Yes, I am very thankful that she still has a clear mind. Granted when it comes to the Dr. telling her everything, it confuses her. That's why I go with her. She's never had to go to a Dr. or be in a hospital (except for having us kids) until 2 years ago. Mom has been blessed with great health her whole life, so I guess it's not unusual for this to happen as she ages.

Janet, I know your relationship with your mother has not been the best. It is wonderful that you can be there for her when she and you are going through all of this. She obviously values your opinion, even if she may be asking so she won't have to be the one to decide. I'm sure whatever the decision, all will workout for the best. One thing to consider is that as you age, healing is much slower. Even if she has the surgery now, she my not feel up to making the trip to Florida in January. She may want to make the trip before the surgery just in case.

There is so much to consider, but over all, remember you are being a wonderful daughter!!!!!!!! You are not being selfish at all!!!