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Originally Posted by Janet
Judy, I hate that you have to deal with this. Why does he have to act that way and how can Jessie stand it? To each their own I guess. You'd think he'd want to be extra nice to his MIL for his wife's sake. He must really be strange.
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He IS extra nice to me
Why Jessie puts up with this is an interesting question, and really, the only one that matters in the end. She knows he is an ahole, although she defends him to the end. They are in love, after 14 years together, 3 children, she has a very serious illness, and he is out of work more often than he should be. When I am with them, I actually enjoy myself because they enjoy each other. Go figure! But, the heart wants what the heart wants, and another couple's marriage can be a total mystery to everyone else.
She has also told me that she decided, years ago, that she wants to stay married to him. So, where somebody else might fight for "right," she will not.
She gets her way after a while anyway, but gives in to his nonsense in the moment. I obviously never could do that, having been divorced twice. I'm more the "it's my way or the highway" type. I have to say that I respect her decision.
He may be an ahole, but he does have many good traits. He is not abusive, working or not, keeps his family going, and loves his wife and children above all else.
Anyway, I do love him because of his good side, and because it is better to love than focus on the things I don't like.
I'm over being angry at him. It takes too much energy, and, like a lot of you have said, keeping the peace comes first at some point.
I was talking to him about the floor yesterday, and he suggested that I ask Lowe's how much they would charge to put the floor in. I asked him if he wants the job - it's a yes or no question - and he said yes, but if they can do it for less, I should take it. So, I guess he got over his hissy fit.
My grandmother told my aunt when she was growing up that the best way to get through family life is to "wiggle through" each day.