Ponyup
11-13-2006, 08:06 AM
I befriended a girl that started working at my company back in Jan. Well I guess she's not really a girl. We started talking and became friends. One of my guy friends that also works her decided he liked her & I set them up. They began dating at the end of March. I've kept trying to make plans with her. Like we were going to go get our nails done for easter. We made all these plans & like an hour before we were supposed to meet up she text messages me with this elaborate story about having to suddenly drive to Indy. Later I found out from mutual friends that the boy was over during the time we were supposed to get together. So she ditched me for the boy, not a big deal, but for the love of God just say so, I'm not a moron & don't deserve to be lied to.
Well similar situations keep happening. They got engaged in July & were planning a wedding for Oct. One day in August I asked if the wedding was still on for Oct. & she said yes. Her & him eloped the next day. Not that I care, it's just she could of said something like I'm not sure we're looking at a couple different options.
Since they've been married she lets him totally control her life. It's not his fault, I've known him a long time & he's not abusive or anything, but if you let him walk on you he will. And the thing that's really pissing me off, is she keeps trying to make plans with me, but won't follow through because she's too much of a chicken sh*t to tell him it's something she really wants to do. He makes her request money in writing when ever she wants additional funds. I would almost understand this if he was the primary bread winner, but they both work. I'm pretty sure if she would say I ain't doing this, he'd let it go, but she's so afraid of him not liking her.
The thing that really gets to me is I'm not used to dealing with people with this low of self-esteem. She says and does whatever she thinks people wanna hear. I personally thought that when you aged you grew out of this, but obviously not. She has been in abusive relationship before & is in therapy. I can tell she's not happy or well, she's losing a lot of weight & flying off the handle, but she won't talk to me about this stuff. And after what happened sat. (she said she was coming over for a party on sat. on friday & texted me after it had started that she wasn't coming) my hubby wants me to write her off. But I feel bad for her, but I don't know how to fix someone that cares so much about others opinions. Just frustrated. Thanks for listening.
Well similar situations keep happening. They got engaged in July & were planning a wedding for Oct. One day in August I asked if the wedding was still on for Oct. & she said yes. Her & him eloped the next day. Not that I care, it's just she could of said something like I'm not sure we're looking at a couple different options.
Since they've been married she lets him totally control her life. It's not his fault, I've known him a long time & he's not abusive or anything, but if you let him walk on you he will. And the thing that's really pissing me off, is she keeps trying to make plans with me, but won't follow through because she's too much of a chicken sh*t to tell him it's something she really wants to do. He makes her request money in writing when ever she wants additional funds. I would almost understand this if he was the primary bread winner, but they both work. I'm pretty sure if she would say I ain't doing this, he'd let it go, but she's so afraid of him not liking her.
The thing that really gets to me is I'm not used to dealing with people with this low of self-esteem. She says and does whatever she thinks people wanna hear. I personally thought that when you aged you grew out of this, but obviously not. She has been in abusive relationship before & is in therapy. I can tell she's not happy or well, she's losing a lot of weight & flying off the handle, but she won't talk to me about this stuff. And after what happened sat. (she said she was coming over for a party on sat. on friday & texted me after it had started that she wasn't coming) my hubby wants me to write her off. But I feel bad for her, but I don't know how to fix someone that cares so much about others opinions. Just frustrated. Thanks for listening.