This recruiter sounds a bit over anxious and more than a little unprofessional. He should be respectful of your wishes about contacting you during working hours. Sounds like you are considered a good candidate and he is excited about the prospect of fitting you with that job and getting paid quickly.

He will definitely want to know reasons for you not wanting to continue to pursue the position. You need to be nice to him and think through what you want to say. Don't burn any bridges. You many need him someday. If he likes you, he will remember you and maybe even years down the road when he matures a little he may come across a job he feels you would be great for and contact you again. Once they get to know you, they seem to keep contact until you just flat tell them you are absolutely not interested in making a change at all, and it's never a good idea to do that until you are nearing retirement. ;)

And it is good to discuss the interview with him. He may be able to give you some pointers for doing better next time. We all have room to learn and improve!!

The recruiter just called me AGAIN at work and left a message, and he seems to be annoyed with me not answering. He was like "I need you to call me back because we can't just leave them hanging. I got your email but obviously there's a lot more we need to discuss. If you're interested or not interested, that's fine but you still need to call me" I don't know why it bothers me but it does. His tone of voice just made it sound like I'm completely ignoring him and I need to grow up or something. I've TRIED calling him!

I sure hope you can get this recruiter to understand (in a nice way) not to call you at work and make it sound like an emergency. You'll have to explain it to him again, but then ask him if he understands.

Lindsey, I think it's so wonderful that you have to many options open to you. Just take your time and you'll find exactly the position that fits.