Wow..i could write a book

[paula1961]

Well girls...I don't even know where to begin! I have had so much stress going on in my life over the past 7 months, I just am at the end of my rope so to speak! I found out on Valentines day that I have a one month old grand daughter. She belongs to my 27 year old baby son. They had a paternity test done and it was positive. I will be meeting her for the first time on Monday. Also...my oldest son( the father of my 3 older grandkids) is having a new son on March 17 and Ryan will be one on March 18th!!! All I can say is WOW....is there such a thing as baby over load???????? It's a long story and I don't even know how to begin telling you all about it. I have wanted to but figured my fingers would cramp up trying to type the whole sorted thing lol! Anyway...my baby son got himself into a relationship with a girl he cares nothing about and is now in a relationship with a girl he really loves but now has a daughter with the one he didn't care anything about:confused: the little girl looks just like him. I saw pix of her. My oldest son got divorced from his wife...the mother of his 3 kids and married another girl that has a 3 yr old daughter and is going to be the mother of a new son....:eek: Does any of this make sense??? I just keep telling myself.......it will all be ok. Shew..I am so stressed out! Please keep me and my family in your prayers!:)

[Blueyes]

As usual, I'm a little confused:rolleyes: Is the person your oldest son with now Ryan's mother?
You know Paula, there is not a thing in the world that we can do about our "grown" kids decisions! We can only love them and pray for them and hope everything turns out for the best. Congrats on your new granddaughter! What is her name? I know it must be awkward for you, especially since your younger son has a girlfriend she really likes. I hope they can work through it all.
I'm sorry you are so stressed. It seems like when it rains, it pours! We are here for you!

[paula1961]

Thanks Betsi and you are so right about us not being able to control their lives after they get older! And no...i didn't mean for you to think that my oldest son is now with Ryan's mom lol! My oldest son that was married to my 3 older grandkids Mom met a new woman that has a 3 yr old little girl, married the woman and is having a new son next month. I guess you understand now why I hadn't posted anything about any of this......:o:eek:

[paula1961]

Oh and the new grand daughters name is Lucy Ann..I will post pix after I meet her Monday. I must say that even though the situation is not the best to say the least....I already love this special little girl. She is the innocent one in this mess. Say prayers for her...I've never met her Mom but I did talk with her on the phone today and she was very nice to me and was very open about letting me know that she would never keep Lucy away from me. Time will tell about that but I am just going to take one day at a time.

[Gina]

OMG Paula sounds like a soap.. lol but seriously like Betsi said we have no control over our grown kid decisions. I wish everything goes right for you they are all your grandkids and I hope the granddaughter you are meeting will become a part of your life. You are a wonderful grandma and I hope that your stress goes away soon. Post some pics of the little ones.. hugs to you Paula you will survive all this slowly but surely.

[Shada]

I can understand your stress, and applaud you for for being so understanding and loving your Grandkids. They are the innocent ones.

Looking forward to seeing little Lucy Ann...

Families... a ongoing soap opera for sure.. I could tell stories about my family that nobody would believe!

[gja1000]

OMG! Paula! I suspected something was going on because you had not been on the board as much as usual. But I never thought it could be something like this! You know, I think when our kids do things that make us go, "huh???", it is even harder because there is nothing we can do about it. You just want to shake them and say "WAKE UP!", but of course you can't, so that makes it even more frustrating.

Everything will work out - maybe not like we'd like it - but life goes one and we just do the best we can. On the bright side, you have a precious new grandbaby and you are such a great grandma - that is one lucky little girl to have you as her grandma! It is encouraging that her mom says you can be a part of her life! Once she gets to know you, I feel certain she will keep her word!

Life is just FULL of twists and turns, isn't it!

[Janet]

First off sweet Paula.....CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! What a wonderful gift...a new granddaughter. I know it's easier said than done....but just enjoy your precious Lucy Ann and let the stress go to the wayside. You are such a great grandmother and Lucy Ann is one lucky little girl. Can't wait for pictures!!!

[judy]

Wow Paula! This is stressful, but I also think it is wonderful! The more people you love, the happier you are. Five grandchildren is a blessing, and I hope that it does work out that you have good relationships with all of them.

I know that when my daughter got to be in her 20's, I had no control over what she did....and now I have Mackenzie! Brandon and Kassidy were born after they got married.

The best thing for me was to accept that she was an adult and to do my best to not get too involved in their decisions. It took several years, but I have done the best I could.

You better set up a Christmas fund!

[paula1961]

Thanks girls!! You all are so understanding!! I'm looking so forward to meeting little Lucy tomorrow. She was born on Jan. the 18th. The paternity test results came in on Valentine's day! It's been stressful but now that I know she is ours, I must say that I am excited that I have a new granddaughter! I'm actually going "Baby Lucy" shopping today:D I just hope that my son can get over the shock of knowing for sure that he is a Dad!! Everybody makes mistakes in our lives and we just have to keep our heads up and go on and try to make the best of the situation.

And Judy.......you are soooooo right..I am going to have to get a job or something lol!

[lynne b]

Paula, Congrats on the newest g-baby and also the g-baby to come. It's always exciting to have new babies in the family. My next baby will be a g-g-baby, but not for a few more years i hope.

Seems like there have been alot of babies on here this past year, enjoy them!!

[Blueyes]

LUCY ANN!! What an adorable name!!

[gja1000]

I saw her pic on FB - OMG! she is adorable!!! :)

[Janet]

I did too!!! Lucy Ann is beautiful...how exciting!

[Lindsey]

I saw her on facebook too! She's adorable!

[judy]

She really is a beautiful little baby girl!

[Blueyes]

What a precious baby!! Loveable Lucy:)

[JJJ]

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!

How exciting and the best part is that your just the grandma. You give out nothing but love, kisses and lots of hugs. This should not weight you down at all. You just enjoy the best parts. Let your boy's deal with the stress you already did your part and now it's there turn to do theirs.

Pictures please :D

[DianaB]

What a wonderful......and startling surprise!!!!!!! A new baby granddaugher!!! She's a very blessed little girl and coming into a wonderful family!!!!

You don't have to explain everything because we all have things that are hard to share but we're here if you need to vent or chat about it.

You know that we're going to need pictures of little Lucy!!!!!

[paula1961]

Thanks everyone! She is so precious! I went down there yesterday and spent the day. That was the first time that I met here Mom too! She was nice. But this is a very difficult situation for my son. He is very much in love with his girlfriend..not the Mom of Lucy! I try to tell him that we all make mistakes and we just have to go on with our lives. But he is definitely having a hard time, please say a prayer for him. He's a good guy. And this is his first child. Sheww I'm so stressed:rolleyes:

[DianaB]

I can understand how stressful this all is for both of you. Prayers for all of you that are involved.