Prayer for my son

[donna1990]

He just turned 40. He is in jail on cocaine charges.
I am not going to bail him out, he has to learn sometime.
Pray for me too as I am so physically ill from this, can't quit shaking.
Thanks,
Donna

[DianaB]

I'm so sorry that you're dealing with this Donna. It's so hard to see loved ones ruin their lives with drugs. It sounds like you've tried to help him in the past and I think that sometimes you have to let them face the consequences of their actions. It's very hard to do but hopefully it will be a wake up call. I'm saying a prayer for you and your son right this minute. Hugs!!

[Janet]

Donna, I am so sorry you are so shaken by this. Drugs can do so much damage and I think you're absolutely right by not bailing him out. Let him sit and think if it's really worth it. Is there anyway he would enter a rehab program?

I will keep you and your son in my prayers.

[donna1990]

Thank you Diana.
You to Janet. My oldest son has been clean for 5 years, he is very active in N/A. He has tried to help Troy before but he didn't stick with it. He tried to call me this morning, it was collect of course and I was not home. That is how I found out he was in jail. If he does call, I will tell him that I can't bail him out and the only thing I CAN do is pray and find a Bible in the jail and start reading.

[Tiramisu]

Donna, my thoughts are with you and your son!

[donna1990]

I just pulled him up and his mug shots make me sick, he does not even look like my son.
I just called the jail and he is still there and they are taking care of his insulin.
Oh God, I have been going through this for 25 years,

[donna1990]

I just pulled his record up and the mug shots make me ill. He does not even look like my son.

[Blueyes]

Oh Donna! I'm so sorry for you both. At least you know where he will be sleeping at night and is being fed. Don't feel guilty for not bailing him out...they don't call it tough love for nothing. Try to get some rest...bless your heart:unlove:

[gja1000]

Donna, you are doing the right thing - he is an adult and he must take care of himself, as hard as that might be for him.

My sister-in-law bailed out her son, my nephew, so many times, and then she paid big bucks for him to go into residential drug treatment TWICE - he still got out and did drugs. He was a lawyer - you'd think he'd know better. Of course, he lost his law license and finally, my sil had to let him go to jail. There comes a point when you just can no longer rescue them, you have to let nature take its course. You just have to and you have nothing to feel guilty about.

Of course you love him and you feel badly for him, but he has made the wrong choices, and you can't change that.

I hope you can find some peace. Have you gone to Narc Anon, or some group help for family of an addict? If you have, then call someone or if you haven't, now would be the time.

I'm so sorry you are having to go through this.

[donna1990]

Thank you Gail, so sorry about your nephew. I do have friends in Narc Anon, what a big help they are. My X bailed him out today, as long as he keeps treating him like a child he will never change. He, the X is so stupid, he told our son that he will be so happy when he is dead and gone so that he will not have to worry about him "Troy" anymore.
I told him last night that there was nothing I could do but pray for him.

[AngieDoogles]

Donna, I am so sorry that you are dealing with this. So many of my clients have issues with drugs and it is really tough on everyone involved. I'll say a prayer for him and for you. *hugs*

[gja1000]

T He, the X is so stupid, he told our son that he will be so happy when he is dead and gone so that he will not have to worry about him "Troy" anymore.
I told him last night that there was nothing I could do but pray for him.


What an idiot (sorry) I shouldn't say that, but it seems to be true!!!

Donna, I hope you can find some peace.

[Shada]

I truly pray this will be the wake up call your son needs.
Prayers sent your way.

[HUGS]

[Gina]

Donna.. I will keep you and your son in my prayers. I hope he finds the way back, it is hard. But I do know a few who has overcome this problem. hugs to you.. Please try not to get sick over this. I know its easier said than done.

[Forgivenmom5]

Donna I know it must be hard but keep the faith. I know a lady from church who prayed for her son for many years. She says she spent many sleepless nights on her knees and was terrified every time the phone rang because she didn't know what would happen to him.

He has been clean for years now. He is married, has a son, plays guitar and sings gospel music. he has worked with youth in several churches and now runs a ministry for people who have been in prison or using drugs and alcohol.

Hopefully your prayers will be answered also.

[judy]

Donna - this must be so hard for you. It is so heartbreaking to watch your child go down the wrong road, knowing that you can't do anything to stop him.

Good things do happen though. I will pray for you and your son.

Love, and hugs

Judy

[donna1990]

What an idiot (sorry) I shouldn't say that, but it seems to be true!!!

Donna, I hope you can find some peace.


You are right that is why I divorced him.:bravo:
Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers.

[2tiredmom]

Donna,

I am so sorry to hear this. Your both in my prayers also. You have done the right thing. They have to learn from their mistakes. We can't bail them out all the time.
Some times you just have to be tough. God Bless you both.