If you could go back, would you marry your husband again?

[RLC12345678]

Knowing what you know now, would you go back and make the same decision you made so many years ago to marry your husband?

I've only been married 1 year and 2 months, and at this point I say, YES! I would do it exactly the same if I had to do it again. Of course, most people would say that I'm still in the honeymoon stage. :p

[May5]

LoL...I'm with you; I've only been married for a little over a year....so my answer is also yes :D Ask me again in 4 years :p

[RLC12345678]

LoL...I'm with you; I've only been married for a little over a year....so my answer is also yes :D Ask me again in 4 years :p

Everyone says the first year is the hardest, was it especially hard for you?? Man, if the first year was the worst for us, we will have pretty smooth sailing from here on out! :p

[May5]

OMG! I'm feel exactly the same way! Everyone keeps telling us how the first year is so hard an all....but it's been GREAT for us (sure we argue and what not, but no biggie). ;)

[RLC12345678]

OMG! I'm feel exactly the same way! Everyone keeps telling us how the first year is so hard an all....but it's been GREAT for us (sure we argue and what not, but no biggie). ;)

Ditto. We argue, but who doesn't?!

[linnylou]

what a great question i have been with my hubby for 18years and married for 15 years and i would marry him again in an instant we have had our problems like everybody else but we have stuck together through it all , i mean i have the mother in law from hell she never liked me from the start and has now not spoken to me or my kids for 11 years now i mean she walks rightby them and get this she lives next door to us imagine the tension in a marriage with that! my husband decided years ago it was a all or nothing policy in our house as to say you are friends with all of us or none of us they do not speak sad isnt it.but as long as you support eachother you wont go far wrong you must have a united front, in fact her excuse for not going to our wedding was why bother it will only last five minutes so every anniversary he writes in my card not doing bad with our five minutes are we!

[Mandy]

YES i would! I have a very patient husband, he has a huge heart and is always trying to please me.

[Mandy]

OMG! I'm feel exactly the same way! Everyone keeps telling us how the first year is so hard an all....but it's been GREAT for us (sure we argue and what not, but no biggie). ;)

Every healthy relationship has arguments. We can't agree all the time, we all have different opinions, and after all, we are only human :) :) :)

[Janet]

Knowing what you know now, would you go back and make the same decision you made so many years ago to marry your husband?

I've only been married 1 year and 2 months, and at this point I say, YES! I would do it exactly the same if I had to do it again. Of course, most people would say that I'm still in the honeymoon stage. :p


I have a friend that never called it the "honeymoon stage" her phrase was "she was still in a state of bliss".....LOL I thought it was so cute.

Well, I'm sure most of you already know my answer. No, I would not do it again. I would wait till I was older and grown more into "me". I've grown so much and can't say the same for him. That's not an insult toward him, but some people grow, others, not so much. I have higher goals/ideals and he settles. 32 years is a long time and it hasn't all been bad. It hasn't even been horrible. But no, I would not do it again.

[Cribal]

Well, I wasn't going to post until I saw Janets post. I didn't want to be the only one to say no. Last month was our first year anniversary and it was the longest year. If I could turn back time then I wouldn't marry my husband. I feel really bad for saying that but I wish I would have stuck with what I had said most of my life and never gotten married. I guess it's too late now so I have to suck it up and deal with it. I'm pretty good with rolling with th punches so I'll be alright.

[Janet]

Well, I wasn't going to post until I saw Janets post. I didn't want to be the only one to say no. Last month was our first year anniversary and it was the longest year. If I could turn back time then I wouldn't marry my husband. I feel really bad for saying that but I wish I would have stuck with what I had said most of my life and never gotten married. I guess it's too late now so I have to suck it up and deal with it. I'm pretty good with rolling with th punches so I'll be alright.


My only advice....you've been married such a short time, seek marriage counceling if you want it to work. If not....don't wait 32 years like I did. Don't get me wrong, I don't "regret" it in that sense of the word, I just would not have married him then, knowing what I know now.

[RLC12345678]

My only advice....you've been married such a short time, seek marriage counceling if you want it to work. If not....don't wait 32 years like I did. Don't get me wrong, I don't "regret" it in that sense of the word, I just would not have married him then, knowing what I know now.

I agree. You've only been married for a year. If you're miserable, either get counseling or break it off. I have known MANY couples who decide they have made a wrong decision after a year or two and divorce. Is it too late to get it annulled?

[Ponyup]

Well, I wasn't going to post until I saw Janets post. I didn't want to be the only one to say no. Last month was our first year anniversary and it was the longest year. If I could turn back time then I wouldn't marry my husband. I feel really bad for saying that but I wish I would have stuck with what I had said most of my life and never gotten married. I guess it's too late now so I have to suck it up and deal with it. I'm pretty good with rolling with th punches so I'll be alright.

I like you thought I had made a mistake the first year I was married. We were together 18 months before things got better & now they are great. There is usually an adjustment period. However, if you are unhappy & think you will continue to be unhappy, then seek counseling or get the marriage annuled. Life is too short to spend it unhappy. Just remember that nothing is ever the way you imagine it to be.

[Cribal]

I think councling would be a good idea for us. I don't know if my husband would be to keen on it though. I guess if I told him it was one way or the other then he would probly be ok with it. I am unhappy the majority of the time but he does have his good moments. It's usually only two days out of a month though...=LOL. I really don't want to get divorced. I don't know why but I've always figured that everything can always be worked out. (besides cheating and abuse) I'm hoping it's just the whole first year thing and that things will get better. But, like I said, I'm gonna stick through it. I know that I don't want to be unhappy for the rest of my life but I will find a way to change that without getting divorced.

[Janet]

I think councling would be a good idea for us. I don't know if my husband would be to keen on it though. I guess if I told him it was one way or the other then he would probly be ok with it. I am unhappy the majority of the time but he does have his good moments. It's usually only two days out of a month though...=LOL. I really don't want to get divorced. I don't know why but I've always figured that everything can always be worked out. (besides cheating and abuse) I'm hoping it's just the whole first year thing and that things will get better. But, like I said, I'm gonna stick through it. I know that I don't want to be unhappy for the rest of my life but I will find a way to change that without getting divorced.

Don't be too sure.... :(

Life is way too short to live it as unhappy. Seek help and if he won't go, go alone.:)

[Necee419]

I would marry my husband ten times over again. It has been hard because of his illness but he is a wonderful man and we love each other very much. Personally I think it is easy to love when things are going smoothly. It is only when you reach the tough patches in your marriage that you truly realize whether your love is real and strong enough to make it through. For those of you who are going through the rough patches, don't give up! It may seem hard while you are in the moment but if you can withstand the hardships, your marriage will emerge stronger than before. "That which does not kill us, makes us stronger."

[DianaB]

My husband and I were married when we were very young and, as you can guess, we soon had children, and yes, I would marry him again! He's a wonderful Christian man with good morals and a good work ethic. He's wonderfully patient and is the kind of father that every kid wants to have. He babies me and gives me lots of attention. Sometimes I feel so spoiled. I'm not saying that there's not things that I wouldn't change, but I could never find another man to ever take his place. Since we started so young I have always considered myself to be blessed that I made a right choice. I could have so easily at 17 married Mr. Wrong. We've had our ups and downs but we've always managed to work it out and we've never used the "D" word (divorce). We've been married for 32 years!

[rivermom]

Oh you betcha I would!! :D

[Emmsmom]

Knowing what you know now, would you go back and make the same decision you made so many years ago to marry your husband?

I've only been married 1 year and 2 months, and at this point I say, YES! I would do it exactly the same if I had to do it again. Of course, most people would say that I'm still in the honeymoon stage. :p



DAMN WOMAN! Are you trying to get us shot!!!! LOL NAh I am just joking. :D We have had our good and bad times but to answer your question yes I would marry him again.We have been married for 12 years so far. Now come ask me this question on a day that he ticks me off. You might get a whole new answer!!!!:yelrotflmao:

[Marilyn]

Well, wasn't sure I even wanted to read this thread, but finally did. After 32 years, I have to say, yes, I would marry him. We too have had ups and downs, but he's still my very best friend, and he is definitely the one I want to grow old with. I don't know what I would do if anything every happened to him. I know I would keep busy, but I can't imagine being without him. We share everything. We usually talk at least 2 or 3 times during the day while we are working. Cell phones are a wonderful invention. Our home office has a long counter with two computer stations. He's clicking away playing hearts right now. In a minute, he's going to ask me what all the typing is about.

I don't mean to make anyone who is not in such a good relationship feel bad, but I really do love this man, and he loves me just as much. He convinced me that $1,800 was not too much to pay for my precious little yorkie, Zoe. So you know he's special.

Yes, definitely, yes in a heartbeat. I'd do it all over again. But I would be an even better wife, less selfish in the early years.

He just ask about the typing. If I'm not careful, he's going to notice the tears in my eyes.

Gotta go. ;)

[Janet]

Well, wasn't sure I even wanted to read this thread, but finally did. After 32 years, I have to say, yes, I would marry him. We too have had ups and downs, but he's still my very best friend, and he is definitely the one I want to grow old with. I don't know what I would do if anything every happened to him. I know I would keep busy, but I can't imagine being without him. We share everything. We usually talk at least 2 or 3 times during the day while we are working. Cell phones are a wonderful invention. Our home office has a long counter with two computer stations. He's clicking away playing hearts right now. In a minute, he's going to ask me what all the typing is about.

I don't mean to make anyone who is not in such a good relationship feel bad, but I really do love this man, and he loves me just as much. He convinced me that $1,800 was not too much to pay for my precious little yorkie, Zoe. So you know he's special.

Yes, definitely, yes in a heartbeat. I'd do it all over again. But I would be an even better wife, less selfish in the early years.

He just ask about the typing. If I'm not careful, he's going to notice the tears in my eyes.

Gotta go. ;)


That is so sweet, I am so happy for you!!

[RLC12345678]

Well, wasn't sure I even wanted to read this thread, but finally did. After 32 years, I have to say, yes, I would marry him. We too have had ups and downs, but he's still my very best friend, and he is definitely the one I want to grow old with. I don't know what I would do if anything every happened to him. I know I would keep busy, but I can't imagine being without him. We share everything. We usually talk at least 2 or 3 times during the day while we are working. Cell phones are a wonderful invention. Our home office has a long counter with two computer stations. He's clicking away playing hearts right now. In a minute, he's going to ask me what all the typing is about.

I don't mean to make anyone who is not in such a good relationship feel bad, but I really do love this man, and he loves me just as much. He convinced me that $1,800 was not too much to pay for my precious little yorkie, Zoe. So you know he's special.

Yes, definitely, yes in a heartbeat. I'd do it all over again. But I would be an even better wife, less selfish in the early years.

He just ask about the typing. If I'm not careful, he's going to notice the tears in my eyes.

Gotta go. ;)

Marilyn, that is the nicest thing I've heard in a very long time! Me still being in my early years of marriage, may I ask you a question?? You said you would be a better wife and less selfish in the early years if you could do it again. What do you mean by that? If you feel comfortable, would you share? I would love to take some marriage tips from you and try to not make the same mistakes.

[Kimberley]

If I knew then what I know now? I would have NOT married this husband or the previous one, either. Hell, I would never get married.

[Janet]

If I knew then what I know now? I would have NOT married this husband or the previous one, either. Hell, I would never get married.


I'm with ya on this one!!!! I figure men should have a hook on the back of their neck, fine when ya need 'em, if not, hang 'em in the back of the closet!!:)

[Ponyup]

I'm with ya on this one!!!! I figure men should have a hook on the back of their neck, fine when ya need 'em, if not, hang 'em in the back of the closet!!:)

If this was true Janet, your husband would be all dusty & eaten by moths by now, right?;)

[Janet]

If this was true Janet, your husband would be all dusty & eaten by moths by now, right?;)

NAAAwww he has balls, oh excuse me, they have to be moth balls don't they. Duh!!! I need him to do things around the house, but so far nothing, I'll do it myself this weekend, I need him to do things outside...but I'll do that probably next weekend. So yea!!! it's all true....it's my story and I'm sticking to it!!! LOL :D

[Mandy]

Well, wasn't sure I even wanted to read this thread, but finally did. After 32 years, I have to say, yes, I would marry him. We too have had ups and downs, but he's still my very best friend, and he is definitely the one I want to grow old with. I don't know what I would do if anything every happened to him. I know I would keep busy, but I can't imagine being without him. We share everything. We usually talk at least 2 or 3 times during the day while we are working. Cell phones are a wonderful invention. Our home office has a long counter with two computer stations. He's clicking away playing hearts right now. In a minute, he's going to ask me what all the typing is about.

I don't mean to make anyone who is not in such a good relationship feel bad, but I really do love this man, and he loves me just as much. He convinced me that $1,800 was not too much to pay for my precious little yorkie, Zoe. So you know he's special.

Yes, definitely, yes in a heartbeat. I'd do it all over again. But I would be an even better wife, less selfish in the early years.




He just ask about the typing. If I'm not careful, he's going to notice the tears in my eyes.

Gotta go. ;)


That's so sweet! Thanks for sharing :thumbup:

[Mandy]

NAAAwww he has balls, oh excuse me, they have to be moth balls don't they. Duh!!! I need him to do things around the house, but so far nothing, I'll do it myself this weekend, I need him to do things outside...but I'll do that probably next weekend. So yea!!! it's all true....it's my story and I'm sticking to it!!! LOL :D

You do crack me up Janet!!! :yelrotflmao:

[Willow]

Yes I would marry my husband again. He is my biggest supporter. My husband defended me to his family when we were dating. They kept trying to drag my name in the mud to get him to leave me and he would have none of it. Now his sister feels I stole him from the family and I changed him. I don't think I changed him. We just fell in love and wanted to be together.

He loves me and spoils me and I in turn love and spoil him. He yells at me for not spending money on myself (go figure!LOL). He says I spend too much money on the kids, our animals, him and that I should take more time for myself than I do. He bought me two new outfits last month and I felt guilty because the money he spent on me could have been used on the kids instead. LOL

He does laundry, helps with the dishes, we clean house together...and we talk about everything! We are best friends and I can't imagine my life without him...Oh and he changes diapers!!!! He also cares for the kids while I work. It used to be the other way around until he injured his back.

[Sherry Lynn]

NAAAwww he has balls, oh excuse me, they have to be moth balls don't they. Duh!!! I need him to do things around the house, but so far nothing, I'll do it myself this weekend, I need him to do things outside...but I'll do that probably next weekend. So yea!!! it's all true....it's my story and I'm sticking to it!!! LOL :D

LMAO!!!!!:yelrotflmao:

[magnolia]

That's a good question and a tough one at the same time. I grew up in a home where my parents were married at age 18 and still together until the day my dad died. Oh, they had their arguments but they also had their wonderful times together. And they loved each other immensely and taught my brothers and sisters about love and commitment. My sisters both married before they were 20 years old and I swore I would not get married until I had a chance to live on my own, away from home, and enjoy me:) I got to do that but when Mr. Right walks up and smacks ya in the face, no matter how old you are, you take the "jump" which is what I did. My hubby came from a broken home - parents divorced when he was 9 months old, 2nd married ended in divorce in under 10 years, and 3rd marriage ended in under 10 years (both his mother and father have been married 3 times). He didn't know what it was like to live in a home with both his parents. So, our first couple of years together were "rocky" - he still felt he could go and do with the guys just like he always had, without calling me to let me know! After calling the cops to help look for him (he was a deputy sheriff where we lived) because he was supposed to be home at 9:30 and here it was 4:00 in the morning and no word from him (I had to be at work at 8:00 and I had NO sleep), he began calling me after that. I told him common courtesy dictates he pick up the freaking phone and call when he's gonna be late - otherwise, I expect the worst (considering his occupation at the time). We've still had our ups and downs but we are still together and can't imagine our lives without each other in it:) But, as others have said, our relationship would not be a healthy one if we didn't "sprinkle" it with an argument every now and then. So, yes, I would marry him all over again knowing what I know - but there'd be some ground rules before hand written into the marriage vows ;)

[BabyNicole]

Well, I wasn't going to post until I saw Janets post. I didn't want to be the only one to say no. Last month was our first year anniversary and it was the longest year. If I could turn back time then I wouldn't marry my husband. I feel really bad for saying that but I wish I would have stuck with what I had said most of my life and never gotten married. I guess it's too late now so I have to suck it up and deal with it. I'm pretty good with rolling with th punches so I'll be alright.

Oh Crystal, I didn't know that. :(

[BabyNicole]

If I knew then what I know now? I would have NOT married this husband or the previous one, either. Hell, I would never get married.

Girl you are so funny!!! :yelrotflmao: Wish you were happy!! But you are still a hoot! :1luvu:

[Janet]

You ladies sure don't have to worry about people like Cribal and myself. I think, or at least know for myself, that if I was absolutely miserable, I'd be gone. We still have great times, doesn't mean I don't care for him.....I just would not do it again knowing what I know now!

[RLC12345678]

That's a good question and a tough one at the same time. I grew up in a home where my parents were married at age 18 and still together until the day my dad died. Oh, they had their arguments but they also had their wonderful times together. And they loved each other immensely and taught my brothers and sisters about love and commitment. My sisters both married before they were 20 years old and I swore I would not get married until I had a chance to live on my own, away from home, and enjoy me:) I got to do that but when Mr. Right walks up and smacks ya in the face, no matter how old you are, you take the "jump" which is what I did. My hubby came from a broken home - parents divorced when he was 9 months old, 2nd married ended in divorce in under 10 years, and 3rd marriage ended in under 10 years (both his mother and father have been married 3 times). He didn't know what it was like to live in a home with both his parents. So, our first couple of years together were "rocky" - he still felt he could go and do with the guys just like he always had, without calling me to let me know! After calling the cops to help look for him (he was a deputy sheriff where we lived) because he was supposed to be home at 9:30 and here it was 4:00 in the morning and no word from him (I had to be at work at 8:00 and I had NO sleep), he began calling me after that. I told him common courtesy dictates he pick up the freaking phone and call when he's gonna be late - otherwise, I expect the worst (considering his occupation at the time). We've still had our ups and downs but we are still together and can't imagine our lives without each other in it:) But, as others have said, our relationship would not be a healthy one if we didn't "sprinkle" it with an argument every now and then. So, yes, I would marry him all over again knowing what I know - but there'd be some ground rules before hand written into the marriage vows ;)

Don't we all wish we could go back and do this!!!!! hehehehe

[ice queen]

Don't we all wish we could go back and do this!!!!! hehehehe
Hunny i'm with you 100% on that one!!! I would marry him again but i would have waited until we were more financially stable...he gets bored with his job so easy it was like he would have new one every three months but i am proud of him for staying in the national guard-he has been in since he got out of the navy-he just signed up for another six years for the insurance and other benefits plus he said he's only got a few more years till he can retire and get his army pension. But he has been working offshore for the past year-with the exception of when he got sent to n.o. for hurrican katrina-he was down there for a long time. i wish he would have started working offshore when we first got married- alot of our major arguements were about finances. We get along fine as long as I am not stressing over money all the time. But i love him with all my heart and soul. One time we were in a horrendous fight and i told him i was leaving him and he broke down and cried and told me that he couldn't imagine life without me and the girls. Somedays it's a hard row to hoe but when he holds me in his arms i have never felt more safe and secure and loved. My mom has been married and divorced three times and I always told myself that I never wanted to get married because I couldn't handle losing someone i loved like she has. I really believe that he is the only man for me. Plus he told me we were both too damn stubborn to ever get a divorce-that we would stay together just for spite!!!:D :D