HAHA! That's funny!!!!:D

My husband died nearly a year ago. What is sex?

OMG! I am so sorry! :(

I'm so sorry to hear this. :( Sex is obviously something we take for granted. :(

you are so right!:(

I didn't mean to rain on anybody's parade, but the thought of being close to anyone other than my husband makes me sick to my stomach. I guess I'll live vicariously thru you guys!

I am so sorry to hear this...My condolences.

About 6 yrs ago I ordered Viagra online for my hubby thinkng it might help his "problem" and impress upon him that I was still interested. I got only 6 tablets to see if they would work before I ordered more. He tried them, they worked great and he never even finished using those 6. It's been a LONG dry spell and if I mention it, he gives me a dozen reasons about why it's dangerous for him to use the pills. (he sounds like he's reading it off the pamphlet that comes from the pharmacy even though he is perfectly healthy and had NO side affects when he used them.)

He rarely hugs me, maybe kisses me goodbye when he leaves each Sunday for work and doesn't want to discuss that I might have needs even if he doesn't. All intimacy between us is gone, so I just absorb myself in the kids, grandkids, the house, my job, etc. I seriously don't tell anyone this, but since you asked... :secret: I miss that aspect of life, but not enough to leave him over it, and he's made it clear he's not going to change.

May I put my two cents in. I don't think that he is fair to you. You are still a young woman who has needs and wants. He is being very selfish, like you said its not that he is unhealthy. You are filling your void in your children, grandkids etc. which is a good thing , but you should be number one now. I am not a therapist, but maybe going to a marriage counseler would help. We all need to feel wanted and loved. If you can accept it then you have made your choice and who is anyone to say differently. As long as your happy within...Is he good to you in other ways? Sex usually dwindles as you get older but much older.

The only person I have sex with right now is myself (no man in my life)! LOLOL Just bust out with the toys and extra batteries, and I'm satisfied. :D

Now for my public service announcement :p : If you've never tried a vibrator, go out and get one NOW!!!!!!!!! I don't have an orgasm from just sex, never have (I'm going on 30). But, if you have a man who's comfortable with it, he'll "let" you use it during sex. Man is that 100% better! :p

I am so sorry. :(