[Janet]

My borther has two daughters. The older one is so sweet and caring. This younger one thinks eveyone owes her, because her mother gave in to everything. I've seen my brother at 58 years old, hop in his car and peel out (like a teenager) because he gets so upset and his wife always sides with their daughter.

Yes, he is excited for the wedding, but part of it is he won't have to keep supporting her, so he hopes. My brother and SIL still pay for this daughters car insurance and other things. She has a good paying job, but blows it. At 26 years old she still doesn't balance her check book. Uses the ATM and forgets to write it down and then goes to her mom who gives her money.

Yes you're right Sheryl, I'll go to the reception, but we won't be staying. I will take my son and once the drinks start taking over, we will leave, like I said, probably no more than an hour.

When I asked my SIL the other day how come Dusti wasn't paying for most of it since she lives with the guy, she told me that they can't afford anything. The guy she lives with isn't working....oh great...then why hurry and get married. Why not wait until they are financially stable. I mean, she already lives with him. I guess I'm just too old to understand. I know I probably made mistakes here and there with my son, but I used their parenting practices as what NOT TO DO, in raising my son. They think I'm too hard on him, but I know I'm not. He doesn't talk to me or my husband like we are dirt and we owe him, like my niece does her parents.

Oh and btw, it's not like this wedding is causing real problems...I just worry about my brother. He walked me down the aisle because Dad had passed by the time I got married. He's everything to me. I just don't like him being taken advantage of by his daughter or his wife. BUT, the good thing is, I do keep my opinions to myself and don't discuss it with them. They'll do what they want anyway, so it wouldn't do any good except cause hard feelings. I could never let something come between me and my brother. He has such a good heart.