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Originally Posted by tumblnstar
the way phil looked last night when he was talking to me.. i knew that he was sincere. but i most definately let him know that the way he spoke to me was unacceptable. and now he knows that the consequences of another outburst will be losing me. i just hope he can learn to open up and get away from the patterns of his father and childhood.
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Gosh, just make a promise to yourself. If he EVER acts like that again, pack up and leave. PERIOD! I came from a relationship where I was yelled at, told I was worthless, abused...and then next thing I know, he's sooo sorry and he didn't mean it, and it was all due 'to his bad childhood, his dad beat him and abandoned him, mom wasn't supportive, etc." Those are terrible things, but THATS NO EXCUSE! I had to learn the hard way, and I beat myself up about it all the time for being so stupid and not leaving! It sounds so similar to your situation...I cooked, cleaned,... ...everything.
I'm sorry to be so negative, I just don't want you to get hurt...I want to help people, with the knowledge that I learned from a horrible past.
On a brighter side, I sincerely hope that he's sorry, and he didn't mean it, and that it won't ever happen again. Just be careful please!!!!