For My Mother

[Janet]

I would like to request prayer for my mother, I take her back to her kidney Dr. on Friday. Please keep her in your prayers that her kidney failure has not gotten worse. She's still not sure she wants to do the dialysis (at 85 y/o I probably wouldn't) but it is her decision. Would really appreciate you keeping her in your thoughts on Friday.

[Lindsey]

I hope everything is okay Janet. I have kidney problems as well. My grandma took me to see a doctor who is very into natural remedies, and he told me that alfalfa sprouts are great for kidney health. I usually put them on salads or sandwiches. After two years, my kidney function which wasn't well due to kidney damage had improved by 200%! Just thought I'd pass along the tip!

[Shada]

Prayers sent your way Janet...

[Mandy]

Keeping your mom in my thoughts and prayers Janet. HUGS!

[Janet]

Thanks ladies.

Lindsey, I'll be sure and tell my mother. Hey...ya never know, right?

[rivermom]

Hi Janet - tell your Mom that she might need to not drive the camper a bit and take care of herself.

many thoughts are being sent her way. **hugs**

[Janet]

I would love for her not to drive or pull her camper....I tried mentioning it to her once, but oh wow:eek:....I'll never do that again. I'll leave that to my brothers. :p She went bullistic on me, she's one tough lady and won't give up anything without a fight.

[DianaB]

I'll be praying for your Mom too, Janet.

[Tiramisu]

I hope and PRAY your Mom gets a good report.

[teri88]

Janet, I'm adding my prayers to the others. I'm sure your mom being one tough lady will be a help as she goes through everything. Hugs to both of you!

[Tink]

My prayers are with your mom Janet.
I hope she gets a good report at the drs.

[Janet]

I know I asked a little early, but I just thought if you happened to think of it, a couple extra prayers wouldn't hurt...LOL. Thank ladies.

[Forgivenmom5]

Hope everything went well at the doctor Janet.

[Janet]

Thanks ladies. The news is a little of both...good and bad. Her hemoglobin is good. She hasn't had to have blood added since before she came home from Florida and that was in April. But....her kidney function is now down to 12%...not good. We go Sept. 4th to talk with the surgeon that will be putting in the fistula in her arm for dialysis. Right now all the numbers say she should be on dialysis, but so far no outward signs. Once we see the surgeon on the 4th he'll make an appt. for her within the month. If she should happen to need dialysis before fistula is ready, (it can't be used right after being implanted) then she'll be given dialysis through the neck. The is really not good for her and with her being 85 years young.

She's been in denial and would not listen to any of us, but now we are telling her she has no choice if she wants to live. Not sure how I'm going to handle all this. I know she will have trouble understanding out to do it all if she is able to do dialysis at home. If not, she will have to be taken to Lafayette to have it done unless we can have a visiting nurse come to her house to help her with it. So much to do, learn and think about. It's all so mind boggleing.

[Gina]

Aww sorry to hear that your mom needs to go on dialysis. I had a brother who had kidney disease and had a fistual put into his arm. Not fun at all, but I am sure they have advanced. I am going back over 30 something years ago with my brother.

I wish her the best and prayers are with you both..

[Janet]

Her kidney Dr. said that they will put the fistula in her arm and she can most likely go home the same day AND that they don't even knock them out ALL the way. I just can't see this. My mother will want to be put out. When he said that, she gave me the most scared awful look. Guess we'll learn more when we visit the surgeon.

I want my brothers to start learning more about this and I've told them. I need to help Ricky research grants so he can go on to school after he graduates and it's very time consuming. I'm so afraid I won't be able to handle it all and there is no way I can MAKE my brothers do anything. I have a feeling they are going to leave it all up to me.

[2tiredmom]

Her kidney Dr. said that they will put the fistula in her arm and she can most likely go home the same day AND that they don't even knock them out ALL the way. I just can't see this. My mother will want to be put out. When he said that, she gave me the most scared awful look. Guess we'll learn more when we visit the surgeon.

I want my brothers to start learning more about this and I've told them. I need to help Ricky research grants so he can go on to school after he graduates and it's very time consuming. I'm so afraid I won't be able to handle it all and there is no way I can MAKE my brothers do anything. I have a feeling they are going to leave it all up to me.

Janet,

I know what you mean when it comes to brothers. They will help with the outside stuff but the health issues are something totally different. They think
it's the girls responsiblity. Been there. Hope it works out with your mom.
She's in my prayers too. Hang in there on the grant stuff. You and Ricky can do it.
Have you talked to his school counselor? I know the ones up here sure have
helped Dustin and now Jennifer.;)

[Janet]

Yes we have talked with her, but of course we have to do all the work. Ricky is a procrastinator and I just feel so bogged down right now. Maybe his dad will help...we'll see.

[Forgivenmom5]

Janet I know when they put my port in and did the biopsy they said I wasn't out all they way but I don't remember anything until it was all over. they said I wasn't asleep by their terms which just means I wasn't out enough to slow breathing and body functions like they had to when I had the actual surgery.

[donna1990]

Janet, I am so sorry. All we can do is pray for you, and tell you that we are here for support.

[Janet]

Thanks everyone one.

Debbie, that must be what the Dr. was talking about. Mom should do okay with that I think.

[Dobie]

Janet,

My ex-husband had to have a kidney transplant. He was on dialysis while waiting for the kidney. This goes back almost 15 years, but the first type he was on was abdominal - I guess it's a little bit easier of the system because it's continuous. A tube was placed in his abdomen, after it healed, he used that tube to pour saline into the abdominal cavity - it was changed every 8 hours. He eventually needed to have regular dialysis - but I wonder if it's an option that might work for your mom.

[HALEY]

Prayers for your Mom.... hope everything works out for her Janet.:hands::hands:

[katcarasella]

Keeping her in my thoughts and Prayers Janet.
:hug: Kat

[Janet]

Janet,

My ex-husband had to have a kidney transplant. He was on dialysis while waiting for the kidney. This goes back almost 15 years, but the first type he was on was abdominal - I guess it's a little bit easier of the system because it's continuous. A tube was placed in his abdomen, after it healed, he used that tube to pour saline into the abdominal cavity - it was changed every 8 hours. He eventually needed to have regular dialysis - but I wonder if it's an option that might work for your mom.

We had talked to the Drs. about this type, but she said no...she didn't want to have to see a tube sticking out all the time. She's 85 so as long as she is understanding what to expect, we are letting her make the decisions.

[judy]

Dear Janet,

Prayers are coming for your Mom and for the whole family. She is a tough woman, which is good.

I so hope that you won't have to do 100% of the work so that you can spend time on Ricky's college career (and m a y b e a little time for yourself too). Like that will happen!

I'll try to call you later.

Love ya,
Judy

[DianaB]

We had talked to the Drs. about this type, but she said no...she didn't want to have to see a tube sticking out all the time. She's 85 so as long as she is understanding what to expect, we are letting her make the decisions.

Letting her make her own decisions takes a lot of pressure off of you and she's in good shape to make good decisions. I picture your Mom being pretty fiesty about things and knowing her own mind!!!! Kinda' like her daughter!!!!!

[Janet]

Yes, we're a lot alike, probably why we always butt heads..ha ha. She went camping this weekend south of town in someone's barn lot. They have the barn all fixed up and they go in and play cards and have their pitch-ins. I hope I'm as active and healthy as she is at 85, but I honestly don't see that happening. She's a tough one for sure.

[DianaB]

My Mom and I have different personalities. I know that there are times she sits back and shakes her head at what I do!!! My Mom's quiet and sometimes...............ok, usually I'm not. LOL My Mom is careful about what she says and....................well, I have open mouth/insert food problems!!!! I swear it's a disease that the doctor's just haven't gotten in the book yet!!!!! I'm waiting for the meds to come out anytime!!!!! :sidesplit:

[gja1000]

HI Janet,
I'm not sure how I missed this thread about your mom, but I sure hope all goes well. I know it is a big worry. My mom is 85 too, and I can just imagine if she was faced with all of this. Good luck with all of it.

[Janet]

HI Janet,
I'm not sure how I missed this thread about your mom, but I sure hope all goes well. I know it is a big worry. My mom is 85 too, and I can just imagine if she was faced with all of this. Good luck with all of it.

Thanks Gayle. I hope your mom is still active and healthy at 85 years young. I didn't know we had a mother the same age.

[Janet]

My Mom and I have different personalities. I know that there are times she sits back and shakes her head at what I do!!! My Mom's quiet and sometimes...............ok, usually I'm not. LOL My Mom is careful about what she says and....................well, I have open mouth/insert food problems!!!! I swear it's a disease that the doctor's just haven't gotten in the book yet!!!!! I'm waiting for the meds to come out anytime!!!!! :sidesplit:


I just know we had to be separated at birth....I have that open mouth/insert foot disease too!! I think it can sometimes be hereditary...:D

[DianaB]

I just know we had to be separated at birth....I have that open mouth/insert foot disease too!! I think it can sometimes be hereditary...:D

Cool!!!! I always wanted to be a twin!!!!!

[gja1000]

Thanks Gayle. I hope your mom is still active and healthy at 85 years young. I didn't know we had a mother the same age.


She is not as active as your mom. Six years ago she had a small stroke and couldn't see to drive - there were no other physical problems. She lived in a small town in a rural area. There were no social services and it was 50 miles to the doctor, 140 to the hospital, and a long way to other needs. So, she moved in with me, and basically sat down and let me manage everything. Thus, she has lost a lot of independence. The "use it or lose it" saying is really true. She is in perfect health, but has little energy and doesn't want to do very much.

[Janet]

Gayle, I'm so sorry. I'm guess I am blessed that Mom is so independent, but it can be a real pain too when you're trying to get them to do what is best for them. My mother shouldn't be driving, but she won't listen. I think my brother is going to talk with the license branch so it will be them telling her and not us.

Mom was in denial about her health, because outside of needing blood..she felt fine. Now we're praying it just isn't too late to get the fistula in her arm so she can start dialysis before her kidney's fail completely. She just wouldn't listen and now she is really worried.

[Marilyn]

Janet, just wanted to let you know that you and your family are in my prayers, too. Your mom should be fine when they insert the tube. They used a form of heavy sedation when hubby had his heart shocked, and even though it wasn't general anesthesia, he did not feel and does not remember a thing. Even for the procedure they are doing in a couple of weeks, they will use heavy sedation.

Best wishes to you and your family!!