[Janet]

In the state I am in at the moment, I don't know what kind of advice I can give. I think you already know in your heart what to do, because you posted it. If you can help them to better themselves and they are really trying, that's great.

If you're helping them and they are not improving, then you are enabling. We all want is best for our kids, but when they become adults...we can tell them our opinion, one time, then the rest is up to them.

You're a great person and friend Lynne, don't second guess yourself.