I'll Start. Here's a Question for Ya'll

[Kristy]

Hey everyone!

Well, I am seeing this guy who is more than ten years older than myself. I really like him a lot and things are going pretty well.

Is anyone else out there dating someone who is significantly older? Is it ever an issue?

That is all!!! Thanks :)

[Amber_lv]

Well my hubby is only 2 yrs older than me but i really don't think age matters all that much after you turn 18 it's all about the love and connction you feel

[Jlynn]

No, my hubby and I are the same age. But, I think the older you are the less difference 10 years actually makes. If you're 20 and he's 30, that's a much bigger difference than 30-40.

That being said, my brother is married to a woman 10 years younger than him, and my sister is married to a man who is 8 years her junior.


Good luck, and I'm sure others can give their first hand experience.

[Mandy78]

Its only an issue if you let be an issue! Me and my hubby are 8 years apart!!!!!
Or it would be an issue if you were under the age of 18.....
If you are good together....let it be....Dont let age become a factor!!!

[Sherry Lynn]

Age is just a number. I've met 20 year olds that act 60 and 50 year olds that act like they are 5! I say if everything else feels right about him, go for it!

My Hubby and are are close in age, but before I met him (20 years ago - 15th wedding anniversary this month) I dated a fella that was 12 years older. It didn't work out, but it wasn't because of age... the dude had some serious issues and I wasn't up for the challenge!

Disclaimer: You do have to be at least 18 to be posting here, right? Cuz' if you're only 12 then it just ain't right to date some one 22!:D

[Melissa]

Hey everyone!

Well, I am seeing this guy who is more than ten years older than myself. I really like him a lot and things are going pretty well.

Is anyone else out there dating someone who is significantly older? Is it ever an issue?

That is all!!! Thanks :)
I was married to a man who was 9 years older then me and it ended up in a divorce, not saying it don't work, it just didnt for me. I was way to young when we married and at the time I don't think I even knew what love was.

If your young, then my advice to you is, make sure you know who you are, love yourself before you love anyone else. Have fun and enjoy life! Don't settle for 2nd best! Your worth more then that!

[magnolia]

I agree with others, age doesn't matter unless you LET it matter. Go with your heart. My husband and I are just 6 months apart so I can't relate to a big age difference but as long as you love each other (and respect each other), it shouldn't matter.

[Carolyn]

Its only an issue if you let be an issue! Me and my hubby are 8 years apart!!!!!
Or it would be an issue if you were under the age of 18.....
If you are good together....let it be....Dont let age become a factor!!!

My husband is 8 years older than me too!:)

[cindy0721]

I used to date older men.... but I found it sometimes difficult that he would use his exp. over me or that it was a been there done that.. so I married someone 1 yr older than me and its fun to exp things together...

[Miniflash]

It only becomes a issue when ya are in your later years ..not so much a ten yr differance but say 20 ...then while your fifty he'll be 70 and alot of issues of Quality of life will arise .I did this so I am talking from some experiance .Best to remember always ..the common thread that keeps you and will you grow together or apart .And in honesty ..thats the key anyways .

[Kristy]

Thanks everyone!!! I liked reading everyone's responses. :)

[Janice]

When I was 23 I dated a cop who was 32... ya.. big mistake. What a punk he turned out to be - the fact that he was a cop should have had me running the other way! They say it takes a certain kind of person to become a cop and they are absolutely right (conceited, self-centered, oblivious to other people's feelings and how their actions affect other people...). Anyways, one thing I loved about dating him was that I felt kindof protected or something, or taken care of... you know? He was this great big, older guy and here I was 5'4, lookin like I'm 18, all innocent and what not... I don't know, that was the best part about it... plus he looked hot in his uniform.:rolleyes: He was always complimenting me.. it was nice.

As long as your guy is treating you well and you care for him, then age shouldn't be an issue. The guy I dated was a total creep - but I don't regret it, cause it makes for a fun story, lol :p

[Elaine]

age is only a number, my hubby is 10 years older than me, everyone said " it wont last" here we are soon to be 33 years later and still together and happy.. he is my best friend :) don't let a number stand in the way of that, follow your heart :)

[Mandy]

Age is only a number!! If you feel in your heart, that you are doing the right thing, then go for it! ;)

[Kimberley]

My parents were 12 years apart. I think that you can find happiness, Kristy. Emotionally/mentally, you two are probably the same age!;)

[blowry]

I am 49 and my new husband is 44. He is alot of fun...He is into alot of different things than my X...However, where he's never been married before or had children, he's only had to worry about himself...I can definately see the age difference sometimes...Like...time to grow up Eric!..My X was a dud! so I thought...time for Brenda to have some fun!

[RLC12345678]

There are 2 couples that are very very good friends of my family's, both the husband is significantly older than the wife. The first, the wife is 26 and the husband is 53 and he has a daughter that is older than his wife. :eek: The second, the woman is 34 and the man is 55. Both couples have children and are both happily married. They have both told me that it works for them because the wife is really mature for her age and the husband is really IMmature for his age! :p :D :p :D :p

[rivermom]

If you are really into this guy, age isn't an issue. My thoughts are that once a person hits a certain point of maturity age doesn't really matter all that much.

If it's meant to be, let it be....oh and don't forget to enjoy it along the way! ;)

[Emmsmom]

Well I think it really depends on the people and their ages at the time. Let me give you an example. My grandmother remarried a man about 10 years after my grandfather died. My problem with it is this. The guy she married is in his late 40's EARLY 50's and my grandmother is going on 78. On top of it all he dated my mother briefly when they were in high school together. I also think that the maturity level has a LOT to do with it. This guy acts like a 10 year old half the time. When I was 18 I was dating a 30 year old. I know sounds bad but I had to grow up really fast as a child and I was much more mature that my age. I can say I did have fun ! LOL LOL


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[Shannon]

I have never understood why women would want to date older men. I have always been attracted to younger. My bf is almost 4 years younger. I do not think age matters in most cases. I have a girlfriend whose husband is 18 years older than she is. He is in better shape than most men 20 years younger. He also doesn't act his age and I think this is a plus. Age matters to some people, but I think that is because we all go through things at different ages.

[ice queen]

My mil and fil are twelve years apart in age-he's older and they have been married over 2o years!!!

[karensu68]

I think that is all that matters. I have dated younger and older men..I personally like older men, my fiance is 52, but what is most important is that he is good to me and he makes me happy...the happiest I have ever been :)

[Necee419]

I think if you two are in the same mental and emotional mind set, age is irrelevant. My ex-boyfriend and I were a year apart and we were together for 3 years. We broke up because I wanted to get married and have a family and he wanted to play around and "test the waters." My husband is 9 years older than me but when we met, we both wanted the same things and were more compatible emotionally. i feel like he is my soul mate, and while sometimes I tease him about stuff by saying "I don't remember that, I wasn't born yet ;) " our age difference is never an issue.

[bkessler]

My boyfriend Jody is 12 years older then me... I really don't think age matters.. he's in AMAZING shape.. He actually looks 30.. I think because he lives an active and healthy lifestyle, that will help us in the future!! I also like that he has NO baggage... Many guys his age (39) have children or have been divorced.. Not him.. Marriage is forever according to him!!

[Tink]

A man we knew died last week. He was 82 and had suffered with alzheimers for the past 4 - 5 years. His passing was no great shock other than he left behind a wife who isn't even 60 yet. She could easily live another 25 years, but is so distraught over his passing that she says she wants to die too.

So she had many good years with a man she still loves desperately... but now she faces many more without him because of the age difference. Sadly, when you marry a man much older than yourself you pretty much have to expect that might happen.

I think this is the hardest part about marrying someone considerably older than yourself... especially since women already have a longer life expectancy than men do.

[Passionfruition]

My grandmother was 19 when she married my grandfather...he was 38. They had a fine marriage, and 4 kids! My dad was 3rd of 4.

Also, I am a wedding photographer, and one of "my" couples who is getting married in June just did their engagement pictures. She's 29 and he's 50. I had the most fun with them! Here are a few pics:

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v351/Passionfruition/IMG_0525s.jpg

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[momof2boys]

My mom is 11yrs older than my dad and they have been married 32 years. When they got married of course their families made a big to do over it, but hey, live for yourself not others is what I always say. The funny story about my mom and dad is that my mom held him when he was a baby :eek: My dad always jokes and says "she changed my diaper and that changed it all" :D