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Willow · 11-01-2006, 09:52 AM

Hi guys. Sorry for not being here much. Yes we are better and to answer questions we have been married 8 years, together 10, and we normally have a great relationship and the dogs have never really bothered him before. In fact, until this incident, Gizmo could do no wrong and he would fly off the handle at anyone who even threatened to harm her.

We have actually had a rough week. His great uncle passed last Friday and the calling hours were on Monday and the funeral was on Tuesday. This was more than an uncle to him, they were good friends and hunting buddies. His Aunt didn't call until the next day and them my father in law refused to tell us where the services were being held and what time. Ernie was upset and he was taking it out on us. We had a sitter all lined up and I had time off work so we could go. Ernie (hubby) is pretty upset still. He just found out that another Aunt passed several months ago and no one told him. His dad slipped up and "let the cat out of the bag". My husband is going through a tough time emotionally right now. He feels like he is being purposely kept from his family and he isn't dealing well. I told him it was ok to be upset, but that it is not ok to take it out on me and the kids or the furkids. He did apologise shortly after that happened and even made me coffee and went with me to look at a house we are interested in, but I could tell he was still upset over his uncle and his aunt and upset at his dad for not telling him and for not giving us arrangement details and the Uncles wife won't talk to us at all. In fact, she is threatening to sell everything off and not let any of the family have anything from Uncle Buddy.

So right now it is mostly Ernie needs time to heal and to get over the hurt he is feeling right now. His family always seems to hurt him. First his brother, then his sister, and now his dad. We will get through it, it is just going to be an emotional roller coaster for a bit. But atleast now he is talking to me and not just lashing out in anger. He even took Gizmo to bed with him that night and was kissing her and telling her he is sorry and that she was his little girl.

Oh, and the kids and I aren't going anywhere. We have worked too hard and invested too much in this place, our marraige, and our family to just toss it away over one little disagreement. I gotta learn to not say things in anger.

11-01-2006, 09:52 AM	#8
Willow Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 258	Hi guys. Sorry for not being here much. Yes we are better and to answer questions we have been married 8 years, together 10, and we normally have a great relationship and the dogs have never really bothered him before. In fact, until this incident, Gizmo could do no wrong and he would fly off the handle at anyone who even threatened to harm her. We have actually had a rough week. His great uncle passed last Friday and the calling hours were on Monday and the funeral was on Tuesday. This was more than an uncle to him, they were good friends and hunting buddies. His Aunt didn't call until the next day and them my father in law refused to tell us where the services were being held and what time. Ernie was upset and he was taking it out on us. We had a sitter all lined up and I had time off work so we could go. Ernie (hubby) is pretty upset still. He just found out that another Aunt passed several months ago and no one told him. His dad slipped up and "let the cat out of the bag". My husband is going through a tough time emotionally right now. He feels like he is being purposely kept from his family and he isn't dealing well. I told him it was ok to be upset, but that it is not ok to take it out on me and the kids or the furkids. He did apologise shortly after that happened and even made me coffee and went with me to look at a house we are interested in, but I could tell he was still upset over his uncle and his aunt and upset at his dad for not telling him and for not giving us arrangement details and the Uncles wife won't talk to us at all. In fact, she is threatening to sell everything off and not let any of the family have anything from Uncle Buddy. So right now it is mostly Ernie needs time to heal and to get over the hurt he is feeling right now. His family always seems to hurt him. First his brother, then his sister, and now his dad. We will get through it, it is just going to be an emotional roller coaster for a bit. But atleast now he is talking to me and not just lashing out in anger. He even took Gizmo to bed with him that night and was kissing her and telling her he is sorry and that she was his little girl. Oh, and the kids and I aren't going anywhere. We have worked too hard and invested too much in this place, our marraige, and our family to just toss it away over one little disagreement. I gotta learn to not say things in anger.