Mama's coming home Sunday!

[Janet]

My mother is coming home on Sunday and I'm ready....I think...LOL She is a hoot for sure. I called her the other day and said it wouldn't be long and she'd be home and she said.."I suppose." I told her it didn't sound like she wanted to come home very bad and she said "I don't really, there's not as much for me to do up there (meaning home)."

LOLOL she's laying on the guilt and she's not even home yet...LOL. I told her if she had more to do there, to just stay down there and she said.."No, I'll come home."

She has plenty to do during the day, but she doesn't of an evening. She used to play cards with her lady friends, but sadly they've all passed and the only one she has left has lost her sight.

I'm not a night person. I have to be home and in bed (usually) by 9:00 at the latest. I may have the TV on, but I'm still in bed. Hopefully I can find some evening things for her to do, but I'm not going to hold my breath.

I'll just be happy when she's home.

[deb22]

Aww, that's great that she's coming home. Maybe she can take your place on here when you go to bed.:) Kat will keep her busy.:D

[Gina]

Aww, that's great that she's coming home. Maybe she can take your place on here when you go to bed.:) Kat will keep her busy.:D

Janet Deb has a good idea.. Let her join and Kat will keep her busy... :) Love ya Kat!

Janet your mom sounds like so much fun! God bless her.

[Taurus Babe]

I know you must be excited! I agree with the other ladies...keep her busy!!! :)

[Marilyn]

Janet, you know her much better than we do, but I don't think she was piling on the guilt by mentioning that there is not much to do back home. She may be having a really good time socially in Florida, and she won't have that at home. She may not blame you for it, just being truthful and stating a fact. She may also be realizing that she probably won't be going back to Florida next year, and she may not be looking to you to be her entertainment director back home. At least I hope not!!! Again, you know her better than we do, and you know what activities are available for her.

If you have her join here, you may want to get with your buddy Admin and have a few threads deleted!! ;) :hug:

Glad you mom is coming home!!

[judy]

Marilyn,

You're so sensible!

She might be right, Janet. Anyway - you don't have to take on the guilt. She could stay in Florida. She's choosing to come home, not you.

I love your stories about her anyway, so I'm happy.

[Janet]

Janet, you know her much better than we do, but I don't think she was piling on the guilt by mentioning that there is not much to do back home. She may be having a really good time socially in Florida, and she won't have that at home. She may not blame you for it, just being truthful and stating a fact. She may also be realizing that she probably won't be going back to Florida next year, and she may not be looking to you to be her entertainment director back home. At least I hope not!!! Again, you know her better than we do, and you know what activities are available for her.

If you have her join here, you may want to get with your buddy Admin and have a few threads deleted!! ;) :hug:

Glad you mom is coming home!!

Nope, wrong on this one...LOL. I do know my mother..LOL. Most of the snowbirds in her park have left. She was just complaining in an earlier phone call that they couldn't have B-I-N-G-O anymore because there were not enough people.

No, she's wanting to make sure I make time for her...LOL. I will, she doesn't have to worry, but I'm not sure about having her on here. Oh my, will I have to watch what I say. I will think about it though.

[Tink]

Janet, Grandparents.com or eons.com are both geared toward the older population. If you think she'd enjoy an online community why not steer her to those? I don't blame you for not wanting to bring her here. This is YOUR little haven and that would certainly alter it. Much as I love my Mom I wouldn't want her here daily either.

[DianaB]

Janet, Grandparents.com or eons.com are both geared toward the older population. If you think she'd enjoy an online community why not steer her to those? I don't blame you for not wanting to bring her here. This is YOUR little haven and that would certainly alter it. Much as I love my Mom I wouldn't want her here daily either.

That's a good idea, Tink! Do you have a senior's center in town? They always have activities going on. Maybe that would help your Mom to keep busy and make friends.

I know that you're looking forward to having her home but have your reservations about it too. Just remember the last year and how much better you both got along. Hopefully it will continue. Good luck!!

[Janet]

That's a good idea, Tink! Do you have a senior's center in town? They always have activities going on. Maybe that would help your Mom to keep busy and make friends.

I know that you're looking forward to having her home but have your reservations about it too. Just remember the last year and how much better you both got along. Hopefully it will continue. Good luck!!


Yes we have a senior center, but remember, she said they were all too old...LOL. It just blows me away, because you can start going there at 55 years old. I'm kind of looking forward to seeing what it's like. They always have something in the paper about all the activities and trips...I would love that! Maybe it bothers her to be reminded of her own mortality...I don't know.

[Marilyn]

My mother was weird like that. Don't get me wrong. I loved her very, very much, but she was not very social. She had friends and would tell the lady at the grocery store checkout her life's story over and over again, but she would have never gone to a senior citizen's center. She didn't get along with the ladies at a group home where she lived after Daddy passed away. She complained a lot and wanted my undivided attention even though I worked all day, had a husband and two little girls to raise. She wanted to be around people she was comfortable with. I think as she got older, and your mom may be the same way, she did not want to make new friends, just pester the old ones and me of course. They can be sooo very frustrating, but we gotta love them!!

[katcarasella]

I'm hoping she'll find something to keep her busy Janet, is she into the internet?
I like the senior citizen center idea, maybe she'll try it out this time, they have so many fun activities.
Here's a :hug: for you, it'll be O.K.

[Janet]

Thanks everyone. I do love my Mom, she is a character for sure. She does like the Internet, but isn't real sure about it. She mostly uses her computer for games. I'm hoping to be able to show her a few game sites that she will like.

[Tink]

Janet, I hope she's maybe mellowed a bit so is a bit easier on you.

[Janet]

Bless your heart Tink....LOL....that will never happen....:sidesplit: Besides, I'd worry something was wrong, that she was sad, sick..etc. if she mellowed.

[DianaB]

Get her a job as a Wal-mart greeter!!!! My aunt, Joyce, and her husband do that. They're retired ministers. Joyce caught a shop lifter the other day and he was arrested.

[Gina]

Janet you are going to have your hands full.. Some suggestions were excellent, get her to the senior day center.. I am sure they have lots of activities. My mom passed away as you know, but she was content being home. She was a home body, unlike me. She was content in life. As she got older and sick she always wanted me around. I think she was just afraid if something happened I would not be there.. On the other hand my g/f mom lives in Manhattan and is very independent she is in 80's. All of a sudden now she calls my g/f 24/7 and expects her to come running to babysit for her. She wants to call all the shots.

It is not easy Janet, but your mother does have spunk God Bless her, see maybe she can volunteer her time just to get her out of the house. I will say a little prayer for you to help you attain patience. Cause as we get older our patience becomes less. Welcome home mom!!!

[Janet]

All these posts seem like I'm having trouble...I'm not really. Things are really good now between my Mom and I. I will lovingly do things with my Mom, but it's up to her to find things to do. I can give her suggestions, but that's all. I have my own family and I can't entertain her all the time. She will complain that no one called, but when I ask her who she tried to call, it doesn't matter. It's all about my mother. I'm use to her and we are getting along really good now. I just didn't want you all to think I was complaining (in the full sense of the word) about mom, I was just telling you all how she is. :)

[katcarasella]

I know you weren't complaining and I'm sure everyone else does too.
How was her trip? I guess you won't be on much this evening but don't worry I'll keep everyone out of trouble. (BIG SMILE)

[Chandra Amaya]

Is there a community center that might have later activities for her to do?