Janet???

[lynne b]

Ok Janet, i have been waiting patiently to hear how things went yesterday with your mom. I pray that everything went well and i know you can do this....Lynne

[lynne b]

I'm getting worried about you Janet, haven't seen or heard from you in days. I know you are busy with your mom, learning everything you need to know I am just concerned about YOU and how you are handeling everything. I know you have to go today & tomorrow with your mom but i hope you can let us know how thing's are going this weekend. I am praying for you & your mom....Lynne

[Marilyn]

Janet, are you okay??? I have'nt been on here much lately and didn't realize you hadn't been around. Hope all is going well with your mom!!!

[Tiramisu]

I've seen Janet daily on FB. She's fine, just spending time with dialisis training with her Mom.

[lynne b]

I've seen Janet daily on FB. She's fine, just spending time with dialisis training with her Mom.



Thanks for letting us know that she is fine, i'm sure she is busy trying to figure everything out.

How are the poopies LOL?

[Tiramisu]

Thanks for letting us know that she is fine, i'm sure she is busy trying to figure everything out.

How are the poopies LOL?

Sweetee's two poopiesare huge. Fancee had two little boys (5.2 and 5.3) yesterday. Sorry, I didn't post it, I've been covering another desk all week and staying sidetracked with unimportant stuff.

[Janet]

I'm here....

I'm sorry Lynne to make you worry. I'm just exhausted when the training is over. I have to come home and get done what needs done.....and I really just haven't felt like talking. We didn't have training on Tuesday, but I spent most of the day...with my friend Linda, her daughter was worried about her being alone and Linda needed me.

I'll try to give you a call over the weekend. Right now....I'm just tired....down....and having a pity party for myself.

[Marilyn]

Oh, Janet, so sorry you are having to go through all of this. Hopefully you will get through the training and get into more of a routine.

Is Linda your friend you had lost contact with who was living with her daughter? If so, I remember how much you were missing contact with her.

[lynne b]

Janet, I know you have been really busy, you have had alot to take in this week on top of worrying about Linda. I was getting worried about you but seeing you post here makes me feel better. You call whenever you feel like it, just don't forget i have to go back to work on Mon. :(
I hope everything is going good with your mom, i am praying for her & you...Lynne

[Janet]

Thanks all. We are getting a break over the weekend. We will resume training and dialysis on Monday, skip Tuesday, train Wednesday and Thursday. We are shooting for Thursday to bring the dialysis machine home on Thursday.

When we went to eat lunch today.....Mom finally broke down and cried so hard. Broke my heart to see her like that. She had a good cry and now is focusing on what needs to be done. Please keep her in your prayers.....there is so much to do to fend off infection...it's mind boggling at times.

Yes Marilyn, Linda has been my best friend for over 30 years. I love her dearly. Her daughter was a little worried about leaving for the whole day... and Linda wanted me.

[Gina]

Oh Janet I feel for you. I pray that your mom will adapt to the process and that God will give you the strenght to learn what is needed. I know what your going through, for my brother was on dialysis so many years ago. Of course everything is improved now a days.

[Janet]

It really is a lot to learn. Mom comes from the age that you do not throw anything away. Well, if she drops something or touches something she shouldn't while connecting the tubing...she has to throw it away. It really drives her crazy....."such waste" she says. If she contaminates any of the tubing, connectors..etc...she can get an infection...which could be very dangerous. So far...no else is stepping up to help.

[gja1000]

Janet, I'm so sorry that you are going through this. It IS alot to learn and it IS overwhelming. It will be OK once you get through the training process, but it is just so stressful, I completely understand. Sometimes I get overwhelmed with Gary's medical needs and I am a nurse, for crying out loud.

I promise though, it will get better - the feeling of being overwhelmed. You will look back and think that it is OK, but that will take some time.

I'm very glad that she can do the home dialysis so that she doesn't have to spend hours at the dialysis center every week. Of course, if she were doing that, then you wouldn't have to be learning all of this.

Just take one day at a time - or one hour at a time and keep thinking that it will be OK, and that you both CAN do this. It will get easier and easier, I just know it!

[Janet]

Thank you Gayle....I know I've type it already...but I'm so glad you're back. This has been one heck of a ride for sure. I'm anxious for Mom to start doing the dialysis at home so we can start getting back to somewhat of a normal life.

We have a very small dialysis center here in town, but it's full with a long waiting list. If Mom was to do the dialysis in center....we would have to go to Lafayette 3 times a week to the place we are going now. Mom didn't want to do that...and stay home from Florida. Yes....she is still planning on going to Florida. We just don't know if she'll be able to do it alone all the time....she's not sure either. We'll see.

[judy]

It sounds hard Janet, and I am praying for you and your Mom. You will learn to do it, and it will become routine, like Gayle and Gina said. But, right now, it sounds very tough. Be as strong as you can.:love079:

[lynne b]

I hope you got some rest this weekend....hopefu;;y this next week will be easier since you know what to expect.

[Janet]

Thanks Lynne. I'm so sorry I haven't been in touch more. It's just been really tough.

I know you have to go back to work tomorrow......hope you have a great day and that you won't miss the puppies too bad. I bet they are growing fast.

[gja1000]

T If Mom was to do the dialysis in center....we would have to go to Lafayette 3 times a week to the place we are going now. Mom didn't want to do that...and stay home from Florida. Yes....she is still planning on going to Florida. We just don't know if she'll be able to do it alone all the time....she's not sure either. We'll see.

I love it! She's still planning on living life to its FULLEST!!! That will give her the impetus to work hard to learn how to do it alone. And I bet she will too!!!

[Janet]

She's a stubborn woman for sure Gayle. She leaves for Florida the first weekend in January...so hopefully she'll have everything down pat and the confidence to get it all set up to run in Florida. My nerves are about shot!!! LOL

[Tiramisu]

She's a stubborn woman for sure Gayle. She leaves for Florida the first weekend in January...so hopefully she'll have everything down pat and the confidence to get it all set up to run in Florida. My nerves are about shot!!! LOL

I was wondering if your Mom is planning her yearly migration. How brave and neat!

[Janet]

She's planning to, but my sister-in-law is wanting her to stay home. My SIL in the one that drives down with her and then flies home. Then in April...she flies down and then drives her home. I just hope that if she does go.....she knows the dialysis really good.

[gja1000]

I think she will be OK by January - in terms of being able to do the dialysis - or she will have decided that she can't do it (or doesn't want to) and will be having it done at the center. I bet she masters it though, she's a determined woman!!!

Does she have a place in Florida? Or does she stay with friends/or rent?

[katcarasella]

Janet, I've been praying for both of you.....

Glad to hear that she's as spunky as ever...

[Janet]

She has her own place Gayle, but there isn't anyone there to really help her unless it's the next door neighbor.

Today Mom wasn't the easiest to get along with. She can be so hard headed. Too much to really get into, but she's being a little on the disrespectful side to everyone. We go tomorrow and then we are done until one day next week....a refresher.

They wanted her to start in two days...Friday. It would work out great for me because I could stay the nights over the weekend. She didn't want to start until Monday...no matter how inconvenient it was for me...she wouldn't budge. So......we are holding off until the next Friday. I would have thought she could have thought a little about me (since school is starting on Wednesday), but no....didn't happen. Either do it her way....or no way.

I'm glad we will have this break. I need it desperately. I'm used to speaking with Lynne every day or at least every other day and I miss her. She understands because of all she is/was going through with her Mom. I'm just usually so tired...emotionally drained and can't wait to go to sleep to quit thinking. I'm still crying ...alot....I know it's a stressful cry...I'm just so tired and here it is 9:16 PM and I'm still awake.

[gja1000]

It really is very stressful and even moreso, overwhelming. Then throw in a hard-headed mom, and well.......you have every reason to cry Janet. Yes, your mom should have had more consideration for you and your schedule - but she didn't so just make the best of it - as you are already doing, because, as you said, it gives you a great break till next Friday.

My mom can be really disrespectful too sometimes. Also, there is another thing to consider. As we age, the part of our brain that helps us to be socially respectful of others, doesn't work as well. That's why you hear old people sometimes say the most disrespectful things. My mom will say something horrible about someone else and then say something like, "Well, I'm old so I can say that". What it is really, is the part of the brain that helps us to NOT say the things we are sometimes thinking, doesn't work as well in old people so they just blurt out what they are thinking and they think it is OK. It's actually called Executive Function and it doesn't fully develop until after adolescence (that's why kids say the darndest things) and it begins to deteriorate as we get old.

This is all to say that there is an organic reason why your mom behaves this way - even though she may have been somewhat this way all her life (I don't know), but it does get worse with everyone as they age.

Hang in there! You won't feel quite so overwhelmed as things progress.

[DianaB]

Janet, I'm so sorry that you're so overwhelmed. I thought about calling you several times while I was on vacation, and even left a message on your answering machine. I'm so glad that Gayle is back and is giving you advice to help you through all of this. I know that it's all hard but it's nice to know that there's a light at the end of the tunnel. I'm here for you any time you need to talk. Hugs!!!!

[Janet]

I just played the answering machine after reading your post. Looks like someone listened to it but forgot to tell me. GGGRRRRRRRR!