I agree with the others Janet. I know it's hard, but try your best to focus on the present. The future will take care of itself. You never know what will happen...this may even bring you and your hubby closer!! Wouldn't that be amazing!? Try to stay positive and if things get tough, at least you have somewhere to vent and people who are willing to listen.
I'm glad your hubby is getting the medical attention he needs and hopefully he won't even need the surgery! Keep us posted. We're here for you!