I am late reading this because I was on vacation in sunny Florida.. have a new love for Florida now!
Want to say a Happy Belated Birthday to Jessica!
I know you are proud of your girl. Jessica has grown up to be a very nice woman. I think it was really kind of her to not cash your check, to think that what you do for her and her family with the use of your credit card is a birthday gift when she does use it.
How about a birthday lunch or dinner, just the two of you alone? I bet she would love that!
One on one with each other to just visit and enjoy each others company.