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Originally Posted by Gina
Cindy, I have to disagree with you here, Viewing porn is not a form of cheating, no way, no how. Cheating is when your spouse has an emotional or phycial affair with another women. Not viewing on computer or magazines. I have to agree with Sheryl and Rebecca here. I am married a long time and at the begining of our marriage my husband and I did watch some tapes together it is suppose to enhance your own sex life , spice it up. I haven't watched one in years, I have come across websites that my hubby has frequent. I have not confronted him or care to, who cares, I am a very secure woman and am not worried about him running off with another woman, this is fantasy besides. . Cindy don't end your marriage over something like this. When other aspects are good, if it bothers you don't go looking where you dont belong...You need to trust one another.
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I have to agree with Gina on this one. I by far am NOT one to ever get into debates or such...But I always feel free to speak my mind, LOL. (My husband never disagree's w/ me on this either. he heeee)
Anyway - Watching porn truly is by no means cheating. And I am NOT in anyway saying that this pertains to you, but I wonder at times that woman who are totally against their hubbies or bf's watching/reading porn maybe very insecure with their ownselves sexually??? I dunno, again this is just a thought and wonder.
I think that many girls are brought up to feel ashamed or embarrassed to feel "sexual". Yet, males are brought up to be strong and accepted to speak open about sex, masturbation, and porn, etc....
Then as the shy girls grow and find themselves facing "sexual situations" in a relationship they throw out the "oh it's wrong and you shouldn't do that card".
Again, I am not saying this directed towards anybody who posted about this...But I feel that it's perfectly ok for a women to feel sexual, to masturbate, to watch porn, read magazines, whatever. Just as I do for men. And, I feel a women grows to a maturity finally accepting herself as a sexual being. The woman who don't I almost feel sorry for because I think there are constant issues in the bedroom sorta say...
I'm no therapist by any means but these are just some of my thoughts on this subject.
I would truly HATE and be SADDENED to see a lovely marriage end just because a husband watched a porn for fantasy reasons or reads a Playboy magazine. And honestly, I really don't feel that a man will change to NOT do this if he already is just because he is asked by his gf or wife. Nor do I think it's really fair.
Now...if that hubby or bf is involved with child porn or such things that are waaaayyyy out there and it becomes totally disfunctional to himself, his marriage, or life, etc...Then yes, I think counceling might be the answer for such.
But for normal stuff - Don't sweat it. There are much worse things to deal with in this lifetime.