Problems

[DianaB]

I've been dealing with a lot of stuff this summer concerning one of my daughters, things that I haven't been able to talk about on here and with hardly any friends and lately have had some more stuff added to it. I do suffer occassionally with depression, not anything that I need medication for, but I'm finding that all of this is starting to open that big black hole again. I usually have church friends that I can turn to but this is too personal to even bring up because of the fear of not keeping confidences. (This is hard to admit and I'm crying now.) I'm putting on a good front for everyone but inside I'm really hurting. I would so appreciate your prayers while I deal with everything. Thanks so much!

BTW-I'm not going to be on much this week because we're having a garage sale on Saturday, not because of my problems.

[Passionfruition]

I'll lift you up in my prayers, Diana! I'm sorry to hear you're hurting...especially when you don't feel comfortable running to the friends you usually do. So, please know you're being prayed for by me here in SC!

God will work through it girl!

[donna1990]

So sorry for what you are going through. Maybe you should go to your DR and get on an anti-depressant. I have been on Prozac for 20 years and glad that I did.
Lots of praying GF.

[Forgivenmom5]

Sorry you are having problems Diana. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

[Janet]

Diana....you're in my heart and in my prayers my sweet friend....always.

[HALEY]

Aww Diana, so sorry to hear this,,, your also in my prayers..
Love YA....

[Dobie]

So sorry to hear that you are going through pain in your personal life - I'll pray that you are given strength suring this difficult time!

[DianaB]

Thanks so much everyone. I talked a lot of this out with my husband last night and talked to Janet this morning (and I'm still laughing!!!) and I'm not feeling as depressed as I did yesterday. I DID do a good job raising my kids and I just need to remember that.

[judy]

Of course you did raise them well Diana. I'll be praying for you and your family that you'll see that light at the end of the tunnel soon.

Any child you raised has to be wonderful. Whatever it is, you'll all get through it together with God by your side.

[donna1990]

Thanks so much everyone. I talked a lot of this out with my husband last night and talked to Janet this morning (and I'm still laughing!!!) and I'm not feeling as depressed as I did yesterday. I DID do a good job raising my kids and I just need to remember that.

Glad you have people to talk to and that you can laugh.
I, so often, have to remind myself that I did a good raising mine, but, stuff happens.

[DianaB]

Of course you did raise them well Diana. I'll be praying for you and your family that you'll see that light at the end of the tunnel soon.

Any child you raised has to be wonderful. Whatever it is, you'll all get through it together with God by your side.

Thanks so much, Judy and Donna.

[Shada]

Prayers sent your way Diana..

hope all will work out ok... and YOU ARE A GREAT MOTHER!!

[Marilyn]

From day one, they have a mind of their own. We do our very best molding them, but ultimately they are in control of the decisions they make, not us. Prayers are sent your way!!

[Tiramisu]

Diana - my sincere thoughts and prayers are with you. Don't give up or in!

[DianaB]

You are all such a great group of friends to me. Words could never explain how much all of your kind words mean. Thanks so much.

[Gina]

Diana like many have mentioned we can only do our best . Once the cord is severed and they are old enough to make whatever decisions they are on their own. I know that you are a wonderful mother, and do not ever forget that!!!

My prayers are with you and that whatever is bothering you will be resolved very soon. Please do not get depressed it will bring you down and your loved ones, but at the end they do whatever they feel they have to do.. So smile things will turn out ok.. My prayers are with you.

[DianaB]

I spent some time today with my daughter and we discussed briefly what was making me upset. It's not something that she wants to talk about but still it helped to clear the air a little. While I'm still not happy about all of this the shock is starting to wear off and I'm not feeling so down about it. Thanks for all of your prayers.

[Janet]

I'm glad you're starting to feel better. Diana...the Serenity Prayer works for this instance too.

The Serenity Prayer
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.



Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
Amen.

--Reinhold Niebuhr

[gja1000]

I'm so sorry Diana - I don't know how I missed this. I sure hope everything turns out for the best!!!

[Tink]

Even God, who was (and is) a perfect parent, saw his kids (Adam and Eve) disobey his rules. Since God's children disobeyed him, you can be sure yours will ...

Diana, When our kids accomplish something wonderful we're proud of them... Not ourselves for having accomplished whatever it is they did. In the same way, when they stumble and fail, it's not because we didn't try to teach them better.

If you need a shoulder I'm here for you. You know I've had my moments with my own kids, so I really doubt there's anything you could tell me that would shock me or make me think any thing bad about you or yours.
My prayers are with you

[DianaB]

Thanks for your poem, Janet and your kind words, Gayle. Tink, I really appreciate your words of experience. I know that you've gone through a lot with your kids too.

[goofywife]

Diana you might need to have your daughter talk to mine. She was a hellion as a teenager. About 6 years ago, she turned around, she does not know why she did the things she did. I have my sweet little girl back.

[Lindsey]

Diana, I don't know what's going on, and I've never been a parent myself so I've got no advice, so I'm just here to offer (((((((((HUGS)))))))))) of support.

[DianaB]

Thanks Michelle and Lindsey for your support. Hugs are always appreciated!!

My daughter has just been making some wrong decisions lately, and has been for some time, I found out. No matter what, though, I'm still her mother and I still love her. I'm just having a hard time believing that the decisions that she's making are in her best interest but she's 26 and an adult. The hard part is that her decisions are really affecting the rest of the family but hopefully, in time, things will get better.

[Janet]

Things wil get betterl Diana.

[gja1000]

It is difficult when children make decisions we don't agree with - but you said it, they are her decisions. It is hard when they affect the rest of the family. Things will change in time - maybe not the way we want them to change, but one thing is sure, change is constant.

<<<<<<< HUGS>>>>>>>

[Tink]

My thoughts and prayers are still with your Diana.

[judy]

Diana, my prayers are with you. I know how it feels to watch your daughter make terrible choices and then go deeper and deeper into them. I have shared these with you all. It was so awful.

But, I also know, as I have shared with you all too, that it is entirely possible that you will be totally surprised by how she comes through all of this. Nobody was more shocked then me when my daughter finally called me. She has become a
woman I am proud to have raised. I love her husband, ad my grachildren are fabulous. She has told me that she is glad she went through those very hard times. She knows that she grew tremendously because of it.

My heart is with you my dear friend. Remember, if you can, that God doesn't things on his own time, not when we want them done. Keep praying.

[donna1990]

God bless you, I have two sons, they are 39 and 40. The oldest was on drugs all of his life until 3 years ago and is now clean, the youngest one was diagnoised with adult onset diabetes a couple years ago, he is still doing drugs, there is nothing I can do and it breaks my heart. I know when he is using because I don't hear from him, it has been 3 months, but he owes me money, which I should never have loaned it to him.
When we first found out that he had diabetes, several days went by that I didn't hear from him, tried calling, nothing, he was suppose to come over for a visit. I thought he could be home in a diabetic coma, went to his house, his truck was there, I had a key but the dead bolts inside were locked. I beat on the doors, windows, started busting his bedroom window out and I heard him, "Mom, I can't see you now, I said, "are you using again", he said yes, I asked what, cocaine. I stay awake a night just praying for my piece of mind because there is nothing I can do to help me.
So, I pray for you too.

[gja1000]

WOW - Donna, that's about all I can say. I've never had experiences with a child making such bad decisions, I can't imagine how hard it is. I'm really sorry you have to go through all this. I'm sorry any parent has to have so much pain and worry.

[DianaB]

God bless you, I have two sons, they are 39 and 40. The oldest was on drugs all of his life until 3 years ago and is now clean, the youngest one was diagnoised with adult onset diabetes a couple years ago, he is still doing drugs, there is nothing I can do and it breaks my heart. I know when he is using because I don't hear from him, it has been 3 months, but he owes me money, which I should never have loaned it to him.
When we first found out that he had diabetes, several days went by that I didn't hear from him, tried calling, nothing, he was suppose to come over for a visit. I thought he could be home in a diabetic coma, went to his house, his truck was there, I had a key but the dead bolts inside were locked. I beat on the doors, windows, started busting his bedroom window out and I heard him, "Mom, I can't see you now, I said, "are you using again", he said yes, I asked what, cocaine. I stay awake a night just praying for my piece of mind because there is nothing I can do to help me.
So, I pray for you too.

Donna, I'm so sorry that I'm late getting back to you. I'm so sorry about what you're dealing with with your son. It really makes my problems seem so small. I have a brother that's been on drugs for years (marijuana and meth) but he's entered a program that really seems to be helping. It's a really hard road for parents to watch their children go down. I'll keep your son in my prayers. You know that we're all here if you ever need us. Hugs--Diana

[Marilyn]

(((((((((Diana))))))))))((((((((((Donna))))))))))) ))

So sad that both of you are going through tough times. Be sure to take care of yourselves and the others affected as much as you can. I have a dear friend whose sister has been making some really bad decisions. The thing that gets me is the person making the decisions thinks it's no one else's business. They have no idea the effect and turmoil their actions are causing, or if they do know, just don't seem to care. Often they act like they are somehow the victim and very selfishly cling to their right to do whatever they want, it's their life. Well it's actually not their life. God gave them life, and gave His Son for them, but they forget that or choose not to believe it.

Sometimes we become stronger for having lived through adversity. That does not make things easier when it is happening though. Hugs and prayers are with you both.

[donna1990]

Thanks Marilyn.

[DianaB]

Thanks so much, Marilyn!