[DIANE W]

Janet......I'm so sorry you are going through this, i can only imagine how you feel. You are very wise Janet, and i know you will get through it, it is so upsetting, i can feel how your heart is breaking, our kids mean the world, regardless of their age.

If i was in your shoes, i think i would also be telling Rick, a few home truths, he is old enough now to make his own mistakes, but if he still wants to stay home, he needs to start contributing. Explain to him why you dont like her, but agree with him its his decision, but tell him its hurting you so much, and you believe eventually he will see you are right. Tell him you will always be there if he needs you.

Janet, i dont see how your relationship can continue with Rick, if you cant accept her, how can it?

Do you think in time you may get to like her, maybe she will turn her life around, with Ricks positive influence, and despite her upbringing, she may come good?

Can you not give him some more time, i know its easy to say, but i would be so afraid of him leaving, through arguments and bad feelings, its very hard to take back whats been said and done, i would hate you to become permanently estranged.

Take care, thinking of you.