Sasha does have a valid point. I talked with an ex about the same issue. I found porn in his filing cabinet & confronted him asking if he did not find me attractive. I took it personally. He explained that alot of guys who look at or watch porn are picturing their significant other wearing the outfits or doing the acts. This I somewhat understood & agreed it wasn't me. After getting my self confidence back, I actually found that he was better when we looked at alittle together before hand. My husband now & I do not engage in those activities. It maybe because we are still pretty much "newlyweds"(married for 3 yrs), but I'm not completely closed to it in the future. The big let down is hiding it. I respect Cindy's decision not to want to be invovled & so should her hubby. I'm glad you two are beginning to work through it though
Congrats & I wish you both many, many more years in your long, happy marriage