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Tink 09-11-2007 12:41 PM

I refuse
 
I refuse to let things get me down today. I've decided to rehome Montana as soon as possible and have ads up and emails sent to all my local dog loving friends in hope that someone will have room and the compassion to take her in.
I told exactly what's going on with her, and offered her WITH AKC papers for the price of having her spayed with a promise of a full refund when I see proof it's been done.

It's the best I can do and will have to be good enough. Now I have to wait for someone to call.
Cross your fingers someone calls soon!

Mandy 09-11-2007 01:03 PM

Yup.... hope that baby finds a loving forever home SOON!!

Tink 09-11-2007 02:22 PM

My best friend has been in my life since before either of us could walk or talk. Our parents were friends before either of us was born so we've just always been together. She is one SMART cookie and is always there for me regardless what's wrong. She called me today and has given me what I think is an awesome idea, so I've placed close to 20 calls to local vet clinics, rescues and humane societies looking for a litter or even a single baby for Montana to adopt. Amazingly, none had a need right now but several said that could change in 5 minutes, so I left my name and number and made a few new friends in the process. LOL

It would just do my heart good to be able to give Montana her own babies and create a positive out of this very sad situation. So please all who are of the praying kind... lets pray that Montana gets her babies whether they go WOOF or meow... I doubt it matters as long as she finds something to love that can love her back.

AngieDoogles 09-11-2007 02:46 PM

What a wonderful idea Tink! Sounds like you have a really great friend. :)

Mandy 09-12-2007 12:16 AM

Now that IS a wonderful idea!!!! Your friend sounds like a wonderful person, it's very comforting to have someone like that in your life. Hope, and pray Montana finds a baby or babies very soon to help her through this. Please do keep us posted.

yorkiekids 09-12-2007 06:20 AM

Sounds like a great idea.

DianaB 09-12-2007 09:03 AM

Tink, can't you let Montana nurse some of Canada's puppies?

AngieDoogles 09-12-2007 11:16 AM

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Originally Posted by DianaB
Tink, can't you let Montana nurse some of Canada's puppies?

I was wondering this too, but thought there must be an obvious reason I was missing. lol

Tink 09-12-2007 11:47 AM

I questioned this myself and decided against it for 2 reasons.

The 2 females have been best buddies for years and have always been together. As such, they're part of the same "pack". By giving any of Canadas pups to Montana I'd be upsetting the balance between the 2 females forever. They could very easily learn to hate each other and not be able to peacefully co-exist again. Canada will not give hers up willingly and in taking them from her, I'm also taking her rank as the "top female" or breeder of the "pack".

IF for any reason Montana wouldn't be successfull in nursing the pups after several days, there's a good chance Canada would them refuse to take them back and I could end up with 2 dogs that hate each other, pups at risk, and a long term hierarchy problem that wouldn't mend.

Right now Canada is doing an excellent job and the pups are growing and doing great. I really don't want to mess with that. Pack mentality is not something to be taken lightly.

AngieDoogles 09-12-2007 11:50 AM

Wow Tink! I never would've thought of all that. You are definitely a good Mommy to those girls! I hope you are able to find some pups for Montana soon. I get so sad when I think about her situation... :(

Mandy 09-12-2007 11:56 AM

Tink, im glad those girls ended up with you, and not some other ignorent person that couldnt care less!! You are doing a wonderful job! :thumbup:

Tink 09-12-2007 12:21 PM

Awwww thanks ladies. I do love my dogs and try to do what I can for them.

I got into studying animal psychology when we had horses. We used to buy weanlings that had never been handled by humans and were just leaving their mamas. Some were docile and willing to attach to the nearest taker. Some were terrified and frantic to avoid us. Some were of the mind that to survive they must defeat us... the old fight or flight mentality animals are known for. So in order to effectively bond with each of the babies I had to learn to think as they do and work around their particular reaction to bring them to trusting and cooperating with me.

I'm sure many would have thought I was nuts if they'd have watched some of the silly things I did to win over the foals. I'd sit for hours on a fallen log in their pasture and just sing quietly to myself. It reminded them I was still there, gave them the chance to approach me and check me out (or not) depending on their state of mind, and let them see others that did come to me getting their ears rubbed, manes nibbled (a greeting in horse language) and actually enjoying it!

The ones who wanted to attack me weren't big enough to really hurt me, so I learned to speak to them in their own language too. I'd wait till they made a threatening move, spin and stomp a foot behind me in their direction to let them know I was capable of threats too... then I'd turn away and ignore them to show them I didn't see them as a threat. If they approached me quietly, I stayed calm and still and let them sniff and get used to my scent gradually.

It was all much more involved than this, but was just fascinating how well it worked. Once I was able to communicate with them in a way they understood, they came around a lot quicker and with less fear.

There was only once that I was actually scared by any of them and that was a young stud who's hormones had just started raging. He'd been a real teddy bear to this point, but one day I walked into the pasture and he decided to challenge me for control. He charged directly at me snorting and shaking his head to let me know it was time for a showdown. I admit my knees were shaking. He was at least 700 lbs by this time and seriously could have beat me into the ground if he chose to. So I froze and just stared him down. He came so close that he slid to a stop and put his nose out and touched my hand. Then he flipped his tail and walked away as if nothing had happened. My not responding told him he wasn't big enough yet to be taken seriously and he accepted that without question because I was the boss. LOL I had to go in the house and check my underwear. ;)

The same kind of stuff works with dogs. If we just remember to use it. It's too easy to try to see them as humans and treat them as such, when in truth, it's us who have to adapt to their ways if we really want to have successful relationships with them.

**getting off my soapbox now** it's one of my favorite subjects obbviously.

Mandy 09-12-2007 01:10 PM

Hats off to you, i would LOVE to study animal psycology!! I might look into it when things have settled down here. Thanks for sharing about the horses, i so enjoyed reading it. You are right, we have to think as they think... several times, ive began reading the dog whisperer, but get distracted every time.

AngieDoogles 09-12-2007 06:10 PM

Wow! That's so interesting Tink. There's a class on animal psychology at my university, but I just don't have the time to take it with my course schedule... :(

DianaB 09-13-2007 08:14 AM

That's pretty neat, Tink. It's the same mentality that the Dog Whisperer uses! It just seemed like a good idea to put some of the puppies with Montana. I didn't think about how it would affect their relationship.


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