My Mom's Critical

[Tiramisu]

Hey, I hope you are all doing well.

My Mom's gallbladder ruptured and she has been in the hospital since last Thursday (in LA). She had a 6-hour surgery on Friday and is on respirator and in "very critical" condition. The short of it: a huge stone went out of her gall bladder (through the walls), into the her small intestine (through the walls), moved down and was blocking, therefore everything (bile, etc.) was leaking into her body cavity and making an infection. She's at a 30% survival rate and now her heart's acting up.

Hubby and I drove home last night, I slept in my bed instead of the hospital waiting room, and now I'm heading back. Red Cross is bringing my son in from Iraq, so hubby will be picking him up at the AP.

Please keep my Mother and family in your prayers.

[teri88]

oh my gosh! I am sooo sorry! Your poor mom, I can't even imagine what she's been through already. I am saying special prayers for her, for you and that your son makes it home safely. What an awful lot for you to be dealing with at once. Try and stay positive. I know 30% doesn't sound good, but someone has to be in that 30% let's hope it's your mom. {{{hugs}}}

[Dobie]

I am so sorry to hear this, I'll keep you in my thoughts - I pray you mom is given the strength to recover from this ordeal.

[Gina]

Sandy I am sorry to hear what your poor mom is going through. Try to think postitive thoughts. I will keep your mom in my prayers , lets hope that you have postive news today. I hope that your son made it home ok too. :hug:

[Janet]

Sandy, :hug:I'm so sorry your Mother is going through such a hard time right now. What a tragic turn of events to happen with the stone and now an infection. I'll say a prayer for your mother, that she'll recover quickly from this.:hands:

[HALEY]

Sandy so sorry to hear about your Mom, she is in my prayers! :hands::hands::hands:

[Morkie4]

So sorry to hear about your mom!!! It happened so quick!!! Keeping you and your family in my thought and prayers.

[DianaB]

Sandy, I'm so sorry to hear about your Mother. I'll be keeping her in my prayers. I hate that doctors put a percentage on things because "with God all things are possible"!!!

[Forgivenmom5]

Sandy I am so sorry your Mom is so sick. You will all be in my prayers.

[pope1982]

:( speechless. :eek:
:hug: please keep us updated...

[Marilyn]

Sandy, please know that your mom, you and your family are all in our prayers. So sad you are all going through this and hope that she recovers completely and very soon.

[Tink]

Sandy, my prayers are with you all.

[Janet]

Wish we had an update on how Sandy's mother is doing. It makes me sad for one of our members to be going through something like this.

[judy]

Dear Sandy,

You are in my prayers and in my heart.

[Emmsmom]

I am so sorry to hear about your mom. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Take Care ((HUGS))

[Gina]

Has anyone heard from Sandy? any updates?

[Tiramisu]

THANK YOU - THANK YOU - THANK YOU for the PRAYERS, THOUGHTS, and WISHES.

I drove back HOME this evening. My Mom is a little better from the surgery, but seems to be developing pneumonia, even with the massive drugs she's on. They took her off the respirator/ventilator yesterday, so she's trying to talk to us.

My son, his wife and two daughters are staying at a hotel by the hospital, so he sent me home today. My nephew come in last night (works offshore LA), so the two boys told my sister and me that they will take care of Grannie for now, so we can get some rest. They're giving me updates every two hours and I can call the ICU as often as I want to.

My hubby's mowing and I'm giving lots of loving to the doggies, washing clothes, and freshening the house. My 22yo niece is here, but she does no housework. I'm very thankful my doggies have been well cared for, but seem a little depressed with us being gone.

I had missed/re-scheduled my foot appointment last Friday. HOPEFULLY, I'll work tomorrow, make the doctor's appointment Friday morning to schedule my foot surgery, and then head back to Louisiana. Hubby says I should have the survery now and use my time off to go sit with my Mom. We'll see.

I'm tired, but I know I must keep on keeping on!

THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR SUPPORT!

[teri88]

So glad she came through the surgery! I will continue to pray for a full and speedy recovery.

[judy]

Dear Sandy,

Please take care of yourself too. My prayers are with you all.

[DianaB]

I'm glad to hear that all is better. You and your Mom have been in my thoughts and prayers since you posted. Thanks for the update!

[Marilyn]

So glad there is some improvement!! Will continue to keep you in my prayers. Am also glad that she is not too far away. Before when you said LA, I thought you had driven to Los Angeles. Now I realize you meant Louisiana.

Having your foot surgery now sounds like a good plan. It would give you some time to spend quitely with your mom. This could be time you will someday be very glad you had together. Hope all goes well!!

[Janet]

I'm so glad to read that the surgery went well and she is doing better. I'll continue to keep you and your mother in my prayers, Sandy.

Your husband may have a good idea...I hope you get your foot taken care of and whenever you decide to have the surgery, I hope you're up and about really quick.

[Gina]

So glad there is some improvement!! Will continue to keep you in my prayers. Am also glad that she is not too far away. Before when you said LA, I thought you had driven to Los Angeles. Now I realize you meant Louisiana.

Having your foot surgery now sounds like a good plan. It would give you some time to spend quitely with your mom. This could be time you will someday be very glad you had together. Hope all goes well!!


Marilyn I thought the same way to. I was going to say gee thats some hike.. Glad that she made it through the surgery and that she is improving.. :) Now you have to take care of you. I will continue to pray for your mom's full recovery.

[Dobie]

I'm happy to hear that your mom is a little stronger - I'll continue to keep her in my prayers.

[Tiramisu]

My Mom was able to sit up with us for almost 2 hours on Saturday. She's been through a hard 3 weeks with infections, a touch of pneumonia and dementia. She got to start eating purees on Friday and seems to be finally turning a corner. Doctors say she will probably need to go to a nursing home this time.

[judy]

Sandy,

What wonderful news! Thank goodness she is coming through. A nursing home is a good idea. She'll have 24/7 care, friends, activities and so on.

How are you feeling? Hope your foot is fine.

Judy

[Marilyn]

Oh, Sandy, so sorry you and your mom are going through this. Dimentia can be so hard on everyone involved. Prayers are going your way!!

[DianaB]

Sandy, I'm glad to hear that physically your Mom is better! That is such a relief but the dementia, I'm sure, is hard. How does your Mom feel about going to the nursing home? I know that some don't have a problem going while others really fight it. I hope that everything goes smoothly so it's not so hard on you and your family.

[Janet]

Sandy I'm so glad to hear your mother is doing better phsyically. What a relief for you. Nursing homes are such a hard decision to make for parents. My MIL didn't want to go, but there was no way she could stay with any of us. I hated it, because I did tell my husband she could live with us. I know for sure if and when the time comes...I will take care of my mom. But the 24/7 care can be really hard on a family. My MIL did very well in the nursing home and it wasn't one of the better ones either.

[Tink]

Dementia could well be a result of the poisoning in her system. In time that too may improve. I'm so glad she's improving... I know of a couple people who have died from similar, so she's a very lucky lady.

[Tiramisu]

My Mom crashed on Sunday morning. She was on life support for about 60 hours and we let her go. We had a little country funeral and burial for her today. I am totally exhausted. It was good to see many relatives and friends, but I just want to crawl under my covers and be alone. I need to spend time with my doggies.

The docs just couldn't get control of the infection from the gallbladder surgery. She had about three good days, but it was too much for her.

I was scheduled for the foot surgery tomorrow, but cancelled all that until I get my land legs back.

I hope you're all well and I'll try to get caught up on everything tomorrow.

[Tink]

Sandy, I am so sorry for your loss.
An infection like that is very hard to beat.

HUGS
My prayers are with you.

[Shada]

Sandy, I am so very sorry for your loss.

I wish I had the words to comfort you, but know you are in my prayers.
{{HUGS}}

[gja1000]

I'm very very sorry for your loss. It must be so hard.

<<<<<HUGS>>>>>>

[Marilyn]

Oh, Sandy, so very sorry that you and your family are experiencing this. Please know that you are in our prayers.

[Janet]

Sandy, I am so sorry for the loss of your mother. Please accept my heartfelt condolences and know you're in my prayers...{{{hugs}}}

[Gina]

Sandy I am sorry to hear this. My condolences to you and your family. My prayers are with you all. :hug:

[judy]

Sandy,

You are in my prayers. I am so sorry for your loss.

Judy

[HALEY]

Sandy,
You are also in my prayers, so sorry for the loss of your mother.
God bless you and your family in your time of need.
:hands::hands::hands::hug:

[donna1990]

I am also so sorry for your loss, you are in my prayers.

[Forgivenmom5]

I am so sorry Sandy!! You will be in my prayers.

[Dobie]

My deepest condolences to you and your family, I'm so sorry for your loss.

[Emmsmom]

I am sorry to hear of the loss of your mom. Take Care {HUGS}

[Tiramisu]

THANK YOU ALL for your prayers and thoughts. I'm actually doing OK, just tired. One of the worst things for me is that I've had to sign both my parents off life support and I can't seem to lose that guilt. I keep telling myself that medicine had done all it could and that I had to sign the papers so that medicine could turn it over to God.

My sister turned out to be a "butt head", so I had to do some walking away from a few things. I never would have thought that she'd do some of the things she's doing. But, we gave her remains a very nice send off.

My son had just left on Saturday, so I had to tell him while he was in transit back to Iraq. He wanted to come back, but I told him not to. He sent an e-mail that a couple of my Mom's g-kids got up and read. The funeral was at the church I grew up in, where 5 generations of my family are members.

[Marilyn]

Sandy sounds like you did the very best you could have possibly done. You mother would be proud of you and how you handled everything I'm sure. Siblings can be a real surprise in situations like this. It's so sad that we can't just all get along. Take care of yourself and know that you are in our thoughts and prayers.

[Janet]

I know this is a terrible time, but I'm glad to read you are holding up well. Siblings can be real buttheads for sure at the most inopportune time. I think sometimes its the stress that makes us all do things we later regret. I'm keeping you in my prayers Sandy.

[DianaB]

Oh Sandy, I'm just now reading about your Mother. I'm so very sorry :hug: The right words always seem to fly out the window in these situations but know that I care and you're in my thoughts and prayers. You're a good daughter and you did all that you knew to do for your parents. We're not God and we can't see the future on what will or won't work. You did your best and take comfort in that! Don't let anyone tell you or make you feel otherwise. :hug:

[Tiramisu]

Oh Sandy, I'm just now reading about your Mother. I'm so very sorry :hug: The right words always seem to fly out the window in these situations but know that I care and you're in my thoughts and prayers. You're a good daughter and you did all that you knew to do for your parents. We're not God and we can't see the future on what will or won't work. You did your best and take comfort in that! Don't let anyone tell you or make you feel otherwise. :hug:

I always love the way you word things - so thoughtful and caring - THANK YOU

[pope1982]

What a wonderful daughter you are. I am sorry to hear of the recent loss of your mother ((((((((((((Sandy)))))))))))) Wishing you wisdom, strength and plenty of rest during this difficult time. Don't forget to take care of yourself in all of this...

[donna1990]

I am so sorry that you lost your Mom.
Sometimes, family members don't agree with everything. When through that when my Mom passed.
Will be praying for you to be strong.

[Tink]

Sandy, losing a parent is so hard; it often brings out the worst in people in ways we'd never imagine. I hope your sister rethinks her actions and decides to act better.

In my opinion, signing someone off of life support is one of the hardest, yet kindest things we can do when there's only suffering left. It's easier to hang on for our sake than to release someone for their own sake... it is truly a last act of love. What your Mom had is a horrible thing to battle. Many lose that fight and I believe you did the kindest and most loving thing you could have done in that situation.

I sincerely hope that my family would be that considerate if I ever end up in that position.

HUGS