Rebecca, I just read your thread , I am happy that you both got a date night out.
As far as what you posted about your frustrations, it can be very, but your hubby is working alot of hours. I can understand him being tired and not wanting to wake up in the middle of the night. My advice to you is when he is off and not working such long hrs. compromise let him take over the responsiblity that night to give you a break. Just keep the communication open at all times and you will work things out.