose to and stay in that bed alone! I know how you feel girl it was horrible!!! It will get better in time! Don't worry! I bet he is teething too. If he is around 1 especially he is probably getting those painful one year molars. (did I spell that right?)

[mommaof4boys]

He's having tantrums if he's banging the crib. It's not a good idea for him to know that tantrums work. He'll end up paying the price for that through his life. As mothers, we think we're doing the right thing by tending to our babies with love and caring, which we are. The hardest part of raising a child is loving them enough to set boundaries for them. They can't do it by themselves.

Nobody ever found it easy to raise a child!


I totally agree here.. It is so much easier to give in and go pick them up than it is to let them cry it out... I had to do this several times before mine got the hint that the fits didn't work anymore... Best of luck girl! We are here for ya!

[HALEY]

I had this problem with my oldest.. My X and I seperated for about 6 months when he was a baby. I made the mistake of letting him sleep with me since I was staying in a one bedroom house and I didn't want to sleep alone! LOL When my X and I got back together he would never go back to his bed!! I think it took me over a year or so to get him to go to bed when he was suppose to and stay in that bed alone! I know how you feel girl it was horrible!!! It will get better in time! Don't worry! I bet he is teething too. If he is around 1 especially he is probably getting those painful one year molars. (did I spell that right?)
It is his teeth, i know my babies crys, and those are crys of pain. i been feeding him extra at night and giving him motrin now like my mom told me, and he did sleep last night til 4 am,
but i still have to listen to my mom which raised 3 kids, she always told me an infant crys for a reason, she never let none of us cry and we all turned out fine.
so if he wants to sleep with us, i'm going to let him, i love that boy, and yes, he will be spoiled, but to a point, he's going to know there are rules in life and if he breaks them he will be punished. I'm a sucker for tears, but not for a misbehaved child especially out in public, i will not put up with that..
My mom was a softy to, but in our house rules were rules. and if you broke them you got beat first and then grounded.. but you can't do that today....
i still remember my mom grabbing a wooden spoon, and all three of us would run,
even if you didn't do anything, you didn't know which child she was coming after. he- he...