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I don't like the idea of co-habition. It's fine for others, but it just wasn't for me & I'm so glad I didn't do it before I got married. Backstory: My husband & I are both loners, we have always lived alone & liked it that way. When we moved in together the first 6 months were awful, I couldn't find a job, I was sure I'd made a mistake, I was sure he wasn't the one. But then I read a book, forget what it's called, but it's about preparing to be married & it said that even though you've married the one things won't be perfect. Had we lived together first I might have left, thinking he wasn't the right guy for me & that would of been the biggest mistake of my life. He is the one for me it's just that adjustment period was hard for us.
I'm glad I married him, marriage is a choice & a commitment & people don't get that anymore. They marry people because of this flutter in their stomach, which doesn't always transfer to a long standing commitment. That flutter fades, but if you marry your best friend that will always be there. i don't think people understand that about marriage, I had great examples of what marriage should be like in my family so it worked out for me.
Sorry, I think I went off topic. Marriage good, co-habition not for me.
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