[Gina]

Gayle you have said it beautifully as usual. Janet I can understand exactly what you are going through. I myself was in the same situation many years ago, when both my parents were alive. I for one was the sandiwich generation where I was in between raising my children and taking care of my elderly sick parents. I was the last one born after soon many years and the only girl to. The responsibility was on my shoulders, I had three brothers but one had passed away young many years ago.

To much to get into but Janet sons don't do much sometimes even if they like to they have their wives complaining in the background. I was under so much stress back then, my husband was a good SIL I do have to give him credit. He did a lot for my parents for we lived in the same house but different apartments. One thing you have to remember and I don't know if your mom is doing this yet. But once they are old and sick they don't like to be left alone much and my mom use to complain everytime I went out , I was not allowed a social life lol and my mom had an aide stay with her a few hrs. of the day. You just have to put your foot down.

In hindsight if I had known what I do now I may have done things a little different for myself. Fast forward to today I still get digs from an older brother as to what did you do for parents.. not appreicative at all.. But you know what I know what I did and God does to.. I don't have to prove to no one especially when they were hardly there... I do miss my parents and life has changed. But you are one person Janet and you can only do what you can...

So Janet vent all you like and if you ever want to talk call me... hugs to you....