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Janet
01-06-2010, 05:52 PM
Yesterday (Tuesday) after 4 PM, my mother called me to say she was feeling like she was going to pass out. I told her I was on my way (15-20 minute drive) so I hung up, called my brother who lives less than 5 minutes away and told him about mom and that I was on my way.

She was very weak and we were going to take her to the ER when she passed out in my arms. I laid her out on the couch and was able to get her to tell me her chest was burning and that her left arm felt achy. My sister-in-law called 911 then and they took her to our county hospital.


She had a BM at the ER and it was mostly blood. Sorry so graphic. They decided to transfer her to a larger, better equiped hospital in a town nearby. She went by ambulance, and I drove over at about 10:30 last night. I stayed the night with her but didn't get any sleep, neither did she.

She was planning on going to Florida this Saturday as she does every year and is now more upset about not being able to go yet instead of her health...

Last night they think was just the start of a heart attack because she had lost so much blood, but today at the 2nd hospital, she had the attack.

They want to do a heart cath, but can't until they find the cause of the bleeding because they need to use blood thinners. And they want to do a colonoscopy to see if they can find the bleeding, but can't so soon after a heart attack. Drs. want to wait at least 4 weeks, but did say that if the bleeding does not stop, they will have to go in.

She's resting good this evening and I'm going to sleep in my own bed tonight and then hopefully tomorrow (snow storm coming) I will be able to get back over there tomorrow. Please pray for her..it would mean so much to me.

judy
01-06-2010, 06:12 PM
Oh my Janet, I am praying for her! You must be exhausted, and she as well. I will call you tomorrow, if I can get you.

I love you and I am sending you hugs and prayers.

gja1000
01-06-2010, 07:26 PM
Oh Janet, I am so sorry this is happening to your mom! It sounds like she is getting good care though. Each condition (heart & bleeding) is complicating the other and that is tough, especially at her age! I will be sending healing thoughts and rays of sunshine light to you and your mom. Keep us posted, I was so worried when I saw your post on FB.

Blueyes
01-06-2010, 07:44 PM
I prayed for your mom and you, Janet. I'm sure the doctors will figure out what to do. Your mom may just be focused on going to Florida because it's easier to think about than her failing health. Spend all of the time you can with her, but don't forget to take care of yourself.

Lindsey
01-07-2010, 06:24 AM
I am so sorry Janet, I am also praying for your mom. I was worried when I saw your status on Facebook last night.

HUGS!

judy
01-07-2010, 06:52 AM
I'm hoping that her health is more under control today, Janet. I am with you in spirit, my dear friend.

DianaB
01-07-2010, 10:07 AM
How's your Mom doing today? At least you know that she's getting good care at a larger facility. I know that it's not as handy for you but I'm sure that it's better care for her. You know that I'm praying for you AND your Mom!!! AND I can be there as soon as I can get a flight if you need me there!!!

I feel so bad that I didn't call you back when I first noticed you'd called. I was just thinking that I'd have more time to talk today than I did yesterday. I didn't think about it being an emergency. I'm so sorry.

You know that you're in my thoughts and prayers. A big hug for you :hug:

lynne b
01-07-2010, 11:49 AM
Janet, I do hope your mom is doing better today and they can get the bleeding under control so they can deal with her heart.
I hope you were able to get to the hospital today, the snow was awful this morning and now they are calling for wind on top of it. If you are out please be careful.
Like i told you last night if you need to talk please call, i will get back with you, if we get the wind tonight i probably won't go to work so call anytime.
I'm praying for you and your mom to be safe and get well.

DIANE W
01-07-2010, 01:17 PM
Janet

Take care of yourself, and i am thinking about and praying for your mum, you and all the family.
I hope she continues to get stronger, and keeps cheerful. I know how it is taking care of someone, and being there for them, it is emotionally and physically draining, but you will get the strength to do what is required from you.

I will be thinking of you.

Diane

Janet
01-07-2010, 01:53 PM
The cardiac nurse called today to discuss another option for Mom. My brothes were there with her which made me angry because neither called to see if I would like to go with them. They know it's harder for me to get out in my van on these snowy county roads. Anyway........

They said they could do the heart cath just to see what damage was done from the heart attack, but they would have to use a dye. This dye could ruin dialysis for her as she knows it. Right now she is on peritoneal dialsys through her stomach. This dye could cause her kidneys to worsen quickly and make her have to start hemo dialysis. With the paritoneal she does it at home while she sleeps. If she were to do hemo, she could possibly do it at home, but someone would have to be with her, OR she would have to go to Wellbound (her dialysis center) and have it done 3 days a week and it takes 5-8 hours. Mom does not want to do this.

We all come to the decision to wait just a few days and not rush into it. Ultimately, I told Mom I would support whatever decision she made because after all...it's her life and she is very capable of making the decision.

Thank you all so much, you'll never know just how much I appreciate and love you.

DianaB
01-07-2010, 03:04 PM
Wow, what a decision!! I'm glad that you're waiting a few days before deciding. After what she's already gone through with dialysis it would be hard to change that to something that's harder to do and more inconvenient. Hopefully another answer will come up soon. Hugs!!

Blueyes
01-07-2010, 03:40 PM
Janet, first of all I'm sorry your brothers didn't come to get you. Shame on them!

A heart cath shows blockage in the arteries taking blood to the heart. They punch a hole in her groin, put a line up to her heart, put in the dye, then look at any blockage there may be. The dye then has to be filtered back out through her kidneys, which you know.

An echocardiogram is used to see if there is damage to the heart muscle itself after a heart attack. It's just like a sonogram. They put goo on your chest and run a doppler wand around on your skin. That's all there is to it.

You may know all of these things already...I'm just trying to help:D I love you and I'm so glad your mom can make her own decisions so you don't have to!

paula1961
01-07-2010, 05:37 PM
Janet, I am so sorry about your mom! I so hope she is doing better today. I am sending prayers your way for you and your Mom!!!:hands:

gja1000
01-07-2010, 05:38 PM
Janet, there is some medicine they can give you before the dye (heart cath) to protect the kidneys. It's called Mucinex or something like that (not the stuff you take for a cold. LOL!). Gary has the same problem as your mom, his kidneys are so bad he can't take dye, unless it is absolutely necessary. He takes the Mucinex the day before the dye study to protect his kidneys - I wonder if they could do that for your mom. Of course, her kidneys may be too bad and maybe even the Mucinex won't help. But you might ask.

Blueyes
01-07-2010, 06:01 PM
It's called Mucomyst. Mike just had some, too. He had to drink it and it smells and tastes like rotten eggs:eek: I heard it does come in pill form, too.

Gina
01-07-2010, 06:06 PM
Janet you are both in my prayers I saw this on FB yesterday and I have been thinking of you g/f.. :hug:

Shada
01-07-2010, 07:42 PM
Janet, you and your Mom are in my prayers.
Your Mother is a strong woman. As is you! Hope every hour brings improvement.
(HUGS)

Janet
01-08-2010, 04:24 AM
Janet, first of all I'm sorry your brothers didn't come to get you. Shame on them!

A heart cath shows blockage in the arteries taking blood to the heart. They punch a hole in her groin, put a line up to her heart, put in the dye, then look at any blockage there may be. The dye then has to be filtered back out through her kidneys, which you know.

An echocardiogram is used to see if there is damage to the heart muscle itself after a heart attack. It's just like a sonogram. They put goo on your chest and run a doppler wand around on your skin. That's all there is to it.

You may know all of these things already...I'm just trying to help:D I love you and I'm so glad your mom can make her own decisions so you don't have to!

They explained how to do the cath. My brother had it done twice so he was able to reassure her that she wouldn't feel anything. They also did the echocardiogram, but said it didn't show what they needed to see. The way they explained it, is it doesn't show how much or bad the damage actually is and that is why they need to do the cath. That's pretty much why we decided to wait a few days....to gather more information. You are really helping and now I have more questions for the Dr. That's a good thing!


Janet, there is some medicine they can give you before the dye (heart cath) to protect the kidneys. It's called Mucinex or something like that (not the stuff you take for a cold. LOL!). Gary has the same problem as your mom, his kidneys are so bad he can't take dye, unless it is absolutely necessary. He takes the Mucinex the day before the dye study to protect his kidneys - I wonder if they could do that for your mom. Of course, her kidneys may be too bad and maybe even the Mucinex won't help. But you might ask.

I will be asking about this. I hope it's something that will work for Mom. She won't drink meds, she's so stubborn...because she doesn't like to see it, smell it or she'll gag. I'll ask about this and the pill form.

It's called Mucomyst. Mike just had some, too. He had to drink it and it smells and tastes like rotten eggs:eek: I heard it does come in pill form, too.

Thanks for letting me know what it is called, I'll definitely be checking!! You all are the best!

judy
01-08-2010, 05:56 AM
This is a big decision, but you are getting lots of help, and great questions to ask!
Are you taking somebody with you to help with the questions and answers?

How is she feeling today?

DianaB
01-08-2010, 07:34 AM
Everyone on here is sooo helpful!!! I'm so proud of US!!!

Janet
01-08-2010, 05:07 PM
I went to see Mom this evening. All her vital signs are good including her BP. She's ready to go home...lol....but they are keeping her a bit longer. I didn't get a chance to speak with the Drs. today, but hopefully tomorrow. She is able to get up and go to the restroom on her own and they brought her in a recliner because she whined enough...LOL. She always gets her way...well almost always.

paula1961
01-08-2010, 07:11 PM
Sooo glad your Mom is doing better! Give us an update tomorrow Janet. I know you are so worried about her. Bless her heart.............she deserves a recliner. And if it takes whining to get it, so be it;) Hope she is up and out of that hospital soon!!

lynne b
01-09-2010, 02:41 AM
Janet, I'm glad to hear your mom is feeling better, hopefully you will get all your question answered so you can make the right decision on what she should do about the heart cath. You both are still in my thoughts & prayers

Janet
01-09-2010, 06:10 AM
Thanks everyone. When Mom first arrived at the hospital she was in ICU. Thursday they moved her to the general population not sure what you call it.. :) She is still on the 2nd floor. I just called her and they are going to move her to the 4th floor because she is better. Not sure when they are going to let her go. Mom doesn't want them to do the heart cath because she doesn't want her kidneys to get worse and do hemo dialysis. So we'll see. As long as she can make the decisions and know the facts...I think it best to leave it up to her what she wants them to do to her. The Drs. explain the procedures and I try to be there to tell her in ways that she'll understand. Man this is hard.

gja1000
01-09-2010, 09:52 AM
Mom doesn't want them to do the heart cath because she doesn't want her kidneys to get worse and do hemo dialysis. So we'll see. As long as she can make the decisions and know the facts...I think it best to leave it up to her what she wants them to do to her. The Drs. explain the procedures and I try to be there to tell her in ways that she'll understand. Man this is hard.


It is really hard Janet! This is what Betsi and I have been dealing with for many many years, and it never gets any easier. If you need to talk, you know where we are!

Blueyes
01-09-2010, 03:07 PM
Yep... what Gayle said!:)

judy
01-09-2010, 03:26 PM
It sounds very hard! You are not alone though, Janet.

Hugs and love!