My parents have friends w/ two girls. Well when it was their time for a wedding the offer was given from the parents to their girls. Either a wedding or a down payment on a home. Well, I know for sure one of the girls opted for the wedding. I am not sure about their other daughter.
I myself would have picked the down payment to a house without a blink of an eye!
I feel weddings can be just as special small and quaint yet I do understand women who "want it all" for their weddings too.