[rivermom]

I am trying to think of myself in your position and how Id feel. Honestly, if I knew hubby was text msg'ng a female that I was not friends with I doubt Id be happy with it.

Hubby and I both have "couple" friends. Once in a great while I will call the guy friend but it's normally because hubby tells me too since he didn't have time. And usually there is a reason for such call.

And personally I have a guy buddy but both hubby and I are friends with. I contact him on a regular basis because it's horse related and my horse is in his care. Yes, we have hung out a time or two down at the river but there have always been other folks around. But...I don't sit and call him or text him "just to chat".

I realize it all depends on the situation at hand and in no way do I want to say no or yes to your situation. But honestly, a womens intuition is very STRONG. And if you are uncomfy w/ the situation then I feel you have every reason to stop that situation. Your marriage comes first, friends second imo. If ANY friend ever came between hubby and I, Id have to confront the situation and make changes to please my marriage. At times, it has called for losing a friend.

I do agree with the other posts in that it would be best to completely open up to hubby about it and express your feelings. There's a reason for your jealousy and I seriously doubt it's just because she is attractive.

I hope it all works out in the end because bottom line is the two of you are the priority, all else falls second.