My Father-in-Law

[DianaB]

My Father-in-law's health hasn't been very good lately and last night he had a mild stroke. He'd had one a few months ago and the only problem he had from it was he lost some of his sight. Well, last night he lost even more sight, enough that he won't be able to drive the tractor any more. Besides being worried about his Dad my husband is upset because he won't have anyone to help out with the work so I guess, that I'm going to be helping out a lot more this summer than usual. Matter of fact, if it doesn't rain too much I'll be heading out in just a little while.

The doctor let my FIL go home last night because our little hospital is full but he had to go in for some tests first thing this morning. They ended up keeping him in the hospital because he was feeling worse but it might just be stress from worrying. Another doctor will be in tomorrow afternoon to check him over. Please say a prayer for my FIL, Frank. Also say a prayer for my husband because he's going to be really stressed with all of this. And remember me as I try to be a good wife and helper. Thanks so very much. Love ya'll!!!!

[Gina]

Aww Diana you and your family are in my prayers.. I hope your FIL gets better. You are a good wife and you will be by your husband's side. God Bless you! :hug:

[Forgivenmom5]

Your family will be in my prayers. Maybe they can find some medication to stop these episodes.

[Tink]

My prayers are with you and your men Diana.
I hope things go better than you expect them to.

HUGS

[judy]

I will be praying for you and your family Diana.

Sending hugs and prayers,

Judy

[katcarasella]

My prayers are with you and your family Diana, stay strong.

[Janet]

Diana, I sure wish there was some way I could help. I can drive darn near anything...use to back semi trailers to the docks at Frito Lay.

I will keep both of your men in prayer and hope that things work out the best for all.

[goofywife]

I will keep your FIL in my prayers. Please don't work too hard.

[Tiramisu]

You and your men have my prayers. Stay strong!

[DianaB]

My daughter, Dae Lynn, called me really upset last night. She'd gone to see her Grandpa and he was saying things like she'd probably never see him again and that she needed to go and pick out what fishing pole she'd want to keep. She thought that things were a lot worse then they actually are. He's always been an active man so losing more of his sight is really going to be hard for him, especially if he can't drive anymore. He talked of suicide a while back and I'm not sure what will happen with this. And, yes, he's the kind of man to commit suicide instead of dealing with his health failing. An aunt removed all of the guns from the house.

[Tink]

Oh wow Diana, that's scary. It's not uncommon for depression to follow something like this.

[Janet]

You're right Tink...it really is common. Diana, is there anyway that his losing more of his sight isn't a permanent thing? I know that some people after a stroke, recover some of the things, movement..etc that they lost.

I'm sorry he upset Dae Lynn so much. He is probably just in a state of depression and is only thinking of himself. I hope things get better for him...and your family.

[DianaB]

Since after the last stroke his eye sight didn't improve we're all thinking that it probably won't this time either. He can see some. Like to look at me the other night in the ER he could see my body but not my face (Hmmmmm......maybe he's trying to tell me something!! LOL I'll have to tease him about that!!) When he moved his head he could see in some areas and my husband said that when they went to the hospital yesterday that he couldn't tell where they were at. He's such a sweet man and he's a great Dad, annoying sometimes, but still a wonderful Dad. I really hate to see him go through all of this.

[Forgivenmom5]

I am so sorry Diana. It is so hard to see someone we care about go through things like this. It is especially hard on someone like your FIL who has always been so strong and independent.

[2tiredmom]

Hang in there. We are all praying for you. Farming is hard work. God does work.
Some times it's not exactly right when you want it. I hope you FIL improves.
Your in my prayers also.

[Marilyn]

Diana, so sorry to read this thread and that your family is going through this. You all are in my prayers.

[judy]

I'm so sorry Diana. This is a hard thing for all of you, and you're all in my prayers and my heart.

I'm sending you love and hugs,

Judy

[Tink]

Still keeping you all in my prayers Diana.

HUGS

[Janet]

Diana, how is your FIL doing? Do they know when he'll be released or has he already?

[DianaB]

My husband thinks that he'll be released from the hospital today. He's also been a little bit disoriented. I guess that yesterday he went to the bathroom, which is shared with another room, when he went to walk out he couldn't remember which door he came in or even if he was in the right bed. My kids are upset over him not feeling well. He's been the best grandparent that my kids have had. He has always been so good about doing things with them!

Thanks for all of your prayers! The good news is that my husband and a friend led him to the Lord yesterday! That's the best news of all and my husband is real excited over it!

[Tink]

Oh Diana, that is the BEST news ever!
I'm so thrilled for him.

My prayers will continue. thanks for the updates.

[DianaB]

My husband said that they're not going to let him out today after all. They're going to keep an eye on the thickness of his blood for a while. He should have had a doctor doing that already, but with him having doctors in Nebraska and the doctor that he had here left, it's one of those things that nobody was keeping an eye on.

[Gina]

Diana I feel for you and your family, hopefully he will be released from the hospital soon. Sending prayers and well wishes....

[Janet]

Diana, as always..I have you and your family in my prayers. I bet your husband is just so thankful he was able to do that for his father.

[judy]

Diana,

That's a blessing for both of them. You're all in my prayers.

[DianaB]

My FIL is getting out of the hospital today. He's got some appointments set up for later but it sounds like there's not much that can be done. Once a stroke affects an area of your brain it takes your brain a while to work around the bad area. Where his eyes are affected he will probably never get that sight back. It's going to be really hard for him to adjust. He's always been so active, always helping people. The good news is that he can see just a little bit so it's not complete blindnss.

[Forgivenmom5]

I hope he adjust well to being home. Maybe it will help to be in familiar surroundings.

[Gina]

I hope he is home and doing better. Thank God he has some vision... Keep us posted..

[Emmsmom]

The best thing the kids can do for him is to love him and let him know that this won't change a thing. They will be doing more for him now and thats ok. My Papa was a very sick man for so long. He had a stroke that left him unable to walk or talk. With my Granny's love and support he learned to walk and talk all over. The one thing I noticed with Papa was that once he had his stroke he lost many friends and my mother and my half-sister's quit coming to see him. I think that was very hard on him. It sounds like your FIL has a HUGE support group and that will mean the world to him. It is always very hard seeing loved ones go through something like this. It was very hard for me so I know it must be for your family. I will keep your family in my thoughts and prayers. HUGS

[Janet]

Diana how is your FIL doing?

[DianaB]

He had a couple of eye appointments last week. The eye doctor said that he has macular degeneration that has caused his vision problems plus the stroke definitely damaged that area as well. I don't think that there's much that can be done for it. I haven't been around him much so I really can't tell you how he's doing with the vision problems. My husband's been going over to his parents pretty regularly.

This is definitely going to be a hard year for us. My husband's so used to having his Dad help. I can help out but I can't hook and unhook the implements and do some of the harder work. I can only drive the tractor. My son's been helping for a while but soon his job will pick back up and he'll be busy with other things.

I saw my brother-in-law this afternoon and he mentioned that his wife was driving the tractor (I had been driving too). I said that next fall us wives should get a cruise from the guys for helping out. He said that it probably would have been cheaper in the long run to have hired help instead of using his wife!! Probably so!!!!!