[Janet]

Not sure what to think of that....????? MY personal opinion is no one can make you feel any thing unless you want to feel it. Love, anger, happiness...etc.

For instance....no one can make me angry unless I want to be angry..they can say all kinds of things to try and make me angry, but unless I let them get to me...I don't have to feel angry at all. I could choose to feel pity for them....I could choose to feel happy they are saying those things to me, because someone else might not have the self control to ignore it, or I could become angry...if I wanted.

You should never let someone make you feel a certain way....you should have control of your emotions. Now I'm not saying I do, by any means...but it's a work in progress.

A 'shrink' don't know how to spell the other word...LOL explained it to me this way.....two little kids are at the beach. This great big wave comes and knocks these two kids down. One gets up, scared, running to his mother, the other kid jumped up and down, excited, waiting for the next big wave to come.

It wasn't the wave that was scary...it was the way it was interpeted, the way is was received by each child.

Granted it's a little harder for a child to control their feelings and emotions, but as we grow into adults, it's something that should be strive for.