I'm a little annoyed!!
 

My husband and son belong to Boy Scouts. I firmly believe Scouts is a plus for any child, boy or girl. They have many campouts and it gives me time alone once in awhile.

Here goes....They just had their fund raiser at Ft. Ouiatenon this past weekend. Then on Monday evening they had their regular weekly Scout meeting. I was suppose to attend a Yorkie meetup on the 14th, but it was cancelled so I thought the three of us could get a lot done before it really gets cold. Well, someone is working on their Eagle project and the boys want to go....for 3 freaking hours!!!! It ALWAYS ends up being longer. I'm getting a little annoyed that my husband spends so much money for Scouts when the troop should be paying for it and now, it is taking up so much time when they are needed around here. I can't do it all myself.

I'm not sure how I'm going to handle it, but I am pissed!!! AND my husband knows it. Can't discuss it with him right now, because I'm sure I would explode. He is going to have to choose I'm afraid which is most important. I'm afraid there is going to be a showdown.....and I'm not willing to lose at this point!

Can fully understand how you feel, how about putting it all down on paper for your hubby to read then you will not get into a shouting match and he may understand how strongly you feel. This is what I do because when I am angry I never seem to get my piomt across without it being a case of who shouts loudest. Good luck.:thumbup:

I wouldn't do a damn thing if I were you. I would let it all pile up until your hubby notices and when he asks why you aren't doing anything, tell him that you are waiting on him to help you. Make it something that he would notice fast. Like do you do his laundry? Quit doing it! Quit cooking...he will notice when there's no dinner to eat. Don't do anything else until you have his help. Men are selfish. They aren't going to do anything unless there's something in it for them.

I love the way you think!!!!! :thumbup: :thumbup:

I'm just mean. My hubby says that I'm "so vindictive." But if he does something to make me mad, I don't let him know that I am angry. All I do is say, "Alright, we'll see," and then walk away. That is usually enough to scare him into doing whatever I want him to do. hehehehe Men are very simple creatures. You just have to know how to work 'em. ;)

Maybe you should teach a class, I know I would want to join in...LOL Never too old to learn!!:)

Janet, I completely understand the feeling that scouts seems to come first, except my mom is the one I got it from.

It is very frustrating and I agree with Rebecca.....don't do anything and tell him you are waiting for his help if he (that is IF) he notices.

Or if they are inconvenienced in any way....:rolleyes:

My mom did that one time! She has always been a homemaker without any help from my dad. She took care of 3 kids... kept a spotless house... cooked... waited on my Dad hand-and-foot... he never lifted a finger around the house.

It all started with a stupid argument over a phone bill... and BAM!!!! The next thing you know she was on a total boycott! Didn't take him long to apologize to her, either!

I guess washing his own dirty drawers, cleaning up after himself and fixing his own dinner wasn't as easy as he thought it was!!!:D

I LOVED it!!!! You should give it a try, Janet!

And just think, Janet... she's a newlywed! Hahahaha!

You're a quick study, Rebecca!!:p

I do have to admit, I love the ideas shared here alot!! I just don't think I could let things go that long....LOL Things like that don't bother him....for instance, he has a four car garage that you can't get a car into. There is so much crap just all over the place that you can't walk more the 3 steps without climbing over something or tripping. I just don't go into his garage anymore. If by chance he puts something in my garage....I just take it and THROW it into his.

HAHAHA I learned it from my mom and my grandmother. :D If someone depends on you for something, then you are in control. I do a lot around the house, but I also demand that my husband helps out. If he doesn't do his part, then neither do I!!!!

Janet, I promise your husband will notice if you stop cooking dinner or stop doing his laundry. Of course he doesn't care about the garage being a mess....out of sight, out of mind, remember? But he will notice something that he is used to getting everyday and one day it is just not there. Trust me on this one. ;) You might just have to think for a second to come up with something really good, but you can do it!

Oh boy, if I tried that, I'd come home to a filthy house and two skeletons, one of my husband and the other of the dog!! My husband would rather starve than make something to eat and if I didn't feed my furball, he'd let him starve too. Not because he is lazy or neglectful, it's that he is a teacher and is extremely overwhelmed by his work. He will forget to eat if I don't remind him. I actually feel sorry for him.

I can handle the no cooking and doing his laundry, but I can not let my house get in disarray, just can't do it!!! LOL

Ok, Janet, that is what you need to do. Don't cook and don't do his laundry! You better stick to it, now! :cool: