[Lindsey]

Thanks for the reply Betsi. His family really comes off as quite religious, they don't miss a day of church, pray before every meal, etc. But at the same time it seems that the values church should be teaching haven't really been instilled in their day-to-day lives. Without that, what's the point?

Not being as generous as me isn't a problem. Not being generous AT ALL is. I believe that after marriage, all income would be OUR income, and even if I stayed at home to raise OUR children, I should still half a 50% say in how our income is spent. How could we teach those values to our future children if both parents can't even agree? To me, helping a human is more important than having a pile of money in the bank. To him, he always needs the money.

If I die tomorrow, I want to know that I lived a good life and made a difference. How much money you have when you die doesn't matter to God.

It's really tough to discuss this stuff with him because he was raised with the mentality of "Don't spend a penny if you don't have to" and like you said, he will not change.

I'm still young, I know, and I've never been this serious with someone before. I don't know how big or small this could become in the bigger picture.