Janet, you are very loved and APPRECIATED on this board for your MANY wonderful qualities. It's too bad that someone right under your nose doesn't see and appreciate them!

I'm sorry, Janet, that Rick is being........well,........a man!!! Sometimes they can be so insensitive. I have a solution.......I'll trade you one selfish MIL for your husband!!! Believe me....you'd soon want him back!!!! Vent away any time!!!!

Thanks ladies....what would I do without you???

Vent anytime Janet!!
I have been single and loving it for a few years now. You make me remember why!!
I love having control of my life. From what I eat, to what I watch on TV, and of course the time spent on computer.
I wish you luck in your future. Remember, it is YOUR future.
Do what makes you happy. Be strong!!!

Janet please wipe away those tears. No man is worth aggraviation. My husband is not a coffee drinker but I am . I have a solution for you.. Go invest in a Tassimo or Krups one cup coffee maker. My kids brought me one last Christmas and I love it.. The coffee disks are a little expensive but I buy at Bed and Bath with coupons. I love it!!

Janet you deserve so much better, if your not leaving shortly you need to make your life more enjoyable. I don't know if you have girlfriends nearby but you need to have a social life, get out do things that you enjoy.. Don't sit home and fret you can't make Rick change he needs to want to do that. But you can change you..Do things and show him that you don't need him to be a happier person.

We are always here for you so vent all you want.. Like the others said you deserve to be happy , your a wonderful woman and mother.. I love you to!!

Loved your post Shada...thank you. To me your life sounds really good.


Gina...it's really not just the coffee...it's what set me off...lol. This morning for another instance....the wind had been blowing all night, there are always drifts in front of the garage and in front of my bus. Drifts for the guys were busted through and a path made. I go out to start my bus and well...I have to dig myself out.

My thought....if I have to do everything myself anyway....what do I need him for? I have teeth to get fixed, better job to find and I will have my time...one way or another. I'm not one to give up ....

Good for you Janet! Live your life for yourself. It's terrible when two people are unhappy in a marriage, but if one can't care enough to even try there's not much more you can do. You deserve to be a happy person, and Ricky deserves to have a happy mother, and you are more than capable of doing everything you dream of doing. We all love you!

Betsi, you are my new hero :)

Janet, I hope they have given you a little more of a break lately. You are one strong woman, sometimes we all get overwhelmed once we hit a certain point. It is healthy vent, no need to feel guilty. We are your friends and we love you!

Janet I know that the coffee is not the problem just giving you a short term solution or just make the dam coffee and tell him not to touch it!! He is very inconsiderate and not acting like a man at all.. sorry to say this but come on making you shovel your own way that really stinks.

In reply to Shada its wonderful that she feels that way, but if I may add something to this equation YOU shoud be able to do all of that even if your married. I had problems awhile back and did marriage counceling.. THAT woke up my husband big time he realized I was not joking about leaving.. I became independent and now I DO WHAT I WANT... I am just trying to make suggestions so that you see that if your not leaving him you can't be miserable day after day . You deserve some happiness for life is short . Talk to him put it all out on the table if you haven't told him how you feel..

I am no expert , just trying to help you out...

You have helped Gina... more than you'll ever know. I pretty much do what I want, go where I want to go...etc. For the most part I'm a very happy person. I just have a lousy marriage.. :) I've thought about counceling, but I don't know if I want it to work. The feelings just aren't there. Maybe a trial separation would be a good idea...I don't know. I do know I can't support myself right now...not driving a bus. Right now though...I can handle it.

You ladies are the best and sure know how to make me smile. I love ya all!

Having enough money is essential Janet. I have faith in your judgement. You will do whatever it takes to be happy! Knowing what a loving Mom you are, I'm sure Ricky's needs are a priority too.

Thanks Judy....you're right....Ricky is number 1.